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Lewis HowesAFTER THIS You'll Change How You DO EVERYTHING | Tony Robbins & Lewis Howes
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Growing Up Poor and Feeding Millions
Lewis welcomes listeners to the interview on Tony Robbins' jet and raises Tony's poverty-stricken childhood. Tony describes how being fed as a boy led him to feed families, and how that grew into feeding 100 million people a year with a plan for a billion.
- •Tony had no money for Thanksgiving food growing up
- •He started feeding two families at 17 and kept doubling the number
- •He gave a $5 million book advance to Feeding America
- •He fed 102 million people last year and plans to feed a billion over the next 10 years
Why Giving Comes Before Wealth
Lewis asks how someone with little can adopt a giving mindset. Tony argues you must start giving before you feel rich, citing the sixth-graders he promised to send to college and his midnight realization that the secret to living is giving.
- •If you won't give a dime of a dollar, you won't give 10 million of 100 million
- •He offered to sponsor sixth graders' college with a community service requirement
- •He pulled over at midnight and wrote 'The secret to living is giving'
- •Most people overestimate a year and underestimate a decade
The El Torito Story and Letting Go of Scarcity
Tony tells of being nearly broke in a Venice apartment, giving his last money to a boy taking his mother to lunch, and receiving a repayment the next day. He credits it with ending his sense of scarcity and cites tithing and Sir John Templeton's advice.
- •He gave his last $17–19 to a nine-year-old at El Torito
- •He walked home feeling no fear or scarcity
- •A loan he had given out was repaid with interest the next day
- •He says he has never gone back to that level of scarcity
- •Sir John Templeton told him to tithe more
Influences, Mentors, and Staying Hungry
Asked about his most influential person, Tony discusses his difficult mother and his mentors. Asked for a single strategy, he refuses and instead names hunger as the common denominator of top achievers, followed by modeling.
- •His mother was abusive but gave him a high standard and made him a practical psychologist
- •Mentors include Jim Rohn, John Grinder, Peter Guber and Mark Benioff
- •He rejects the idea of one strategy and says hunger is the key trait
- •Modeling lets you learn in hours what takes decades; he read 700 books in seven years
- •Staying hungry means getting around people where it's better
Legacy: Planting Seeds and Being a Blessing
Lewis asks about Tony's vision and legacy. Tony cites a line from Hamilton about planting seeds in a garden you'll never see, saying his legacy is human lives and institutions, and that growth and giving bring fulfillment.
- •Legacy is described as planting seeds in a garden you'll never see
- •His daily prayer is to be a blessing
- •He wants to be climbing the mountain when he dies, not sliding
- •Happiness is one word: progress, ideally in service of more than yourself
Staying Grounded: Ego, Grace, and a Teenage Sportscaster Dream
Asked how he stays grounded, Tony recounts becoming a teen sportscaster and his mother forcing him to turn the job down. He reflects on ego, grace, and how his early defensiveness toward psychologists gave way to training 100,000 therapists.
- •He got a nightly sportscaster offer at 15, which his mother refused
- •The experience made him sensitive to athletes who wouldn't sign cards for kids
- •He says his success includes grace as well as hard work
- •Ego can produce drive but won't be fulfilling
- •He once attacked psychologists out of defensiveness and has since trained 100,000 therapists
Failure and the Purpose of Goals
Lewis asks whether everything Tony touches succeeds. Tony says failure is a stepping stone, that sharing his failures helps him influence people, and that the purpose of a goal is who you become.
- •Failure is a speed bump and not failure if you learn something
- •Talking about failures makes him relatable
- •People don't value what they don't fight for
- •The purpose of a goal is who you become
- •He doesn't look for an effortless approach
Money and Marriage: The Squeaky Negotiator
Lewis asks how important it is to have the right partner for building wealth. Tony says one partner must master money and the couple needs alignment, illustrating with his wife's hard bargaining at a camera shop and his choice to be in love over being right.
- •A partner won't affect how much you make but affects the relationship
- •He became the earner and his wife the negotiator and cost manager
- •The Times Square camera story led to a big fight
- •He chooses to be in love rather than right
- •He tries to understand his wife's intent and sees her as a balance
Money as a Magnifier and Understanding the Rigged System
Lewis asks how to shift a negative story about money. Tony says money magnifies who you are, argues about the global 1%, and says the system is rigged but you can still win by learning the rules, including the irrelevance of high-frequency traders to long-term investors.
- •Money doesn't change people; it makes you more of what you are
- •Half the planet lives on $2.50 a day
- •The system is rigged against you but you can still win
- •High-frequency traders matter to traders, not long-term investors
- •His book is meant to help millennials with debt and baby boomers behind on savings
Fees, Fiduciaries, and the Dual Registration Problem
Tony explains the one thing investors can control, fees, and shows how compounding fees erode wealth. He describes his tools, the case for fiduciaries, and his discovery of dual registration, which led him to partner with Creative Planning.
- •You can't control markets but you can control fees
- •He cites showmethefees.com and portfoliocheckup.com
- •The average mutual fund costs 3.12% versus 14 basis points for a Vanguard index fund
- •Fiduciaries are legally required to put clients first
- •Dual registration lets advisors switch to selling products as brokers
- •He partnered with Peter Mallouk's Creative Planning to serve smaller investors
Gratitude, Family, and Work-Life Integration
After a book giveaway announcement, Lewis asks what Tony is most grateful for. Tony names his wife, talks about his children's involvement in his mission, and says he prefers work-life integration over balance.
- •Lewis offers books to the first 100 commenters, and Tony says every book bought feeds 50 people
- •Tony is most grateful for his wife
- •His sons are involved in his mission
- •Balance is boring for overachievers; he prefers integration
Three Truths and Choosing a Beautiful State
Asked for three truths to leave a descendant, Tony answers: love is everything, the secret to living is giving, and decide to be happy no matter what. He explains suffering versus beautiful states, his 90-second rule, and the idea that peak experiences involve growth plus contribution.
- •His three truths are love, giving, and committing to happiness no matter what
- •Lost, less and never are sources of suffering, which he says is obsession with self
- •He kills suffering within 90 seconds
- •Highest experiences involve growth and contribution beyond oneself
- •He measures his state moment to moment, using appreciation and gratitude
Acknowledgment and Greatness in Givers and Nuns
Lewis thanks Tony for the impact of seeing him at 16. Asked who defines greatness, Tony cites friends who are givers and tells of helping a group of nuns facing eviction, ending with his interest in the few people who have it all.
- •Lewis recalls Tony's energy at a St. Louis event as a catalyst
- •Tony names Benioff, Wynn, Guber and Paul Tudor Jones as great givers
- •He worked out a deal to keep nuns in San Francisco's Tenderloin from eviction and bought them a soup kitchen
- •Greatness is committing to something bigger than yourself and being able to achieve and give
