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Jay Shetty PodcastSELENA GOMEZ: “I didn’t recognize myself anymore… then I finally let go and found who I really am”
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Selena Gomez and her mother on healing, imperfection, and mental health
- Selena Gomez explains that releasing her documentary was part of her healing, and that she learned to treat her bipolar disorder as a friend by understanding her triggers, going to therapy, and taking medication.
- She describes taking control of her public narrative by answering negativity with honesty, love, and kindness, and says she wants people to see she is not perfect or fully put together.
- Gomez says she has grown more comfortable with change, especially through months filming in New York, and describes a trip to Africa where she met a woman named Betty and found shared pain across cultures.
- Her mother, Mandy, speaks about becoming a parent at 16, the guilt and grief she carried, her own experience with therapy and treatment, and why she co-founded Wondermind and supports more honest mental health stories on screen.
- The episode closes with a rapid-fire final five covering the best and worst mental health advice, current purpose, and the shared ideas of forgiveness and treating others as you want to be treated.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasLearn about what you fear
Gomez recalls her mom giving her books about storms to ease her tornado fear, and she now applies that approach to depression by learning her triggers and what the condition means.
Make a mental health condition a friend, not an enemy
Gomez says she stopped trying to fix or erase bipolar disorder and instead accepted it, using therapy, medication, and self-knowledge, with her family and friends learning to live with it too.
Imperfection can become the best part
Gomez says mistakes in the studio or on set, like a wrong lyric that became a hook, are moments she craves, and she says there is blessing in the breaking and no perfect way to heal.
Be careful about whom you share your story with
Gomez says sharing struggles can be frightening and even dangerous with the wrong people, so she advises surrounding yourself with supportive people first.
Let yourself have the hard day
Gomez says she sometimes wakes up depressed and can't get out of bed, and she allows herself that day rather than pushing the feeling away, which she says doesn't help.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI would rather continue to get my heart broken than to not feel at all.
— Selena Gomez
I always say that there's, there's blessing in the breaking.
— Selena Gomez
There is no perfect way to heal. There is no perfect way of dealing with something.
— Selena Gomez
I think that I just wanna be enough, and that doesn't have to be me killing myself trying to be number one at something.
— Selena Gomez
We're all loving people the way we wish we were loved, and we're all hurting people the way we wish we weren't hurt.
— Jay Shetty
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Selena Gomez
guestSinger, actress, and mental health advocate; creator of the mental-health platform Wondermind.
Jay Shetty
hostPodcast host and bestselling author; former monk and creator of the show On Purpose.
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