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Jay Shetty PodcastGive Me 37 Minutes... I'll Save You 20+ Years Of A Wasted Life | Ed Mylett
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40 min read · 8,258 words- 0:00 – 4:14
Intro
- SPSpeaker
You know, I think most people think, Jay, everyone else is gonna die. I'll get around to being happy. I'll get around to my dreams. And then it's another day, and another day, and they keep it in the distance. You only understand the power of one day when you're threatened with never having another one The bestselling author and host
- JSJay Shetty
The number one health and wellness podcast
- SPSpeaker
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
- JSJay Shetty
This quote by Thomas Edison said, "When you feel you've exhausted all options, remember this, you haven't"
- SPSpeaker
[laughs] I love that
- JSJay Shetty
That's the power of one more
- SPSpeaker
That is the power of one more. Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
And so I have lived this book in my life
- SPSpeaker
That's awesome
- JSJay Shetty
Like I have lived this mindset, and it has changed my life because I've always been just one step away, one habit away-
- SPSpeaker
Yes
- JSJay Shetty
... one mindset away-
- SPSpeaker
Yes
- JSJay Shetty
... from this amazing life that I'm grateful and blessed to live
- SPSpeaker
Well, that's the truth, right? You're right, and I think the great lie in life is that I p- you know, some scriptures say, well, where there's no vision, the people will perish. Whatever your scriptures are. Is it really? Do you have no vision? If you ask the average person, "You wanna be happy or sad? What's your vision?" They'd say, "I wanna be happy"
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
You wanna be rich or poor? Most people say, "I'd like to be rich" Do you want to contribute or make no difference in the world? I want to contribute. Do you want beautiful memories or no memories? I want memories. So there's a vision. Our issue is depth perception. We think it's further away than it is
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
And because we think it's so far away, Jay, we create patterns and behaviors in our life that perpetually keep it there
- JSJay Shetty
Ooh
- SPSpeaker
And that's what we do in our life. But what if that's the great lie of life? And what if the truth is that you're one relationship away, one meeting away, one conversation, one podcast, one interview, one new thought, one new emotion, one new tactic or strategy away from completely changing the trajectory of your life?
- JSJay Shetty
Ah.
- SPSpeaker
And everyone that you and I know that we both work with, that we're blessed to work with in our lives, the truth is it was one decision, one meeting, one extra rep, one more phone call, one thing they did that changed their trajectory. Then the question then becomes, how do I do it?
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
And so the strategies are in the book, but conceptually, that's 100% how you change your life
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah. And you're, you're so right. I, I was thinking about this this morning. Last year, I had a double hernia surgery-
- SPSpeaker
Oof
- JSJay Shetty
... on the front. Like, so I couldn't walk for about a month, and when I say I couldn't walk, I mean, like I literally couldn't move
- SPSpeaker
Oh my gosh
- JSJay Shetty
It, it was like I was, like I felt like I was teaching myself to walk again
- 4:14 – 6:37
When you’re one step away from changing the trajectory of your life
- SPSpeaker
isn't looking at me, but he's crying, and he says, "Eddie," and then he turns to me, and he goes, "I'm gonna try to get sober" And I'm, I'll never forget this, brother, he goes, "One more time"
- JSJay Shetty
Wow
- SPSpeaker
And I said, "Really, Daddy?" He goes, "I'm gonna give it one more try" And I said to him, I said, "Why would this be any different this time?" And he said, never said this to me before, he goes, "Because I l- I love you, and you deserve a father you can be proud of, and you can't be proud of me right now" And I think every great thing we do in life is one away, but it's also born from love
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
To talk about your book, when you love people or you love something so deeply, if that love is greater than what the obstacles might be-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... now you got a shot to do it. Then my dad gets sober. He comes home from rehab. I say, "Daddy, are you never gonna drink again?" And he said, "I can't promise you that. I can promise you I'm not gonna drink for one more day at a time"
- JSJay Shetty
Wow!
- SPSpeaker
And he lasted the rest of his life stacking those one more days up. And so I know the power of one more. And Jay-
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... the other thing, I also know humans can change. I watched my hero do it. I watched my dad live my first 15 years, saw him in a lot of fights
- JSJay Shetty
Wow, man
- SPSpeaker
A lot of lying, a lot of difficult times, and then I saw this man transform. And in life, we're most qualified to help the person we used to be
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
And when we think in life, and I hope everybody gets this, we think the things we're most ashamed of-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... embarrassed by, our divorce, our bankruptcy, or maybe we've just always been average and ordinary, this disqualifies me from being successful and happy
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
What if that's not true? What if the hardest things of your life are the very things that qualify you? I'll give you an example. You know how my dad got sober? Somebody helped him. My dad was gonna take his life or lose his family, and I didn't know who it was till months ago. Some precious human being whom I didn't know in my dad's darkest hour of his life, Jay, said, "I'll help you" "I'll help you." Little did that person know I'd be his son, and I'd help millions of people, and I'd be on Jay Shetty Show, and we both helped millions of people. And the more ironic thing that this person helped my dad is what qualified them to help my dad.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
They were a drunk. They were an alcoholic. They at one time were a drug addict. They at one time were lying and stealing and living in the shadows. The very thing that person probably figured, "That disqualifies me from having a successful life," was the one thing that did qualify them-
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... to help my dad. So if you're listening to this and you've
- 6:37 – 10:34
The difference of stacking one more day to completely change yourself
- SPSpeaker
had something you're ashamed of or a failure or a setback, you're most qualified to help the people you used to be.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And that person, that alcoholism they suffered with, their drug addiction, helped my dad live those one more days forever.
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, that, that is the best explanation I've heard of how pain turns into purpose.
- SPSpeaker
That's right.
- JSJay Shetty
The thing that brought you down, that broke you down-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... that made you feel like you were losing everything-
- SPSpeaker
That's right
- JSJay Shetty
... gave you back everything when you used that to serve the people that were struggling with it.
- SPSpeaker
And then there's, then there's a purpose. And, you know, if you can survive the temporary pain in your life, and all pain is temporary. I watched my father pass away last year. He was in tremendous pain. Even our bodies are temporary. Only our souls are permanent.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
If you can survive the temporary, on the other side of temporary pain, you meet another version of yourself, another insight about yourself. And that's why it's so important to grow as a person because the more we grow and become a new person, we can help those that used to be like us.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And that's why you and I are so addicted to growing and learning, and we're curious because if you used to be a broken person and you no longer are quite as broken, you can help broken people.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
If you used to be broke financially and you no longer are, you can help people. Whatever you do for a living, at one time you didn't know about it, and now you do. You can help those who need to know about it. And so you're immensely qualified-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... if you understand the power of doing one more.
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, I love it. I love it. Tell me about, so let's say, and you probably come up against this all the time-
- SPSpeaker
Sure
- JSJay Shetty
... a lot of the people say, "Okay, I'm gonna practice that. I'm with you, Ed."
- SPSpeaker
Mm.
- JSJay Shetty
"I love you and Jay. I'm, I'm listening," and I go, "Yes, I'm gonna practice the power of one more."
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm.
- JSJay Shetty
Now, what I find, and this is why you're so great at teaching this, because you're not teaching it as a, a gimmick, a glitch, or like a little-
- SPSpeaker
No
- JSJay Shetty
... a little affirmation. This is, like, real l- It makes sense.
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm.
- JSJay Shetty
Like, it works. People get so tied to the result-
- 10:34 – 12:04
If you can survive the temporary, there’s growth at the end of every phase
- SPSpeaker
think this through. How often are those friends saying, "Hey, what are you working on now?"
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
"Where are you going? What's your vision? What do you wanna create?" And maybe that sounds hokey, but you and I have some of the f- some of our, both our friends have the most amazing histories.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And you can't get them to talk about them.
- JSJay Shetty
No. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
You have to work, 'cause what are they still doing?
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
They're talking about now and where they're going.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Their viewpoint in their life is being present and having a vision for the future.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
A formula for misery, a formula for lack of creativity, lack of productivity is constantly being history and memory.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah. Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Even if it's good-
- JSJay Shetty
Oh
- SPSpeaker
... it doesn't serve us. And for most of us, it's not good, and we keep living from it or trying to move away from it. Create a new future. Don't move away from the past. Create a brilliant, imaginative, curious, vibrant vision for your life.
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, I love that. Yeah, we're always trying to create the same past-
- SPSpeaker
Yes
- JSJay Shetty
... as opposed to a new future.
- SPSpeaker
A new future.
- JSJay Shetty
And I find that what's really interesting about that-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... all the studies show that nostalgia makes us believe that the past was more phenomenal than it actually was.
- SPSpeaker
It was.
- JSJay Shetty
If you remember that party you went to at college, it's better in your memory than it actually was.
- SPSpeaker
Big time. [laughs]
- JSJay Shetty
If you actually could have gone back and remembered how you felt hungover and what-
- SPSpeaker
Right
- JSJay Shetty
... you broke a bone or whatever happened, but now in your memory, it's beautiful.
- 12:04 – 16:49
Separate yourself from the outcome and just be present in the moment
- JSJay Shetty
that it, it's something you said a couple of moments ago, and, and it sparked a thought for me. I remembered a story that Vanessa Bryant told about Kobe Bryant after he passed away. I was fortunate enough to interview him around three months before, before his tragic passing. And she told this story, and she said that Kobe would play through every injury. He would play through every pain. He would play through everything, even when the doctors and his coaches would say, "Stop playing."
- SPSpeaker
Mm.
- JSJay Shetty
And she asked him, she said once, why he still plays, right? Again, going back to our-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... curiosity.
- SPSpeaker
Yes.
- JSJay Shetty
Not assuming you know your partner. She asked him, "Why do you still play?" And this is just her and him. There's no cameras, there's no... She's telling this story, but at the time it was just them two. He said, "It's because there's someone who's paid for a ticket today. They saved up, and this is the only time they're ever gonna be able to come. Maybe a son's b- uh, maybe a dad's brought his kid. Maybe someone's come to the game, they're a lifelong fan-
- SPSpeaker
Mm
- JSJay Shetty
... and they came today, and today's the only day they're gonna get to see me. And if I say I'm injured-
- SPSpeaker
Yes
- JSJay Shetty
... they won't get to see me."
- SPSpeaker
That's so awesome.
- JSJay Shetty
"So I'm gonna play-
- SPSpeaker
Yes
- JSJay Shetty
... so that that person-
- SPSpeaker
That one person
- JSJay Shetty
... gets to see me play."
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- JSJay Shetty
And then he goes and wins. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
Yes.
- JSJay Shetty
And it's like, that's love.
- SPSpeaker
That's love.
- JSJay Shetty
Like, that's what you were saying, that-
- SPSpeaker
Love for something is in the present moment also, right?
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, wow.
- SPSpeaker
Love is not just for the past. And it's funny how important one day has been. When my dad got sick, my dad got cancer. When he first got sick, he goes, "Hey..." My dad was a dude. He goes, "Look, I'll fight this one time, okay? I'll do your little chemo and your surgery, but I'm not gonna pour poison into my body. I'm not gonna lose my hair. I'm not gonna deteriorate. I'll give this thing a shot once. If it doesn't work, I'm out." [smacks lips] That led to eight years of him fighting it.
- JSJay Shetty
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
Chemo, radiation, proton therapy, surgery, surgery, chemo, experimental chemo, and he did lose his hair, and he was in pain.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And I'd say to my dad, I'd say, "Dad, you're suffering so much. You said you wouldn't suffer." He said, "No, Eddie, I'm in pain, but I'm not suffering. I, I choose not to suffer."
- 16:49 – 20:47
“You only understand the power of one day when you’re threatened with never having another one.”
- SPSpeaker
And so my dad really taught me those lessons in watching him pass away, and that's why I have so... I have a whole thing in there of how to get 21 days a week.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Run many days. I get 21 days a week. We still measure time, bro, like it's 1900.
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
Think about 1900.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
If I wanted to get you a note, I'd have to write a letter out, stick it on the back of a horse's butt in-
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... 1850. 30 days later, you get it. That was a 24-hour day. Now I can text you in two seconds. We measure time the same way.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
So I teach you how to change your time so that you can make that day its maximum bliss, its maximum productivity.
- JSJay Shetty
What's, what's one more that you're working on right now?
- SPSpeaker
Right now I'm actually... It's an interesting season of my life. I have a TV show that you know that I did with NBC that's called Change that I think is, you know, has a chance of getting picked up. But my one more that I'm working on right now for me in my life is my peace.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And so there's this guy, Jay Shetty, that's a friend of mine that, uh, introduced me and my family to meditation. And I'm giving myself the gift, um, of I don't just do it in the morning now. I've given myself the gift of one more time every single day of just emptying my mind-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... and trying to be fully present, and it's been work for me. I've got that busy type of a mind.
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
But, um, I have found that my peace in my life... Most of us, Jay, have all these goals of things we wanna do, and they're wonderful. And I believe in doing that. I think standards are more important than goals because... And I teach you in this, the book, how to set the standards that'll get those goals.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm, I really-
- SPSpeaker
But we really don't, but we really don't want the jet We don't want the hit song. We don't want the amazing relationship. We don't want the million dollars. We don't want the... We want how we think it'll make us feel.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And what if we began to become more intentional and outcome-oriented about the things we feel in our life? And it took me a while, but now that I'm older, when I feel strong, when I feel blissful, when I feel peaceful is when I produce the physical things that I want, not the other way around.
- JSJay Shetty
Oof.
- SPSpeaker
And so my one mores are more emotional focused. Most of us, then I'll come up for air here, have an emotional home.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
There's three or four or five emotions we experience on a regular basis. I write about it in the book. And no matter what happens, we find a way, even if they don't serve us, to get those emotions. If your emotional home is fear, anxiety, worry-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... depression, anger, you find a way every week to get that emotion. But what if that emotional home could become bliss and peace and joy and creativity and ecstasy? And so I'm working on one more beautiful emotion for my emotional home, and for me, it's peace.
- JSJay Shetty
I love that. I love that answer, man. It's, it's good to hear about what you've been saying, like we're not living in the past, and you're like in the present. But to have you answer that question, that peace is your presence, like that's what you're looking for.
- 20:47 – 23:11
What’s your ‘one more’ that you’re working on right now?
- SPSpeaker
and I'm, I'm running out of money." Our power was turned off. Our water was turned off, Jay. We had to take my wife every morning... We'd lost our house. We're living in an apartment now, then the water got turned off. You can't cook. You can't bathe. There was a apartment building, we had an outdoor shower at the swimming pool, and I'd have to- we were newlyweds, and I'd have to get up every morning, walk down there, and I'd hold a towel up while my wife took her shower every day outdoors and brush her teeth, and then she'd switch and hold the towel up for me. And I'd walk back up to the apartment, and I was so emasculated, so ashamed, so embarrassed.
- JSJay Shetty
[clears throat]
- SPSpeaker
And I was living a nightmare, selling a dream to everybody every day, "We can do this." A lot of entrepreneurs or people can relate in their life. And, and anyway, I called my dad that night and I said, "I, I, I think I need to pack it in."
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
"I need to go get a job and just, I'm... This success thing is not, it's not for people like us."
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And my dad goes, "Eddie, you don't have to decide you're never gonna quit." He goes, "Just don't quit for one more day."
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
"See how you feel tomorrow."
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
I go, "But, Dad." He goes, "Just, just don't do it for one more day." And I got up the next day and I still wanted to quit, but not quite as much. And then I went one more day and one more day, and I found myself about 30 days later, I didn't want to quit anymore. And thank God the one more I did was I went one more day without quitting.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And I'm so grateful I didn't quit on my dream.
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, Ed, wow. That is like... Oh my gosh, man. Like, you just-
- SPSpeaker
[clears throat]
- JSJay Shetty
Everything you're just dropping right now, I'm just like, I hope everyone is taking notes.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- JSJay Shetty
If you haven't been taking notes, I want you to take a screenshot right now of where we're at right now, 'cause that's what you're gonna have to listen to again. So take a screenshot.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- JSJay Shetty
Share it. Tell everyone to go to this segment. Listen to that over again. Because I think what I'm hearing, you know, is that this is, this is a lifestyle. Like, this is a mindset. It's a lifestyle. It's a every day, every moment way to live. This isn't just in the big business you're building. This is me telling my wife I love her-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... one more time. This is me making sure I message my mom one more time.
- SPSpeaker
Yes.
- JSJay Shetty
It's me making sure that when I'm sitting here with you, I'm always gonna have to ask you one more question-
- SPSpeaker
[laughs] I will never answer
- JSJay Shetty
... because, because you keep giving so much.
- SPSpeaker
I see.
- JSJay Shetty
No, but you keep giving so... Well, that's what you just said. It would never end.
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm.
- JSJay Shetty
I think of people feel like they tried a lot, and then they start building up resentment-
- 23:11 – 27:05
“Just don’t quit for one more day and see how it goes.”
- JSJay Shetty
pain and bitterness-
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm
- JSJay Shetty
... towards that path.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- JSJay Shetty
And a lot of people also that I know, they just think that there are some people are meant to be.
- SPSpeaker
I agree with this.
- JSJay Shetty
And then there are some people that are not meant to be.
- SPSpeaker
That's correct.
- JSJay Shetty
And they carry that with them, and it comes from this like, "Oh yeah, you were meant to be this," or, "That person was meant to have it, but for me, this is where I..." And I heard that kind of come up in what you were saying to your dad, like doesn't happen to people like us.
- SPSpeaker
Yes.
- JSJay Shetty
How does this rule, how does this principle apply to someone who's in that space?
- SPSpeaker
Brother, best question ever. Because I grew up with no s- if you have an alcoholic dad or a drug addict, or maybe you come from divorce, or maybe your parents just didn't love you enough, whatever it was, didn't tell you they loved you enough, it's hard to have self-confidence.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
When I was a little guy, I got bullied in school, and I just... And even at this age now, bro, I, I, if I'm being completely honest, s- s- self-confidence, we all teach that it's, you know, part of keeping the promises you make to yourself, but what if you raise the standard a little higher? You keep the promises you make to yourself plus one more. Because for me, self-confidence didn't come easy. I think in life, ultimately you're gonna get what you believe you deserve, and if you're wound up, wired like me, I didn't think I deserved a lot I didn't even have a dad who could stop drinking.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Right? I wasn't six foot four. I don't have an incredibly high IQ. There's nothing really that impressive about me, nor were people very impressed with me most of my life. So that was my pattern, that was my history, that was my memory. And so the only... I could wait around until I developed tremendous self-confidence, or I could begin to do things-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... every day that were small. They're not major. And over time, when I did those one more calls, that one more meeting, that one more book I read, that one more podcast, not only am I doing more reps, so the likelihood of me being successful is bigger, but I started to convince myself, I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do. Maybe I deserve things other people aren't gonna get. And slowly but surely, I started to convince myself I did deserve it based on what I was doing, not necessarily the caliber of my talent.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And that was the difference.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah. You, you just... There's a thought I've been having recently, and it's that comfort creates self-care.
- SPSpeaker
Mm.
- JSJay Shetty
But discomfort creates self-respect.
- SPSpeaker
Oof, boy, I love that.
- JSJay Shetty
Right? Like-
- SPSpeaker
I love that
- JSJay Shetty
... it's what you're saying.
- SPSpeaker
I love that.
- JSJay Shetty
That the one more discomfort-
- SPSpeaker
Mm
- 27:05 – 30:54
Why should you start doing one more thing to achieve what you think you truly deserve?
- JSJay Shetty
going further away from who we are, who we want to be.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- JSJay Shetty
Our faith, our partners, right?
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- JSJay Shetty
We've, we know people who've built multi-billion dollar companies-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... but lost their kids.
- SPSpeaker
That's right.
- JSJay Shetty
Or they've become famous and rich, but they've, uh, their partner cheated on them.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- JSJay Shetty
Or, you know, like really painful stuff.
- SPSpeaker
You know a lot of those.
- JSJay Shetty
And you know people who didn't do all of that-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... and that's happened too.
- SPSpeaker
Sure.
- JSJay Shetty
Like, it's, it's both ways. How does one use one more and make sure it's in the right direction?
- SPSpeaker
Such a great question. I, I'm doing this now regularly, 'cause I've made some of those mistakes of just... And what I do is I check in with myself one more time. Meaning, it's important to ask yourself, "What matters to me now?"
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
See, if you, we had this conversation 20 years ago, the things that mattered to me then are so different than what matter to me now. But a lot of us keep operating out of what used to... Maybe you've achieved or are c- pursuing a dream, and it's really truly no longer your dream.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
It's no longer your dream. It's... When I was young, listen, if we were gonna do a podcast, you say, "Hey, I need you on the show. People are gonna love you. You're gonna get recognition. You're gonna get s- you're gonna get all this acknowledgement." And that would have been my hot button, my need. You know, I believe in the six human needs. My need was significance and recognition, and there's nothing wrong with that.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
It's wonderful. And so that's the button to get me to move, would be significance, recognition. Well, I've been blessed the last 30 years or so of my life to have a beautiful abundance of significance and recognition. It's no longer what fills me.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Now you get me to do an interview, you go, "Hey, I really think we could help some people." My big button in my life now is contribution. There was another stage in my life, it's still there, but hey, if you go there, you'll grow. I still want to grow, but I know me now. Right now, I'm in a season of my life that's contribution. It's giving. It's what fills my heart. And I think it's checking in with yourself one more time. What matters to me now?
- JSJay Shetty
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
What do I want now? What's important to me now? What season am... Maybe you're in a season where you need to rest.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Maybe your spirit and everything about you is telling you, "Hey, it's time to feed you again. It's time to recharge." If that's the season, then answer that call.
- 30:54 – 34:08
Make it a habit to always ask yourself, “What matters to me now?”
- SPSpeaker
life. We were born to do something great with our life, and it's important to check in from time to time of what that current great thing is. And may- and sometimes we think it's the big things. It's the people that are on both our shows. They've made this big movie. They've got this big song. They're this big th-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
What i- you know, who's greater? The man who helped my dad get sober, or the fact that maybe I've helped some people because my dad got sober?
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
That one act was greatness in his life, that kind moment with another person that says, "I can help you. Let me connect with you." And so don't discount your own greatness, your own call to do something great. And it doesn't have to be a script or a play or a book or a speech or on social media. It's just doing something great, and you matter. I don't, I don't mean this hokey. I'm telling you the truth about you. You matter. You were born to do something awesome with your life. Your family's supposed to do something great as a family. And it, maybe it's just checking in and reminding yourself of that, and then asking yourself, "What is that thing right now in my life?" And so I just think that reminder's so important that, you know, it's great to voyeuristically look in on successful people-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... or what we think are successful people. It's also important that the camera turn back on you and go, "You matter."
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
"You matter. You are great."
- JSJay Shetty
My eyes got a little choked. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And that's probably the most important thing we'd say today.
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, gosh, man, yeah. And, you know, one thing you just clarified beautifully is that great doesn't have to be big-
- SPSpeaker
No
- JSJay Shetty
... and big doesn't mean great.
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm.
- JSJay Shetty
Right? And I think we're so obsessed today-
- SPSpeaker
We are
- JSJay Shetty
... in that to do something great, it has to be big, it has to be bold. You know, I, when I think about myself, honestly, Ed, and, and I can say this to you because I think, I think you, in these sessions and when we've spent time together, you've heard my heart. I was one of those people who actually never believed I could do any of this stuff I've done. I never set out when I started, and I was like, "Oh, one day I'm gonna be..." I, I didn't have any of that. That's not how I'm-
- SPSpeaker
Mm
- JSJay Shetty
... wired.
- SPSpeaker
Mm.
- JSJay Shetty
I was wired in, like, "I wanna serve."
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- JSJay Shetty
"I wanna serve whoever comes."
- SPSpeaker
Yes.
- JSJay Shetty
"Whether it's five people, 10 people, I'm happy."
- SPSpeaker
Yep.
- JSJay Shetty
"I'll serve them."
- SPSpeaker
Mm.
- JSJay Shetty
And w- as I started to do that, I got more confidence. Like, okay, now I wanna serve larger groups. Okay, let me serve them.
- 34:08 – 37:23
Don’t discount your own greatness because we all are born to do something great
- SPSpeaker
They didn't.
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
They were a board company.
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
They didn't know they'd be doing this someday. They stepped into the next space. And one thing I think we also want is an immediate result.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And I talk about this in the book. Maybe this will be the last little thing I'll share with you, but I went to a birthday party as I was writing the book, and it was for a, a young [laughs] boy, and, um, they had a pinata. You've all been to a... Especially-
- JSJay Shetty
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... living in California. You have the pinata. And so what they did is they took each of these little guys, and they s- blindfolded them and spun them around, and they're all dizzy, and they're swinging, and they're not even near the pinata. That's life. A lot of times you feel like, man, I'm blind. I don't even know where I'm swinging right now, but I'm swinging.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm. Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And so each kid hit the pinata, and the candy didn't come out. And so they take the blindfold off. That kid got tired. The next little boy came up, spun him around. So, like, seven of them hit this pinata. No candy came out. The last boy, the smallest boy, the youngest boy there, they throw the blindfold on him. They spin him around, and he's swinging, too. That's life. You're just sort of swinging, right?
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
They finally point him at the pinata. He hits the pinata just once. Bam, all the candy comes out.
- JSJay Shetty
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And all the kids jump on and celebrate. And I'm watching that, and I'm going, "Now, who broke the pinata? Was it the last shot, or was it the cumulative blows-
- JSJay Shetty
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... of each of the shots on the pinata?" Well, we all know the answer. It was the cumulative shots.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Life's a lot like that, man.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
That we're taking shots, but we don't see any physical progress. But every one more we're doing is compound pounding progress. And in life, you have to be willing to buy into what is invisible progress. Most people quit on their dream, quit on their vision before the candy comes out. And what you and I didn't do is quit. We just kept swinging, and eventually the candy comes out. The candy could be your bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety, your contribution. But most people are hitting the pinata of their life, and there's no evidence it's working.
- JSJay Shetty
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
But the truth is, there's a compound pounding effect in life that if you keep hitting your life's pinata, if you'll stick around, there'll be some candy come out.
- JSJay Shetty
Oh, The Power of One More, everyone. Ed Mylett. Go and grab this book if you haven't already. It's gonna be a life-changer. I mean it. I mean, you can just feel the energy coming [laughs] off this human being, honestly. Uh, I want you to go read this book. I want you to go listen to the podcast if you don't already. The first book was called Max Out Your Life as well, the Max Out podcast. Uh, Ed, you are just... I mean, your energy's infectious. I don't know how anyone can't listen to you, read from you, hear from you, and not feel like they need to change their life. Like, you've just given me a list of number ones that I'm gonna do, one more. Uh-
- SPSpeaker
Great
- JSJay Shetty
... I hope that you keep coming back on the show.
- SPSpeaker
Love you.
- JSJay Shetty
I hope that we keep getting to connect offline. Uh, I, I hope that we get to, you know, keep spending one more day, one more phone call-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- JSJay Shetty
... one more time together because-
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