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You Need to Disappoint More People

Disappointing people does not make you a bad person. But if you are always trying to manage everyone else's expectations, you will eventually lose sight of your own. In this episode, I break down how to say no without carrying the weight of someone else's reaction, why the feeling after the no is often harder than the no itself, and how to set a boundary without overexplaining, apologizing, or backing down. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter Thank you to our Sponsors: Gusto: Go to https://gusto.com/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON to get three months free when you run your first payroll. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/

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Sep 1, 202624mWatch on YouTube ↗

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Released
September 1, 2026
Duration
24m
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The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Disappointing people does not make you a bad person. But if you are always trying to manage everyone else's expectations, you will eventually lose sight of your own. In this episode, I break down how to say no without carrying the weight of someone else's reaction, why the feeling after the no is often harder than the no itself, and how to set a boundary without overexplaining, apologizing, or backing down. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter Thank you to our Sponsors: Gusto: Go to https://gusto.com/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON to get three months free when you run your first payroll. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/

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  • Jefferson Fisher

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    Host of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, focused on communication and leadership advice.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, featuring Jefferson Fisher, You Need to Disappoint More People explores disappointing people is a learnable skill for boundaries and leadership Disappointment is framed as a normal emotion that arises when expectations aren’t met, not as something you must prevent at all costs.

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