You’re Not Responsible for Their Emotions

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

April 1, 2025

Duration

17m

Channel

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You are not a target. Not a punching bag. Not the release valve for someone else’s frustration. In the middle of the book tour whirlwind, I’m reflecting on a powerful review someone left for The Next Conversation and diving into the first and most foundational rule of the book: say it with control. I’ll walk you through a mindset shift that’s helped thousands of people—not just to win arguments, but to protect their peace. We talk about regulating our fight-or-flight response, how to use your breath as a pause button, and why you are never required to absorb someone else’s emotional baggage. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. https://cozyearth.com/pages/jefferson Relationships come with questions. Therapy comes with answers. Use my BetterHelp link for a discount on your first month of therapy. https://www.betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher (Sponsored by BetterHelp) Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Jefferson Fisher

  host

  Communication and relationship advice creator and host of the Jefferson Fisher channel.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, featuring Jefferson Fisher, You’re Not Responsible for Their Emotions explores Regulate conflict responses: you’re not responsible for others’ emotions Fisher’s core message is that you are not a punching bag or responsible for absorbing other people’s frustration, anger, or insecurity.

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