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Jay Shetty Podcast"DO THIS To Destroy NEGATIVE THOUGHTS & FEELINGS Today!" | Daniel Amen & Jay Shetty
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Why addictions start as “big wins” and turn into coping
Dr. Daniel Amen explains a pattern he’s seen in addiction: substances can initially feel great, then get used to prevent depression and feel “normal.” Jay Shetty responds briefly as Daniel sets up the addiction cycle as a theme that will return later.
- •Addictions often begin with an intense positive experience (“awesome”)
- •Substances can shift from pleasure-seeking to depression-prevention
- •Addiction becomes a cycle that leads to being “hooked”
Jay introduces Dr. Amen and the focus on overcoming negativity
Jay Shetty introduces Dr. Daniel G. Amen and frames the conversation around brain health and Dr. Amen’s book on overcoming negativity, anxiety, anger, stress, and trauma. Dr. Amen and Jay exchange appreciation before diving into the core topics.
- •Jay presents Dr. Amen’s roles and the book being discussed
- •The episode’s focus is improving how we feel by addressing brain health
- •Transition into why the brain became Dr. Amen’s central focus
Why Dr. Amen centered his career on the brain—and why psychiatry should “look”
Dr. Amen shares the personal event that pushed him toward psychiatry and describes his frustration that psychiatry often doesn’t examine the organ it treats. He explains how his imaging background led him to brain scanning and a long-term mission to change clinical practice.
- •A suicide attempt in his family influenced his career direction
- •He criticizes psychiatry for not routinely looking at the brain
- •His imaging background shaped his “How do you know unless you look?” approach
- •He began examining brain patterns related to conditions like depression and ADHD
SPECT imaging, a “gambling win” moment, and the case for individualized treatment
Dr. Amen describes discovering SPECT imaging and how early successes reinforced his commitment to scanning. He argues it’s “insane” to prescribe based on short visits without assessing whether the brain is overactive, underactive, toxic, or traumatized, and he emphasizes whole-body health as foundational for brain health.
- •SPECT is described as a study of blood flow and activity
- •Early patient improvements felt like “big wins,” reinforcing his use of scans
- •He criticizes quick prescribing without evaluating the brain
- •He lists possible contributors clinicians miss (toxins, trauma, mold, contact sports)
- •He emphasizes other organs and systems must be supported for the brain to function well
Brain vs. mind—and a marriage saved by identifying brain toxicity
Dr. Amen answers Jay’s question about the difference between brain and mind, then tells a story of a couple advised to divorce until scans revealed the husband’s brain looked severely impaired. The case reframes behavior from moral judgment to brain health, leading to rehabilitation and a preserved marriage.
- •The mind is presented as coming from the brain
- •A couple’s therapy “failure” is reinterpreted after brain imaging
- •The husband’s brain pattern resembled substance abuse despite his denial
- •Work exposure to organic solvents is identified as a likely cause
- •Reframing from “bad person” to “sick brain” changes outcomes
“Brain envy” and the first tiny habit: ask what’s good or bad for your brain
Dr. Amen explains that a major mistake is not caring about the brain, sharing how scanning his family led him to want a better brain than his own. He introduces tiny habits and a simple self-check question meant to guide choices through self-love rather than guilt.
- •He says the first mistake is not caring about brain health
- •He compares his brain scan to his mother’s and describes “brain envy”
- •He frames behavior change as small, incremental “tiny habits”
- •Core question: “Is this good for my brain or bad for it?”
- •He links doing the right thing to love rather than obligation
Eradicating “ANTs”: how to question automatic negative thoughts
Dr. Amen introduces the concept of automatic negative thoughts using an “ant infestation” metaphor and explains a technique for challenging thoughts rather than believing them. He distinguishes truth-seeking from “positive thinking” and describes a questioning process he learned from Byron Katie.
- •ANTs are described as automatic negative thoughts that infest the mind
- •He says you don’t have to believe every thought you think
- •He rejects “positive thinking” as unrealistic or harmful
- •Technique: write the thought down and ask, “Is it true?” and “Is it absolutely true?”
- •He credits Byron Katie’s approach and mentions her book “Loving What Is”
Daily rituals that train the mind: great-day framing and “what went well”
Dr. Amen shares simple rituals aimed at shifting attention toward constructive interpretations of life. He explains how starting the day with a positive frame prompts the unconscious mind to look for reasons, and how reviewing what went well supports sleep and memory consolidation.
- •Start the day with: “Today is going to be a great day”
- •He says humans are wired to wake up in fear due to evolutionary history
- •End-of-day practice: review what went well and what can be learned
- •He links bedtime review to shaping dreams and consolidating memories
- •Jay notes many people lack a conscious internal conversation
Attachment, “RELATING,” and screening early relationships from a brain lens
The discussion shifts to attachment and how relationship pain can be intense because humans are wired to bond. Dr. Amen introduces his “RELATING” mnemonic for relationship health and shares ideas for early dating—learning family history, observing habits, and treating new love like a drug that can cloud judgment.
- •Attachment is framed as a source of suffering when relationships break
- •RELATING mnemonic: responsibility, empathy, listening, assertiveness, time, inquiry, notice positives, grace/forgiveness
- •He emphasizes forgiveness as self-protective
- •First-date focus: pay attention, listen, learn family story, watch habits
- •He says “new love is a drug” and can distort perception for months
Brain patterns in conflict, the “Couples from Hell” study, and the Brain Excel model
Dr. Amen explains how brain function can underlie chronic conflict and why communication training can fail when brain issues aren’t addressed. He describes a study of couples who failed therapy and lays out Brain Excel as a framework that includes biology, psychology, relationships, and inspiration/spiritual purpose, then connects modern dopamine stimulation to rising depression.
- •He links disrespect and chronic fighting to potential brain dysfunction
- •He describes conflict as sometimes unconscious and “Pavlovian”
- •He references studying 500 couples who failed marital therapy
- •He argues marital therapy often ignores brain factors
- •Brain Excel: biology, rational mind, attachments, inspiration/spiritual circle
- •He says constant dopamine hits from screens/social media wear out pleasure centers
Dopamine dumps vs. dopamine drips: social media, burnout, and prefrontal control
Dr. Amen explains pleasure centers (including the nucleus accumbens) and how high-intensity stimulation can lead to needing more to feel good, contributing to depression. He contrasts “dopamine dumps” with healthier “dopamine drips,” discusses how social media feedback can affect mood, and emphasizes the prefrontal cortex as a key regulator.
- •Pleasure centers respond to dopamine and drive motivation
- •Repeated high-intensity stimulation can blunt pleasure responses
- •He contrasts dopamine “dump” behaviors with a steadier dopamine “drip”
- •He describes a Tinder segment showing mood shifts when feedback is lacking
- •He uses an elephant-and-rider metaphor: pleasure center vs. prefrontal control
Meditation research and “now and later”: strengthening the prefrontal cortex
Dr. Amen discusses research on a Kundalini yoga meditation (Kirtan Kriya), describing changes in brain activation patterns and improved resting frontal lobe function after consistent practice. He critiques being only “in the now” and underscores the importance of choices that help you feel better now and also later.
- •He reports meditation activating the prefrontal cortex and calming emotional regions
- •He describes reduced parietal activity and a sense of timelessness during practice
- •He emphasizes the prefrontal cortex’s role in planning, judgment, empathy, and impulse control
- •He critiques “feel better now” without considering consequences
- •Jay connects the discussion to creator burnout and early fame
Purpose, meaning, and the dangers of comparison-driven goals
Jay asks whether purpose is necessary for happiness, and Dr. Amen says purpose makes happiness easier and can take many forms. He discusses meaning as a therapeutic focus, warns that comparison-based aspirations can fuel depression, and highlights how negative media can train minds to look for what’s wrong.
- •Purpose is framed as helpful and flexible (service, skills, work)
- •He references meaning-focused therapy and valuing meaning over certain older frameworks
- •He says social comparison—especially online—can drive “less than” feelings and depression
- •He criticizes negativity cycles in media for training pessimistic attention
- •They discuss altruism as rewarding and meaningful rather than “purely selfless”
Marijuana and alcohol: brain-imaging concerns and “now vs. later” choices
Jay brings up marijuana and alcohol, and Dr. Amen argues marijuana can make the brain look “toxic” on SPECT and cites his published imaging findings and risk claims, especially for teenagers. They distinguish legalization policy from glamorization, discuss alcohol’s effects on inhibition, and return to the theme of learning skills instead of medicating discomfort.
- •He says marijuana increases risk of psychosis for teens and describes decreased brain activity in scans
- •He distinguishes supporting legality from promoting use
- •He warns against glamorizing CBD and repeating past public-health cycles
- •He says alcohol reduces frontal lobe function and can lead to rude, impulsive behavior
- •Jay shares his past experimentation and why he chose to stop
Turning inspiration into habits: planning life, filtering choices, and the final five
Dr. Amen explains that inspiration fades unless it becomes habit, and he shares small daily prompts and a “one-page” planning exercise to define what you want and filter behavior accordingly. In the rapid-fire questions, he covers panic attack steps, brain-supportive foods, ego as a prefrontal function, and managing social anxiety through skills and perspective.
- •Inspiration is made durable by converting it into habits
- •He suggests daily prompts like “Today is going to be a great day” and choosing one purposeful action
- •He describes filtering impulses through “Will this get me what I want?”
- •Panic attack approach: breathing, writing thoughts, not leaving, and certain supplements
- •Brain food basics: colorful produce and healthy fats; plus comments on low-fat dieting
Spirituality, love-based motivation, and reframing mental illness as brain health
Dr. Amen shares why spirituality matters in understanding a person and describes how near-death experience stories shaped his sense of meaning. He and Jay return to love as the highest motivation for health behaviors, then Dr. Amen argues for reducing stigma by treating “mental health” as “brain health” and improving diagnosis beyond one-size-fits-all prescribing.
- •He says understanding meaning, purpose, and beliefs about death helps him understand patients
- •He shares a friend’s death story and a book that gave him peace about life’s meaning
- •He frames doing the right thing as easier when done from love
- •He argues “mental health problems” are often brain health problems
- •He criticizes one-size prescribing and says depression has multiple brain patterns
