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Jay Shetty PodcastIf You Want To MANIFEST Your Dreams In 2023, WATCH THIS! | Ed Mylett & Jay Shetty
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When a childhood dream ends: Ed’s baseball career and catastrophic injury
Ed reflects on how a serious baseball pursuit was abruptly derailed by a catastrophic injury and a tumor on his leg. He describes the devastation of having a “first dream” collapse and the disorientation of needing a new direction.
- •Ed says he was very serious about baseball, went to college for it, and was drafted to play professionally
- •A hit-by-pitch led to a tumor on his leg and surgery that changed his life’s direction
- •He describes the moment as his first dream “literally” dying and needing time to recover emotionally
- •Jay frames this as an experience many listeners share when their first dream collapses
Dreaming a second time: separating real passions from “adopted dreams”
Jay asks what it takes to dream again after losing a first dream. Ed explains that rebuilding required finding his true passions—especially through serving others—and realizing the baseball dream may not have been truly his.
- •Ed says he felt his life was over at the time and had to find his “actual passions”
- •He describes being humbled and discovering service as a new path
- •Ed suggests people are born with unique gifts that may not match their original dream
- •He says his baseball dream may have been picked up from others (parents, TV) rather than internally owned
What he was really chasing: happiness, fulfillment, and making a difference
Ed unpacks how he once believed external success would bring happiness, then discovered fulfillment came from helping others. He describes being surprised that service—unseen and unrewarded publicly—became what “filled him up” most.
- •Ed says he wasn’t intentional about what he wanted and realized he mainly wanted to be happier
- •He thought professional baseball would bring happiness and fulfillment
- •He discovered making a difference for another person mattered more than athletic achievement
- •Ed notes service isn’t glamorous or widely broadcast, yet it became his deepest source of fulfillment
McKinley Home for Boys: the job he didn’t expect and the moment his life changed
Ed tells the story of getting sent to McKinley Home for Boys through his father’s AA connection—without even knowing what the job was. Entering Cottage 8, he suddenly became a father/brother figure to the boys, and he describes that as a defining turning point.
- •Ed reiterates that dreams often don’t arrive in the package we expect
- •He shares how his father (newly sober) told him to show up for a job at McKinley Home for Boys
- •Ed recalls walking into Cottage 8 with 8–10-year-old boys who stared at him as he arrived
- •He describes serving the boys—holidays, homework, daily support—and being humbled through responsibility
Turning pain into preparation: how his father’s alcoholism shaped skills and empathy
Ed explains how growing up with an alcoholic father created anxiety but also built skills: presence, reading people quickly, and empathy. He connects those skills to his ability to relate to the boys’ fear and trauma, concluding that “the dots all connect” when you stay vigilant.
- •Ed says as a child he learned to quickly assess which version of his dad was coming home
- •He credits that experience with developing presence and people-reading ability
- •He describes the boys as wards of the court, many with parents who were dead, incarcerated, or abusive
- •Ed says his own childhood fear helped him connect with the boys’ anxiety and feel “equipped” for the role
Letting growth continue: kids replace themselves—and adults stop evolving
Prompted by Jay’s question about Ed’s daughter, Ed shares lessons about humility and constant personal renewal. He describes how people often stop progressing as they age, leading to years that feel like “the same chapters of the same book.”
- •Ed jokes that his daughter keeps him humble and calls out his “midlife crisis”
- •He shares a story about a man at a car wash saying each year of a child is gone forever when they change ages
- •Ed argues adults should also let the prior version of themselves “be gone” each year
- •He says insecurity, worry, and believing life happens “to us” can stunt growth and create repetitive years
Choosing between calling and stability: leaving the boys to build a new way to serve
Jay asks how Ed decided to leave work he loved when financial needs grew. Ed explains he learned his true drivers were contribution and growth, and reframed his move into financial work as serving families long-term—despite the emotional difficulty of leaving the boys.
- •Ed says contribution and growth—not recognition—became his main motivators
- •He initially wasn’t interested in the financial industry and felt unsuited for it
- •He observed many boys came from families in financial disarray and wanted to serve the adults raising them
- •Ed describes telling the boys he was leaving as emotionally painful, but believes he later helped adults for their children
“Blissfully dissatisfied”: enjoying life now without losing ambition
Ed defines “blissfully dissatisfied” as not confusing happiness with satisfaction. He argues people delay happiness until milestones, and achievers fear joy will reduce drive—yet he says celebration prevents burnout and fuels momentum.
- •Ed says happiness and satisfaction are different and often conflated
- •He critiques delaying happiness until a future destination (house, promotion, relationship)
- •He says not celebrating victories robs the brain and leads toward burnout
- •He shares an experience watching joyful workers in his home while he felt miserable, leading to gratitude as a breakthrough
Training your focus for joy: intention, awareness, and the “another bite” analogy
Ed explains that achievers get what they’re intentional about, and happiness requires the same intentionality. He describes a mental filtering mechanism that brings prioritized experiences into awareness, then uses a dinner story about his wife enjoying food to show why enjoying wins increases hunger to keep going.
- •Ed says achievers aren’t happy because they aren’t intentional about pursuing bliss
- •He describes a brain “filter” that highlights what you prioritize (e.g., hearing your name in a crowd)
- •He tells a story about his wife audibly enjoying food and saying enjoyment makes her want another bite
- •Ed argues enjoying the “bites” of success increases drive rather than creating complacency
The “one more” standard—and the flip: live like it might be the last time
Ed traces his “one more” principle to a workout with Sylvester Stallone and applies it to relationships, work, and personal promises. He then shares a second practice—treating moments as if they could be the last—to increase presence and value through scarcity.
- •Ed says the “one more” habit came from doing an extra rep during a workout with Sylvester Stallone
- •He applies “one more” to calls, texts, expressions of love, and effort
- •Ed links self-confidence to keeping promises made to yourself
- •He also practices “what if it’s the last one?” to deepen presence and avoid assuming time is unlimited
Real confidence and the identity “thermostat”: changing your setting through proximity
Jay asks about Ed’s evolution from insecurity to confidence. Ed describes identity as an internal thermostat that regulates results regardless of external conditions, and says he changed his “setting” by keeping self-promises and surrounding himself with people who raise his standards—while managing proximity to draining influences.
- •Ed says he was shy and insecure into early adulthood and had to build tools out of necessity
- •He compares identity/self-worth to a thermostat that pulls life back to what you believe you deserve
- •Ed describes relapse patterns (fitness, money) as identity returning you to your default setting
- •He emphasizes proximity: surrounding yourself with happy/fit/faithful people and managing closeness with those who lower your state
Finding higher-temperature people: digital proximity, shared spaces, and serving first
Jay asks how someone without elite access can get close to people who elevate them. Ed suggests using books and podcasts for closeness, going where those people congregate (he cites gyms), and building relationships by bringing value through service without expecting reciprocity—also noting that smaller “degrees ahead” often work best.
- •Ed says digital media (books, podcasts) can create meaningful proximity and influence
- •He recommends asking where the people you admire congregate and going there
- •Ed highlights the gym as a place where growth-minded people often gather
- •He emphasizes serving others first as a way to create real connection, and agrees that “three to five degrees ahead” can be more effective than huge gaps
Huge reasons, high standards, and refusing to negotiate the price of winning
Ed argues specificity is the key to powerful reasons and shares a doctor’s emotional framing after his heart attack that made fitness non-negotiable. He then describes how, during poverty and struggle, he learned to stop “negotiating the price” and decided his will to win—within legal, ethical, and moral boundaries—was not for sale.
- •Ed says most people’s reasons are too general and lack emotional specificity
- •He reveals he had a heart attack at 30 and a doctor tied change to being present for his daughter’s wedding day
- •Ed says big, specific reasons drive standards and consistent action more than logic does
- •He describes deciding in advance to pay the price to win, rather than constantly negotiating during hardship
Closing segments: rapid-fire truths, blessings, and what brings him closest to God
Jay reads a listener comment and Ed expands on paying the price to win, then they move into fill-in-the-blank prompts and a final five Q&A. Ed identifies themes he no longer tolerates, what he’s stopped chasing, and says he feels closest to God when making a difference—especially with his children.
- •Ed says he no longer tolerates fear and worry, and says being average would “destroy” him
- •He says meeting Jay was his last celebrated win and meditation is a favorite self-care practice
- •He names his baseball injury as a blessing he initially resisted and says his children are his biggest contribution
- •Ed says he no longer pursues personal recognition and feels closest to God when helping others and when with his children
