Jay Shetty PodcastEMILIE KISER EXCLUSIVE: The Loss That Changed Her Forever
At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Emilie Kiser on child loss, grief, boundaries, and prevention
- Emilie recounts receiving the call that her son Trigg had fallen into a pool, his week-long hospitalization, and his death, describing the experience as an unbearable, life-altering rupture.
- She explains how grief after child loss is not a set of stages or a problem to “get over,” but a lifelong condition where sadness, love, guilt, and moments of joy coexist.
- Emilie describes the unique pressure of grieving in the public eye—news exposure, online judgment, and misconceptions—while setting stricter boundaries about what she shares online.
- She outlines what helped her survive early grief: intensive family support, specialized grief therapy, couples counseling, and a “minute-by-minute” approach to functioning.
- She reframes her tragedy into a mission for drowning prevention awareness, urging parents to add multiple layers of pool safety and accept that accidents can happen to anyone without safeguards.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasChild-loss grief doesn’t end; it becomes more manageable alongside life.
Emilie emphasizes there is no finish line—grief remains, but people can learn tools to carry it while still experiencing love, connection, and even joy.
“Good vs. bad days” is less useful than tracking grief intensity and coping capacity.
She frames days as a mix of moments, comparing how strongly grief hits (1–10) against how well she can manage it (1–10), which reduces self-judgment and supports realistic expectations.
Public visibility magnifies trauma and forces deliberate boundary-setting.
Because the story became public through news presence and online speculation, Emilie changed how she uses social media, including not showing her younger son and not posting images/videos of Trigg.
Online judgments rarely hurt more than the self-blame already present after preventable tragedy.
She notes criticism lands on top of constant internal “what if” replay, but she finds stability by prioritizing the perspectives of people who truly know her (family and professionals).
Healing support works best when it’s specialized and structured, not improvised by the internet.
She credits child-loss-informed therapists, couples counseling, and the care farm model (animal therapy + licensed clinicians) for teaching coping tools, not “fixing” the unfixable.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI got a phone call from my husband that our son Trigg had fallen in the pool and that he wasn't breathing. Our whole world fell apart. There is no way to describe to someone what it's like losing a child.
— Emilie Kiser
There really is no answer for why it happened. At the end of the day, it happened because there were precautions that we didn't take.
— Emilie Kiser
I think people look at grief as stages or at some point it's gonna end. The pain is gonna end. We look at grief as this finish line. I feel like for a lot of people of, I grieved for this amount of time, or I was sad for this amount of time, and then... That's not how it works. It's, it's never-ending. Your grief is going to be with you for the rest of your life.
— Emilie Kiser
There's not good and bad days. There's good and bad moments, and that's what makes up your days.
— Emilie Kiser
I made a promise to Trigg right before we lost him that I was gonna take care of Teddy. That was actually, like, my final- ... promised him was like, "I will take care of your brother."
— Emilie Kiser
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