#1 Mindset Shift You NEED to Build REAL Confidence!

Do you feel like you need to prove yourself? Who do you think you’re trying to impress? Today, Jay sits down with his close friend Lilly Singh for a transformative and deeply honest in-person conversation at the Ellie Caulkins Opera House in Denver. Known for being a trailblazer in digital media and late-night television, Lilly reflects on the hidden challenges behind being “the first”, from navigating cultural expectations to battling loneliness and self-doubt. Lilly shares how much of her early success was driven by the need to prove her worth to others, and how she is now shifting toward proving herself right instead of chasing outside validation. Together, Jay and Lilly explore the inner voices we all carry, from the critic to the voice of compassion, emphasizing the importance of practicing daily self-care to balance high standards with grace. Lilly shares her personal rituals such as journaling, naming her inner voices, and reframing failure as growth, while Jay emphasizes the transformative power of reflecting on the past as proof of resilience. Together, they remind us that even in moments of pressure and imperfection, we are not defined by our accomplishments but by the person we are becoming. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Turn Failure Into Growth How to Quiet Your Inner Critic How to Practice Daily Self-Compassion How to Live with Your Inner Voices How to Stop Chasing Outside Validation Every challenge you’ve faced so far has proven that you are stronger than you think, and every step forward is a reminder that you are capable of creating a life that feels true to you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:20 Growing Up Without Options 09:28 Realizing You Always Have a Choice 17:37 Committing to a Life of Growth 19:01 Learning to Stop Self-Blame 21:56 Breaking Free from Unrealistic Standards 27:55 Why Good Enough Is Enough 31:26 Living Alongside Self-Criticism 36:47 You Are More Than What You Do 41:32 Finding Strength in Past Resilience 44:42 Proving to Yourself You Can 48:25 Why Women Aren’t Taught About Their Bodies 52:40 Past, Present, and Future Reflections 59:39 Friendship That Stands the Test of Time Episode Resources: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfm4y4rHF5HGrSr-qbvOwOg https://www.instagram.com/lilly https://www.facebook.com/LillySingh/ https://www.tiktok.com/@lilly https://lillysinghbook.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty https://www.facebook.com/jayshetty/ https://x.com/jayshetty https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay/ https://www.youtube.com/@JayShettyPodcast http://jayshetty.me

Lilly SinghguestJay Shettyhost

Sep 17, 20251h 2mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: September 17, 2025
Duration: 1h 2m
Channel: Jay Shetty Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Do you feel like you need to prove yourself? Who do you think you’re trying to impress? Today, Jay sits down with his close friend Lilly Singh for a transformative and deeply honest in-person conversation at the Ellie Caulkins Opera House in Denver. Known for being a trailblazer in digital media and late-night television, Lilly reflects on the hidden challenges behind being “the first”, from navigating cultural expectations to battling loneliness and self-doubt. Lilly shares how much of her early success was driven by the need to prove her worth to others, and how she is now shifting toward proving herself right instead of chasing outside validation. Together, Jay and Lilly explore the inner voices we all carry, from the critic to the voice of compassion, emphasizing the importance of practicing daily self-care to balance high standards with grace. Lilly shares her personal rituals such as journaling, naming her inner voices, and reframing failure as growth, while Jay emphasizes the transformative power of reflecting on the past as proof of resilience. Together, they remind us that even in moments of pressure and imperfection, we are not defined by our accomplishments but by the person we are becoming. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Turn Failure Into Growth How to Quiet Your Inner Critic How to Practice Daily Self-Compassion How to Live with Your Inner Voices How to Stop Chasing Outside Validation Every challenge you’ve faced so far has proven that you are stronger than you think, and every step forward is a reminder that you are capable of creating a life that feels true to you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:20 Growing Up Without Options 09:28 Realizing You Always Have a Choice 17:37 Committing to a Life of Growth 19:01 Learning to Stop Self-Blame 21:56 Breaking Free from Unrealistic Standards 27:55 Why Good Enough Is Enough 31:26 Living Alongside Self-Criticism 36:47 You Are More Than What You Do 41:32 Finding Strength in Past Resilience 44:42 Proving to Yourself You Can 48:25 Why Women Aren’t Taught About Their Bodies 52:40 Past, Present, and Future Reflections 59:39 Friendship That Stands the Test of Time Episode Resources: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfm4y4rHF5HGrSr-qbvOwOg https://www.instagram.com/lilly https://www.facebook.com/LillySingh/ https://www.tiktok.com/@lilly https://lillysinghbook.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty https://www.facebook.com/jayshetty/ https://x.com/jayshetty https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay/ https://www.youtube.com/@JayShettyPodcast http://jayshetty.me

SPEAKERS

Lilly Singh
guest
Comedian, actor, and YouTuber (formerly “Superwoman”) and former late-night host/producer.
Jay Shetty
host
Podcaster and author, host of On Purpose (former monk and motivational speaker).

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Jay Shetty Podcast, featuring Lilly Singh and Jay Shetty, #1 Mindset Shift You NEED to Build REAL Confidence! explores lilly Singh reveals confidence built by grace, choices, and self-compassion Lilly Singh explains that chasing “firsts” (YouTube, late-night) was fueled by loneliness, cultural gender expectations, and a need to prove worth to people who valued fame and status.

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