"I AM WEALTHY" - 3 Steps To Manifest MONEY, SUCCESS & HAPPINESS! | Ken Honda & Lewis Howes

1. 0:00 – 3:11

   Affirmations and Early Money Memories

   1. KHKen Honda0:00

      If you can control this greed in you, uh, that I need to have more.

   2. LHLewis Howes0:04

      Mm-hmm.

   3. KHKen Honda0:05

      It's almost like you're brainwashed by-

   4. LHLewis Howes0:07

      I think you gotta have a dream.

   5. SPSpeaker0:08

      The School of Greatness.

   6. LHLewis Howes0:09

      [laughs] Yeah.

   7. SPSpeaker0:11

      Please welcome Lewis Howes.

   8. LHLewis Howes0:13

      Do you have a, an affirmation that you can give people, or that we could work on together to support people whenever they feel stress around money-

   9. KHKen Honda0:22

      Mm-hmm

   10. LHLewis Howes0:22

       ... that they can say this affirmation that will give them more peace. Do you have anything?

   11. KHKen Honda0:27

       Uh, yeah, something like, "Money is love. Money is my friend. Money can help me achieve my dreams." So whatever positive affirmations you can come up with, I think anything is good. But I think, uh, "Money is my best friend," is a good affirmation. When you worry about money, uh, I, I say, I would say, "Money is love." So when you think in my head money is love, instead of money is a scary person-

   12. LHLewis Howes0:55

       Mm-hmm

   13. KHKen Honda0:55

       ... I think, uh, you feel, uh, a lot less stress.

   14. LHLewis Howes0:58

       But how does someone, if they've lived in stress around money for-

   15. KHKen Honda1:02

       Mm

   16. LHLewis Howes1:03

       ... their whole life.

   17. KHKen Honda1:04

       Mm-hmm.

   18. LHLewis Howes1:04

       Their entire life they've been afraid, how can they start to use that affirmation, and how long will it take for them to start to believe it, to feel it?

   19. KHKen Honda1:13

       So I think you have to, um, think back, look back on your relationship with money-

   20. LHLewis Howes1:20

       Mm

   21. KHKen Honda1:20

       ... since you were five or six. We wake up to the reality of the world when we're around five, six, seven. I used to be a volunteer at my, uh, daughter's, uh, kindergarten.

   22. LHLewis Howes1:31

       Mm-hmm.

   23. KHKen Honda1:31

       And, uh, I ask, uh, one of the, uh, one of the boys at the kindergarten, "And, uh, what are you gonna get for Christmas?" And he said, "No, Santa Claus is not coming." And I thought, "Oh, why? Why is that?" And he said, "Because my, my hou- my parents are poor." [laughs]

   24. LHLewis Howes1:49

       Interesting.

   25. KHKen Honda1:50

       "Oh, really? Who told you that?" And he said, "My mom." [laughs]

   26. LHLewis Howes1:53

       Wow.

   27. KHKen Honda1:54

       So, like we are waking up to the reality when we are small, and then since then we've had so many negative messages around money. So, uh, I have a fun collection of saying, uh, when I visited, uh, uh, Europe la- uh, few, few weeks ago. There's, uh, uh, uh, the, all the sayings that, uh, we're told since we are five or six, "Money they don't go- grow on trees," in America, right?

   28. LHLewis Howes2:19

       Yeah.

   29. KHKen Honda2:19

       If you don't have money, you don't have a head. You know, that's a scary thing.

   30. LHLewis Howes2:23

       Sure.
2. 3:11 – 9:17

   Money Taboos in Japan, America and Couples

   1. LHLewis Howes3:11

      And, and you grew up in Japan, is that right?

   2. KHKen Honda3:13

      Mm-hmm.

   3. LHLewis Howes3:13

      And so in Japan, are people just as anxious and stressed about money as they are-

   4. KHKen Honda3:18

      [laughs]

   5. LHLewis Howes3:18

      ... in America, or is there a different belief around it?

   6. KHKen Honda3:21

      Yes. We have a different kind of stress.

   7. LHLewis Howes3:24

      [laughs]

   8. KHKen Honda3:24

      You know, because it's so interesting. In North America when, uh, say your college buddies, right? After 20 years of, uh, um, graduation, you bump into one another and you don't, you don't ask each other, how much do you make a year, right?

   9. LHLewis Howes3:39

      Not in, in US, no.

   10. KHKen Honda3:40

       No, right? And in Japan, we, we casually talk about it.

   11. LHLewis Howes3:44

       You talk about how much you make?

   12. KHKen Honda3:45

       Yes.

   13. LHLewis Howes3:45

       Really?

   14. KHKen Honda3:45

       But in North America, I think you're gonna lose a friend-

   15. LHLewis Howes3:48

       Right

   16. KHKen Honda3:49

       ... if you bring that, uh, question.

   17. LHLewis Howes3:51

       Why do you, in Japan, do people in the culture talk about money and how much someone makes-

   18. KHKen Honda3:56

       Mm-hmm

   19. LHLewis Howes3:56

       ... more frequently?

   20. KHKen Honda3:57

       Because I think, uh, how much you make is not as tied up with how much, uh, uh, how much your worth is. But in North America, it seems culturally, it's not- not- nothing wrong, but how much you have or how much you make equals how much you're worth.

   21. LHLewis Howes4:15

       Mm.

   22. KHKen Honda4:15

       So it's more a taboo here. But it's, what's, it's interesting is like when you grab your Japanese, uh, uh, you know, friend and then ask him how mu- how many times you have sex, he's gonna freak out. [laughs]

   23. LHLewis Howes4:27

       [laughs] Right.

   24. KHKen Honda4:27

       So.

   25. LHLewis Howes4:28

       But in America, people might talk about it more.

   26. KHKen Honda4:30

       Right. They will probably, you know-

   27. LHLewis Howes4:32

       Brag about it or something

   28. KHKen Honda4:32

       ... enjoy talking about it, right? So I think there is a different kind of taboos.

   29. LHLewis Howes4:36

       That's interesting.

   30. KHKen Honda4:36

       Which I really enjoy so much.
3. 9:17 – 15:13

   Greed, Enough, and Invisible Assets

   1. LHLewis Howes9:17

      I'm curious, what do you think are some of the beliefs that hold people back from keeping them to create the wealth-

   2. KHKen Honda9:27

      Mm

   3. LHLewis Howes9:27

      ... that they wanna have-

   4. KHKen Honda9:28

      Mm

   5. LHLewis Howes9:28

      ... from making more money? What are some of those beliefs that says, "I'm not able to do this because..."

   6. KHKen Honda9:33

      Mm-hmm.

   7. LHLewis Howes9:33

      Why?

   8. KHKen Honda9:34

      Mm-hmm. Because we feel so unworthy for the abundance.

   9. LHLewis Howes9:38

      Mm-hmm.

   10. KHKen Honda9:39

       So, uh, uh, it doesn't really matter how much money you make or how much money you have. After paying all the bills, you don't have much money left.

   11. LHLewis Howes9:46

       [laughs] Taxes, bills, everything, yeah.

   12. KHKen Honda9:48

       Right. If you pay, uh, if you make, uh, $30,000 or $100,000 or $1 million, because the cost is going higher, if you-

   13. LHLewis Howes9:59

       Your lifestyle, yes.

   14. KHKen Honda10:00

       Right, and, and you used to have one car, secondhand car, now you, you need Tesla, you know? [laughs] And, uh, you need second home and third home. So you really have to, uh, see, uh, how to satisfy with yourself with less.

   15. LHLewis Howes10:15

       Yes.

   16. KHKen Honda10:16

       And at the same time, um, you can have more, so you can, you can have more than necessary, but, uh, um, the food prices are going up, and the gas prices are going up, so we almost like drowning in the sea of bills.

   17. LHLewis Howes10:32

       Yes.

   18. KHKen Honda10:32

       And then [laughs] they're just, you know, g- going up, and then we are drowning in the, in that.

   19. LHLewis Howes10:37

       Right.

   20. KHKen Honda10:37

       So instead of feeling that or overwhelmed by the bills, you can be creative and come up with the ideas that you can contribute to the world. So by doing more contribution, you get more money.

   21. LHLewis Howes10:50

       Mm-hmm.

   22. KHKen Honda10:51

       So if you are more creative about, uh, serving the world, serving other people with your gifts, with who you are, you can create the flow of happy money, and as a result, you can receive more money. And if you can control this greed in you, uh, that I need to have more-

   23. LHLewis Howes11:09

       Mm

   24. KHKen Honda11:09

       ... it's almost like you're brainwashed by marketing techniques.

   25. LHLewis Howes11:12

       Mm-hmm.

   26. KHKen Honda11:13

       And, uh, even though you are wealthy, you keep complaining about, um, how much you don't have. Once I had an interview with a, a own- a private jet owner, and I thought, "You are such a big success," and he said, "No, no, no, I'm just a small thing because, uh, my, when I pull over to this, uh, special in the terminal-"

   27. LHLewis Howes11:32

       There's a bigger jet. [laughs]

   28. KHKen Honda11:34

       "There's a lot bigger jets, and mine is so small, you know? It seats only six people, so I feel so small when I pull over with my Mercedes because there are just, uh, Rolls-Royce and all the big cars, and then I feel so small." So you have to ask yourself, when is enough? How much is enough? That's when I, uh, my Zen, uh, teaching comes in.

   29. LHLewis Howes11:57

       Mm.

   30. KHKen Honda11:57

       You have to know who you are, and you have to know the, uh, right money container size. I think we're born with a certain money container size.
4. 15:13 – 18:06

   Honda's Year Living on American Generosity

   1. KHKen Honda15:13

      Yes, yes. And talking about, uh, inv- invisible assets and generosity, I so want to apprec- show my appreciation to American people. Uh, 30 years ago, um, uh, 30-some years ago, I was 19.

   2. LHLewis Howes15:24

      Mm.

   3. KHKen Honda15:25

      And, uh, I made up my mind to explore this kindness factor in North America. And, uh, I came here with n- without much money, and, um, I tried to have a, a one-year experiment

   4. LHLewis Howes15:38

      Really?

   5. KHKen Honda15:38

      ... depending on generosity of American people.

   6. LHLewis Howes15:41

      When you were 19?

   7. KHKen Honda15:42

      Yes. And I bump into, like say, uh, an old man in, in, in the park, and then I ask him, uh, uh, "Is there any restaurant that I can eat for..." At, at the very, very, you know, no money. And he said, "Okay, I'll take you there." And they pay for my dinner.

   8. LHLewis Howes15:55

      Wow.

   9. KHKen Honda15:55

      "And, uh, if you don't have any place, uh, why don't you stay with me?" So for whole year in 1987, I depended on p- American people's generosity, and after one year, I had the same amount of bank account, uh, m- money, and then I could go back.

   10. LHLewis Howes16:14

       Wow.

   11. KHKen Honda16:14

       And I've been writing, you know, my, uh, my experiences I've got, and it's, uh, National Bethel as well. So, uh, America is s- so generous, and I think people may not feel if, because you're living here. So I really, uh, believe in American people's generosity and openness. Uh, some people just let me stay as long as they, uh, as long as I wanted.

   12. LHLewis Howes16:36

       Wow.

   13. KHKen Honda16:37

       Yeah, so I, um, I, I still, uh, feel like I, I, I owe America a lot.

   14. LHLewis Howes16:43

       That's beautiful. How many people helped you in that year?

   15. KHKen Honda16:45

       I think probably at least 16 or, uh, or 20 people.

   16. LHLewis Howes16:48

       That either paid for something or let you stay at their place, or-

   17. KHKen Honda16:51

       Yes

   18. LHLewis Howes16:51

       ... helped you in some way?

   19. KHKen Honda16:52

       Yeah. So whenever I bump into an American, young people, like, "Okay, I'll buy you l- lunch and dinner."

   20. LHLewis Howes16:58

       [laughs]

   21. KHKen Honda16:58

       In Thailand, they are bumping-

   22. LHLewis Howes16:59

       Sure

   23. KHKen Honda16:59

       ... into American tourists, you know, like backpackers, and, "Okay, I'm gonna pay your, uh, lunch," because somebody else, an American-

   24. LHLewis Howes17:06

       Wow, man

   25. KHKen Honda17:06

       ... just, uh, they, they pay mine.

   26. LHLewis Howes17:08

       That's beautiful.

   27. KHKen Honda17:09

       So I try to pick up, uh, uh, the tab, uh, for Americans especially.

   28. LHLewis Howes17:14

       That's interesting, because when I was in my early 20s struggling financially

   29. KHKen Honda17:19

       Mm-hmm

   30. LHLewis Howes17:19

       ... I was reaching out on LinkedIn to, uh, business leaders, mentors that I thought could help me.
5. 18:06 – 22:24

   Money Container Size and Dying with Zero

   1. LHLewis Howes18:06

      So I wanna ask you about the money container

   2. KHKen Honda18:10

      Mm-hmm

   3. LHLewis Howes18:10

      ... size, which I think is interesting. Do you feel like we're all born with a certain size of a container?

   4. KHKen Honda18:17

      Mm-hmm

   5. LHLewis Howes18:18

      For how much money we should be able to bring in, or does the container expand and grow based on our environments-

   6. KHKen Honda18:24

      Yes

   7. LHLewis Howes18:25

      ... on our, who we grow up with-

   8. KHKen Honda18:26

      Mm-hmm

   9. LHLewis Howes18:27

      ... our wisdom. Can you talk about that?

   10. KHKen Honda18:28

       Of course, of course. Like, uh, say, like some scholars, you know, who are not interested in money at all, they focus on their research and what they can, uh, do academically. So their, um, money container is small, but they're okay.

   11. LHLewis Howes18:43

       Right.

   12. KHKen Honda18:43

       And I call them, uh, money indifferent type, by the way.

   13. LHLewis Howes18:46

       Money different?

   14. KHKen Honda18:47

       Money indifferent type.

   15. LHLewis Howes18:48

       Money indifferent.

   16. KHKen Honda18:48

       They have no interest.

   17. LHLewis Howes18:49

       They don't care about money.

   18. KHKen Honda18:50

       Yes. And, uh-

   19. LHLewis Howes18:51

       Just enough to provide for their food-

   20. KHKen Honda18:52

       Yes

   21. LHLewis Howes18:52

       ... and their house and-

   22. KHKen Honda18:53

       Yeah, so, so some, uh, government workers, like politicians or nurses, I see them among, you know, uh, those occupation who are giver, who are just service people, right? And like a, some military people-

   23. LHLewis Howes19:04

       Yeah

   24. KHKen Honda19:04

       ... who are really into service.

   25. LHLewis Howes19:06

       Right.

   26. KHKen Honda19:06

       And then they don't really care, uh, how much they have, as long as they can-

   27. LHLewis Howes19:09

       Yeah

   28. KHKen Honda19:09

       ... you know, make a living.

   29. LHLewis Howes19:10

       Right. Right.

   30. KHKen Honda19:11

       So, so those people are born with small ones. And of course, by learning about business and investment, you can make the, your, uh, money container bigger.
6. 22:24 – 25:06

   Money EQ: Makers, Spenders, Savers and Worriers

   1. LHLewis Howes22:24

      Why do you think people are so greedy to want to make more money, and they have this greed inside of them to have, to accumulate, to attract more? Why do you think that is? And what's the difference between wanting to make more money for a good reason-

   2. KHKen Honda22:39

      Uh-huh

   3. LHLewis Howes22:40

      ... and wanting to make more money-

   4. KHKen Honda22:41

      [laughs]

   5. LHLewis Howes22:41

      ... because of greed?

   6. KHKen Honda22:42

      Right. Lewis, you keep asking me so many great questions.

   7. LHLewis Howes22:45

      [laughs]

   8. KHKen Honda22:46

      I'm so enjoying the interview.

   9. LHLewis Howes22:47

      Thank you.

   10. KHKen Honda22:47

       Yeah, I just wanted to appreciate.

   11. LHLewis Howes22:49

       Thank you.

   12. KHKen Honda22:49

       So, um, there are many ways to react to financial situation. I have, uh, taught about money EQ.

   13. LHLewis Howes22:57

       Mm-hmm.

   14. KHKen Honda22:57

       So, um, when we're, um... I realized this when I was at a, a, um, conference table to file, um, inheritance taxes for wealthy men, and, uh, here there are three, three, uh, people, their kids, right? A wife and three kids, and they're born and brought up in the same household, but the, the eldest son looks like a Wall Street type, you know, nice wear, suit and short haircut, and the second daughter looks very, uh, humble, and the third one looks like hippie. [laughs] And I-

   15. LHLewis Howes23:29

       Sure

   16. KHKen Honda23:29

       ... w- is, are they real-

   17. LHLewis Howes23:31

       Is it that hippie [laughs]

   18. KHKen Honda23:31

       ... related? And then I realized that to financial situation, if you're worried, um, you might end up becoming a, a money maker, you know? They're addicted-

   19. LHLewis Howes23:41

       If you're worried.

   20. KHKen Honda23:42

       If you're worried.

   21. LHLewis Howes23:43

       If the responsibility is on you-

   22. KHKen Honda23:45

       Right, so you-

   23. LHLewis Howes23:45

       ... you're the older ch- Yeah

   24. KHKen Honda23:47

       ... by making more money, you try to fix the worry.

   25. LHLewis Howes23:49

       Mm.

   26. KHKen Honda23:50

       And, uh, and if you worry, you may want to become a spender because you feel powerful when you spend the money. So if you worry, you want to be a saver. By saving, you can feel the security.

   27. LHLewis Howes24:04

       Yes.

   28. KHKen Honda24:04

       And so, um, uh, there will be a worrier. You know, you, you do nothing, but you keep worrying.

   29. LHLewis Howes24:09

       Yes. [laughs]

   30. KHKen Honda24:10

       So to, uh, financial situation, there can be many different ways, and, uh, different personalities are born. So I'm fascinated with the subject because, uh, you never knew that you're a spender. ... you're a, a money maker. And, uh, your question comes toward, um, money maker type.
7. 25:06 – 34:02

   Economic Uncertainty and Investing in Yourself

   1. LHLewis Howes25:06

      there's so much happening with the end talks, specifically in America, with interest rates going up in America-

   2. KHKen Honda25:13

      Mm-hmm

   3. LHLewis Howes25:13

      ... inflation going up to over 8.5% recently, I think. You know, the housing market, uh, and just the uncertainty of the economic situation-

   4. KHKen Honda25:24

      Mm-hmm

   5. LHLewis Howes25:24

      ... in America.

   6. KHKen Honda25:25

      Mm-hmm.

   7. LHLewis Howes25:27

      What do you think people should be investing in? What types of assets for the next, you know, few years with all the uncertainty? What would be a great investment-

   8. KHKen Honda25:38

      Mm-hmm

   9. LHLewis Howes25:38

      ... that's not a try to get rich quick-

   10. KHKen Honda25:40

       Mm-hmm

   11. LHLewis Howes25:41

       ... investment, but something that would deliver good returns-

   12. KHKen Honda25:44

       Mm-hmm

   13. LHLewis Howes25:44

       ... hopefully over time?

   14. KHKen Honda25:45

       Right. So I taught this course online, and like 8,000 people, um, watched me-

   15. LHLewis Howes25:51

       Wow

   16. KHKen Honda25:51

       ... uh, teach this online. So, um, I taught about, uh, financial independence and visible assets and indivisible, invisible assets.

   17. LHLewis Howes26:01

       Mm-hmm.

   18. KHKen Honda26:01

       I see there is w- there is gonna be a big change. It could come as a crash of Wall Street, but, uh, it's, uh, more, uh... I think I see a bigger thing is, is gonna come.

   19. LHLewis Howes26:13

       Like what?

   20. KHKen Honda26:14

       Like, uh, the, the collapse of financial system.

   21. LHLewis Howes26:17

       Really?

   22. KHKen Honda26:17

       Because, uh, we've, uh, printed so much money, and then it's going crazy. It's out, out of control. So, um, we never know what's gonna happen. Nobody can predict. So, uh, even if you are investing in, uh, uh, uh, Bitcoins and cryptocurrency, it shot up and then down. And, uh, gold and silver is, uh, real gold coins and silver coins for not super wealthy people, I recommend that. But, you know, in 1930s, uh, US government prohibited from owning, uh, gold. Uh, so-

   23. LHLewis Howes26:52

       Really? Why?

   24. KHKen Honda26:52

       You have to... Uh, because, uh, it, uh, to protect, um, uh, dollars.

   25. LHLewis Howes26:56

       Mm.

   26. KHKen Honda26:57

       So if that kind of thing happens, uh, even though, uh, investment in gold is good, but it, it... Well, what if they change the law and then it could become a felony, uh, without, uh, of, about owning, uh, gold-

   27. LHLewis Howes27:11

       Gold, yeah

   28. KHKen Honda27:11

       ... without reporting it, right? So those things, uh, real estate can be, uh, quite risky because it shot up that much. It could possibly go down at least t- back to 10 years or 20, 30 years.

   29. LHLewis Howes27:24

       Right.

   30. KHKen Honda27:24

       So all the thing that it got inflated could go down. So there is no safe investment. That is something that you have to really know. So whatever you invest could end up in half or 30% down. So instead, I recommend people start looking at invisible assets because, uh, what if, um, you lose everything overnight? Uh, if you have gold, uh, what if the government tries to take away to pay all the bills and stuff, which is really happening in China, by the way.
8. 34:02 – 42:39

   Three Steps to Prepare: Peace, Inventory, Support

   1. LHLewis Howes34:02

      What, for everyone listening and watching right now, what would be the next three steps they should take after listening or watching to this-

   2. KHKen Honda34:09

      Mm-hmm, mm-hmm

   3. LHLewis Howes34:10

      ... around their invisible assets, their visible assets, or just the next three steps they should take in life to prepare for this?

   4. KHKen Honda34:18

      Right. So mentally, you have to be ready to find your peace of mind. So you can start counting your blessings, start appreciating what you have, and, uh, enjoy the flow of happy money. So when money comes in, you can say, "Thank you for the money given to me." When you pay for the bills, "Thank you, I have enough abundance, so I can pay the bills," and start blessing people that you're giving money to. So by doing that, you can find your, uh, peace of mind-

   5. LHLewis Howes34:49

      Yes

   6. KHKen Honda34:50

      ... in whatever you do, and [laughs] I think that's, that's a basic.

   7. LHLewis Howes34:53

      That's number one, okay.

   8. KHKen Honda34:54

      That's the base. And also secondly, you have to start, uh, figuring out your inventory, what you have and who you are.

   9. LHLewis Howes35:02

      What type of inventory?

   10. KHKen Honda35:03

       Uh, both emotional and also, uh, your gift. I never knew I could write until I was 33.

   11. LHLewis Howes35:11

       Really?

   12. KHKen Honda35:12

       My, uh, parents were so surprised, and my brother and sister, and many of my, uh, uh, friends were so surprised that I became a, a author. And I was the, the one who [laughs] gets surprised most, by the way.

   13. LHLewis Howes35:25

       Yeah.

   14. KHKen Honda35:26

       So I didn't know until I started writing. So I'm sure they ha- you have some kind of gifts buried in you. For example, Lewis, you are, uh, an athlete, so definitely you k- you knew, uh, your gift as an athlete, but probably you didn't know, um, that you had a gift as an in- interviewer.

   15. LHLewis Howes35:44

       No, I had no idea.

   16. KHKen Honda35:45

       Speaker.

   17. LHLewis Howes35:46

       Yeah.

   18. KHKen Honda35:46

       Writer.

   19. LHLewis Howes35:47

       I had no idea.

   20. KHKen Honda35:47

       Right, writer, right?

   21. LHLewis Howes35:48

       Yeah.

   22. KHKen Honda35:48

       And also, uh, somebody who can motivate people.

   23. LHLewis Howes35:51

       Right.

   24. KHKen Honda35:51

       You know, you use it o- for you to motivate yourself.

   25. LHLewis Howes35:55

       Mm-hmm.

   26. KHKen Honda35:55

       But you didn't know you can impact millions of people.

   27. LHLewis Howes35:57

       I had no idea.

   28. KHKen Honda35:58

       Right? So, like, when you are young, uh, in your 30s and 40s, you never knew.

   29. LHLewis Howes36:03

       Mm-hmm.

   30. KHKen Honda36:03

       And so you have to start looking at-
9. 42:39 – 48:48

   Money Magnetism, Your Reserved Seat and Listening to Your Heart

   1. LHLewis Howes42:39

      In your book, which I love by the way, again, I wanna, I wanna get this book, Happy Money, you talk about, I think you use a concept called money magnet or like we're, humans are like magnets and-

   2. KHKen Honda42:50

      Mm-hmm

   3. LHLewis Howes42:50

      ... uh, for money, right?

   4. KHKen Honda42:51

      Right.

   5. LHLewis Howes42:51

      And some people, it doesn't matter if you are a good person or a bad person, right?

   6. KHKen Honda42:58

      Yes.

   7. LHLewis Howes42:58

      You, you have an analogy in the book-

   8. KHKen Honda42:59

      Mm-hmm

   9. LHLewis Howes42:59

      ... where you say, you know, if a rock is falling, it doesn't care who it hits.

   10. KHKen Honda43:05

       [laughs]

   11. LHLewis Howes43:05

       It could hit a good person or a bad person.

   12. KHKen Honda43:07

       Right.

   13. LHLewis Howes43:07

       It's gravity is pulling that rock to the ground, and it's gonna hit whoever it hits, right?

   14. KHKen Honda43:12

       Mm-hmm.

   15. LHLewis Howes43:12

       Based on where they're at. So, and you also talk about how most people think that, that it's not fair-

   16. KHKen Honda43:19

       Mm-hmm

   17. LHLewis Howes43:20

       ... when they see someone bad-

   18. KHKen Honda43:21

       Mm

   19. LHLewis Howes43:21

       ... or mean or greedy making all the money.

   20. KHKen Honda43:25

       Mm-hmm.

   21. LHLewis Howes43:27

       Can you just talk about this concept of being a money magnet?

   22. KHKen Honda43:30

       Mm-hmm.

   23. LHLewis Howes43:30

       And how someone can become more of that?

   24. KHKen Honda43:32

       Mm-hmm. So, uh, once again, you know, we experience our life, uh, according to our beliefs, and some people have, uh, better luck, uh, than others, and, uh, some people work so hard, but they're getting minimum wages.

   25. LHLewis Howes43:47

       Mm-hmm.

   26. KHKen Honda43:48

       So you have to find, uh, your place, your seat, uh, your reserved seat is what I call. Uh, a lot of people try to sit on, uh, um, other people's seat [laughs] which is wrong because your seat is reserved somewhere else. And if you don't sit, uh, on others, uh, other people's seat, uh, what happens is that you get so depressed. Uh, and then you feel so meaningless, you know, so, and all that because you cannot really feel, uh, life. But once you sit on your seat, you are so deep, deeply connected with-

   27. LHLewis Howes44:25

       Mm

   28. KHKen Honda44:25

       ... with your life purpose, then you start, uh, your magnetism, uh, starts, um, uh, gets turned on.

   29. LHLewis Howes44:33

       So how does someone know where their seat is and know how to sit in it and be happy with their seat?

   30. KHKen Honda44:41

       Yeah. So the only thing is ask your heart, what your heart tells you. If you're excited about it, you're going closer.
10. 48:48 – 57:19

    Money as Energy: Hoarding, Flow and Letting Go

    1. LHLewis Howes48:48

       And can you tell me how we can think about money as energy?

    2. KHKen Honda48:52

       Mm-hmm.

    3. LHLewis Howes48:52

       In the book also, I, I saw you writing about how money is energy, and sometimes people try to make it and hold onto it.

    4. KHKen Honda49:00

       Mm-hmm.

    5. LHLewis Howes49:01

       They wanna hold onto it. They wanna stack it in their bank as high as they can go.

    6. KHKen Honda49:04

       Mm-hmm.

    7. LHLewis Howes49:05

       And they don't wanna spend it. Sometimes it happens. What happens when we hoard money, when we keep it, and we don't let it come and go-

    8. KHKen Honda49:14

       Mm

    9. LHLewis Howes49:14

       ... as energy? What happens?

    10. KHKen Honda49:15

        So I have seen so many interesting things. Like, when you, uh... If you hoard your money, a few things happen. You get sick, and-

    11. LHLewis Howes49:24

        Really?

    12. KHKen Honda49:24

        ... then you have to pay for the medical bills.

    13. LHLewis Howes49:26

        Really?

    14. KHKen Honda49:27

        Yeah. Or, like, your kids do something bad, and then you have to pay for the damage. So, uh, money needs outlet. So, uh, it's so interesting how money flows, and if you don't let, uh, let out, uh, your, your, um, money, uh, energy's outlet, it's gonna, uh, it's gonna get bad. It's like a, a pond.

    15. LHLewis Howes49:49

        Mm.

    16. KHKen Honda49:49

        If there's no, uh, fl- uh, flow, uh, the water gets bad.

    17. LHLewis Howes49:54

        Right.

    18. KHKen Honda49:54

        It's like think about your health. If you eat, eat, eat, and don't go to the bathroom-

    19. LHLewis Howes49:58

        [laughs]

    20. KHKen Honda49:59

        [laughs]

    21. LHLewis Howes49:59

        You'll get sick

    22. KHKen Honda50:00

        ... what- what's gonna happen?

    23. LHLewis Howes50:01

        Yeah.

    24. KHKen Honda50:01

        So for, to stay healthy, you have to eat right. You have to release right.

    25. LHLewis Howes50:06

        Yes.

    26. KHKen Honda50:06

        So, uh, for, for hoarding, uh, money, I want to ask them, uh, "You're eating so much, but what if you refuse?" I'll, I'm ne- I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm not gonna go to the bathroom, you know, for the rest of my life.

    27. LHLewis Howes50:19

        Oh, my gosh.

    28. KHKen Honda50:20

        [laughs]

    29. LHLewis Howes50:21

        You'd be sick.

    30. KHKen Honda50:22

        Right, and you cannot-
11. 57:19 – 1:04:12

    Loving Your Money and Asking Where It Wants to Go

    1. LHLewis Howes57:19

       Right. And what happens to people when they speak bad about money? They complain about it.

    2. KHKen Honda57:25

       Mm-hmm.

    3. LHLewis Howes57:27

       They live in scarcity.

    4. KHKen Honda57:28

       [laughs]

    5. LHLewis Howes57:28

       What happens?

    6. KHKen Honda57:29

       Yes. It's a good question. So think of, uh, money as a person. Uh, I always ask, um-

    7. LHLewis Howes57:34

       Ooh

    8. KHKen Honda57:34

       ... you know, I, I talk to thousands of people at a time, and just I as- ask a big audience, uh, "How many of you love money?" You know, if it's a business seminar, they say, "Yes." And, uh, my next question is, "How many people do you think money loves you as much?" And they think-

    9. LHLewis Howes57:51

       Mm

    10. KHKen Honda57:51

        ... "Hm, I love money, but I don't know if I'm-

    11. LHLewis Howes57:53

        [laughs]

    12. KHKen Honda57:53

        ... being loved by money." But the mut- uh, feelings, uh, must be mutual, right? It's the same thing with a p- a relationship.

    13. LHLewis Howes58:02

        Mm-hmm.

    14. KHKen Honda58:02

        Even if you love her, love him so much, if you don't get the same amount of love from, from the other part, it doesn't mean anything.

    15. LHLewis Howes58:10

        So you have to, you have to love your money, and your money has to love you.

    16. KHKen Honda58:14

        Right.

    17. LHLewis Howes58:14

        But if you speak bad about money-

    18. KHKen Honda58:16

        What would you think?

    19. LHLewis Howes58:16

        ... or, or you speak bad about people who have money-

    20. KHKen Honda58:19

        Yes

    21. LHLewis Howes58:19

        ... then why would money love you in return?

    22. KHKen Honda58:21

        Yes.

    23. LHLewis Howes58:22

        So-

    24. KHKen Honda58:22

        So, uh, exactly, thank you for answering me. [laughs]

    25. LHLewis Howes58:25

        [laughs]

    26. KHKen Honda58:25

        Yeah, so that's exact, uh, it like, exactly, uh, what, what, what I want to say.

    27. LHLewis Howes58:30

        Mm-hmm.

    28. KHKen Honda58:30

        If you want to be in love with money, you have to be, you know, you have to respect your money as your best friend or your love of your life, so love, uh, or money can love you back.

    29. LHLewis Howes58:42

        So what are the best ways that we can start respecting our money better, so that our money loves us more and wants to bring more friends?

    30. KHKen Honda58:51

        I always ask my money where it wants to go.
12. 1:04:12 – 1:11:51

    Teaching Kids About Money, Emotions and Giving

    1. LHLewis Howes1:04:12

       What would you say to parents on the three most important things they should be teaching their children-

    2. KHKen Honda1:04:19

       Okay

    3. LHLewis Howes1:04:20

       ... as they get into, you know, after five years old-

    4. KHKen Honda1:04:23

       Uh-huh

    5. LHLewis Howes1:04:23

       ... as they start learning about money and the material world-

    6. KHKen Honda1:04:26

       Mm-hmm

    7. LHLewis Howes1:04:26

       ... what lessons should parent, parents be teaching their kids-

    8. KHKen Honda1:04:30

       Mm-hmm

    9. LHLewis Howes1:04:30

       ... about money-

    10. KHKen Honda1:04:32

        Yeah

    11. LHLewis Howes1:04:32

        ... in, in your opinion?

    12. KHKen Honda1:04:32

        Great. Thank you. So I will, uh, uh, I, I used to, and then, and I think, um, I'm still teaching my, my child, uh, she's 24, so she's grown up, uh, already. But, uh, what, w- the first thing I would teach is money is fun.

    13. LHLewis Howes1:04:47

        Mm.

    14. KHKen Honda1:04:47

        So if your kids know that money is fun, so, uh, we used to sit on a dinner table, uh, just say, uh, uh, "I have this," say, uh, "$10,000 to donate, uh, w- what do you wanna do? You can, you know, help rescue the animals, you can help the environment, you can help the homeless people. What do you want to do? And, uh, when we give presents, uh, what would you wanna do?" So my daughter grew up, uh, thinking money can do so many wonders. So, uh, if, uh, all our kids learned money, mag- money is a magical wand to make people happy, I think people are more excited about getting the money so they have no negative ideas about money. Uh, and, and, uh, i- imagine what if e- all the child are, have never been scolded for wasting their money.

    15. LHLewis Howes1:05:40

        [laughs]

    16. KHKen Honda1:05:41

        I think we'll be s- uh, so stress-free because a lot of worries come from the, the need for survival, and it's attached to money.

    17. LHLewis Howes1:05:50

        Right. Right.

    18. KHKen Honda1:05:51

        So once we are, um, free of money stress, I think, uh, our life would be so different.

    19. LHLewis Howes1:05:57

        Yes.

    20. KHKen Honda1:05:58

        Yeah. So if you can teach money is a, a fun thing, that is a great starter.

    21. LHLewis Howes1:06:03

        Okay. Number one, teach them money is fun.

    22. KHKen Honda1:06:05

        Right. And also, I, I, I want you to, uh, teach, uh, your kids about money and emotions because those things are not taught at school. Um, uh, because even though, uh, your child is growing up with, uh, positive a- positive attitudes, your friends may not, so they, they're trying to compete with you of how much, uh, they have, uh, allowances or like, "This is my new iPhone," something.

    23. LHLewis Howes1:06:35

        Mm. Yes.

    24. KHKen Honda1:06:35

        Or like, "This is my sneakers," or-

    25. LHLewis Howes1:06:37

        Yeah

    26. KHKen Honda1:06:37

        ... whatever that is. And then, uh, people try to manipulate you-

    27. LHLewis Howes1:06:41

        Yeah

    28. KHKen Honda1:06:41

        ... with emotions. So if you start teaching, uh, you feel bad about money, you feel ashamed of money, you feel guilty about r- around money, we all feel some emotions.

    29. LHLewis Howes1:06:53

        Yes.

    30. KHKen Honda1:06:53

        So if you start teaching emotions about, uh, around money- I think your kids will be emotionally free-
13. 1:11:51 – 1:20:09

    Money, Sex, Healing, and Honda's Own Challenge

    1. LHLewis Howes1:11:51

       Speaking of parents-

    2. KHKen Honda1:11:52

       Mm

    3. LHLewis Howes1:11:52

       ... uh, and moving to a related topic-

    4. KHKen Honda1:11:55

       Mm-hmm

    5. LHLewis Howes1:11:55

       ... how does sex and money play together?

    6. KHKen Honda1:12:01

       I cannot, uh, I cannot stop talking, you know. You need five more hours. [laughs]

    7. LHLewis Howes1:12:06

       [laughs]

    8. KHKen Honda1:12:08

       But I think American people especially interested in this.

    9. LHLewis Howes1:12:10

       Yeah.

    10. KHKen Honda1:12:11

        Uh, uh, money and, uh, uh, sex have something in common. It pulls out the best and the worst of you.

    11. LHLewis Howes1:12:19

        Mm.

    12. KHKen Honda1:12:20

        And it, it, it pulls out the best emotions and the worst emotions because it, it, they both, they can show, uh, you, you both heaven and hell.

    13. LHLewis Howes1:12:31

        Right.

    14. KHKen Honda1:12:32

        Because a lot of crimes happen because of these two.

    15. LHLewis Howes1:12:35

        [laughs] It's true.

    16. KHKen Honda1:12:37

        So-

    17. LHLewis Howes1:12:37

        Wow

    18. KHKen Honda1:12:37

        ... uh, with your financial problem and sexual problem, you get the worst out of you. You hate yourself by being such a jerk-

    19. LHLewis Howes1:12:46

        Mm-hmm

    20. KHKen Honda1:12:46

        ... or, you know, bad, bad girl. So, um, it pulls out, uh, a lot of emotions, so you have to be careful because you never know what you get, and, and because it's so suppressed deep with- deep within. But in other words, um, money and sex can be a great healer because it can transform your life.

    21. LHLewis Howes1:13:06

        You say healer?

    22. KHKen Honda1:13:07

        Healer.

    23. LHLewis Howes1:13:08

        Healer.

    24. KHKen Honda1:13:08

        Yes.

    25. LHLewis Howes1:13:09

        Mm.

    26. KHKen Honda1:13:09

        It can transform your life. That's why I call myself money healer. Uh, i- if you heal money, uh, you can heal so many things.

    27. LHLewis Howes1:13:17

        Wow.

    28. KHKen Honda1:13:18

        And, uh, and mo- and money and sex are doing the similar things.

    29. LHLewis Howes1:13:22

        Really?

    30. KHKen Honda1:13:22

        Because it's so attached to your self-worth. Like say, how many people are confident about their sexual situation and financial situation?
14. 1:20:09 – 1:22:43

    Three Truths and Defining Greatness

    1. LHLewis Howes1:20:09

       I asked you this question before.

    2. KHKen Honda1:20:10

       Mm-hmm.

    3. LHLewis Howes1:20:11

       But I'm curious if something else has come up for you.

    4. KHKen Honda1:20:13

       Mm-hmm.

    5. LHLewis Howes1:20:13

       So this is the last couple questions.

    6. KHKen Honda1:20:15

       Yes.

    7. LHLewis Howes1:20:15

       This is called the three truths.

    8. KHKen Honda1:20:17

       Mm.

    9. LHLewis Howes1:20:18

       So imagine it's your last day on earth, many years away.

    10. KHKen Honda1:20:21

        Mm.

    11. LHLewis Howes1:20:21

        You get to live as long as you wanna live-

    12. KHKen Honda1:20:23

        Mm-hmm

    13. LHLewis Howes1:20:23

        ... but you have to call it your last day. You write an- another thousand books.

    14. KHKen Honda1:20:28

        [laughs]

    15. LHLewis Howes1:20:28

        You do all the things you wanna do.

    16. KHKen Honda1:20:29

        Right.

    17. LHLewis Howes1:20:30

        But for whatever reason, all of your work, your books, have to go with you.

    18. KHKen Honda1:20:34

        Mm-hmm.

    19. LHLewis Howes1:20:35

        So we don't have access to this conversation-

    20. KHKen Honda1:20:37

        Right

    21. LHLewis Howes1:20:37

        ... or this book anymore.

    22. KHKen Honda1:20:38

        Mm-hmm.

    23. LHLewis Howes1:20:39

        Hypothetical.

    24. KHKen Honda1:20:40

        Mm-hmm.

    25. LHLewis Howes1:20:40

        But you get to leave behind three lessons to the world.

    26. KHKen Honda1:20:43

        Mm.

    27. LHLewis Howes1:20:43

        Three truths that you would share.

    28. KHKen Honda1:20:45

        Mm-hmm.

    29. LHLewis Howes1:20:45

        This is all we have-

    30. KHKen Honda1:20:46

        Mm
15. 1:22:43 – 1:37:33

    Bonus: Gratitude for Bills, Happiness First, and the Two Florists

    1. LHLewis Howes1:22:43

       I love this approach, and this is something I've been doing for years, actually. I can't remember if I learned this somewhere or if I just saw someone talking about this. When I see payments come through in my email or my bank or wherever they come through, I say thank you. I say thank you every time, whether it's a dollar or, you know, a big check. I'm like, "Thank you, thank you. I really appreciate it." I don't s- I don't say thank you when I'm paying something. W- why? And I'm... I wanna try this, 'cause I think it's an interesting approach. Why should we also say thank you when we're sending out money, uh, to others?

    2. KHKen Honda1:23:15

       Because, uh, if you get a, if you get a bill, that means you... Somebody did something for you. For example, if it's an electricity bill, you know, because of, uh, the electricity company, um, I can use the internet. I can use the lighting and microphone and computer. And it's not only one man job. Uh, there is this, uh, service person. There is this, uh, people who are at the power plants. Uh, and also there is somebody who just brought, uh, oil to Japan from Middle East. And, and there are, I don't know, thousands of people, uh, working for the electricity, and they make sure that it's, uh, in my house installed properly.

    3. LHLewis Howes1:23:58

       Mm.

    4. KHKen Honda1:23:58

       So there are millions of, uh, um, uh, reasons to appreciate the electricity, and if it's, uh, say if, it's a, uh, if it's $300 or $500 or, uh, maybe sha- uh, smaller or bigger, wow, you know. If I'm asked to, uh, install somebody's house with that electricity, I, I cannot do that with this money. So thank you for just giving me, uh, the electricity. Thank, thank you for giving me water. Thank you-

    5. LHLewis Howes1:24:27

       Mm

    6. KHKen Honda1:24:27

       ... for, uh, serving me good meal at the restaurant. Thank you for giving me a ride, like Uber. So you can thank the person who gave you the service and product. So the, the reason you, you have to pay, you're getting something in, in exchange. And usually takes more than one or two or could be 100 people's work. And then-

    7. LHLewis Howes1:24:50

       Yeah

    8. KHKen Honda1:24:51

       ... uh, you ask the money. Thank them, too. So that means the, the money you give to the electricity company will be paid to all the people.

    9. LHLewis Howes1:25:01

       Wow.

    10. KHKen Honda1:25:02

        So, like, I can... It's like a magic wand. E- even if it's $100, this magic wand can s- uh, will start saying, "Thank you, thank you, thank you, guys." [laughs] And so, you know, it'll just, uh, thank... It, it's like a domino effect, effect of, uh, thank you. So it's not just-

    11. LHLewis Howes1:25:19

        Yeah

    12. KHKen Honda1:25:19

        ... thanking your money, thanking the people who are connected with me. So, uh, we are all living on this planet- Together. So if we have this feeling, everybody's feeling this way, we all connected. We all connected with, uh, people in the Middle East, we all connected with the people in Russia, Africa, China, US. Uh, like it or not, we all connected. So do we hate each other or do we appreciate one another? So if we start doing more, there will be, uh, no exploitation of any kind. That's the economy I want to see in the coming years.

    13. LHLewis Howes1:25:58

        Yeah. It's such a, uh, simple philosophy and practice that I think if we can all start to do it a little more with money and with everything, the people that we see, our friends, thanking them when they're coming, thanking them when they're leaving, for their time, their attention. My girlfriend does this with our meals every time we eat together. She's really thank- she puts a lot of time and attention thanking the people that just made this, the people that delivered the food to the restaurant, the people who harvested the food, you know, and all the people. And it's not something I did until about a year ago with food, and it's something that I've sh- I've noticed my digestive system relaxing, like me just taking in the moment and, and feeling a better sense of joy and happiness while eating food, as opposed to just eating protein bars to get to the next thing. Um, but really appreciating it. And I think when we appreciate things, wh- which I'm hearing you say, when you appreciate money, when it comes, when it goes, when you appreciate food, when you appreciate your home, your family, your friends, those things will appreciate in value, and they'll wanna come to you more. Is that what I'm hearing you say?

    14. KHKen Honda1:27:09

        Yes, exactly. And, and, uh, Lewis, you know what I, what I've been talking about, and you've been practicing it without knowing maybe. But, uh, I think you've been doing it as a natural person. You know, there are a certain thing like a natural business person, natural artist. So you're one of the natural people who, who just f- uh, appreciate things. You know-

    15. LHLewis Howes1:27:30

        I believe, yeah

    16. KHKen Honda1:27:30

        ... that's why you're successful and people love you. And, uh, so if you want to be like, uh, if, if, if, if the viewers like, uh, want to be like Lewis, you have to learn what he's doing, [laughs] you know? So it's not just, uh, small habits, but I think the attitude, uh-

    17. LHLewis Howes1:27:46

        Mm

    18. KHKen Honda1:27:46

        ... uh, toward life. And somehow, um, there are the only two kinds, you know. One, one kind is, uh, people who k- keep appreciating, the other one keep, um, complaining about it. So if you just, uh, you know... It could be s- something very small, but after 20 years, your life will be very different. So I hope-

    19. LHLewis Howes1:28:09

        Mm

    20. KHKen Honda1:28:09

        ... everybody will appreciate one another a little bit w- a little bit more from yesterday.

    21. LHLewis Howes1:28:14

        And what happens if we start complaining about money more, whether it be just kind of frustrated, little comments here and there? You know, what happens to m- to money in our life when we complain about it as opposed to appreciate it and, and thank it?

    22. KHKen Honda1:28:29

        So, uh, if you start complaining about money, uh, like 95, 5% of us, [laughs]

    23. LHLewis Howes1:28:35

        Mm-hmm

    24. KHKen Honda1:28:35

        ... money, just, uh, look at from a money's perspective. You know, if you've been complaining about it, "Oh, I don't wanna go to him anymore," [laughs] and then-

    25. LHLewis Howes1:28:45

        [laughs]

    26. KHKen Honda1:28:45

        ... and, and it's like a mutual. Feeling is, feeling is mutual. Okay, you, you can complain, "Okay, fine. I'm not gonna come to you." [laughs] So, uh, and I think subconsciously, if you're complaining about money, you don't want it to be near you. So my favorite question to people is, "If money was a person, who would it be?" That means-

    27. LHLewis Howes1:29:09

        Mm

    28. KHKen Honda1:29:09

        ... uh, if money was a person, would it be a fun person, always joking, always making, uh, entertaining you? Or is somebody like a, a assassin, you know, who's, who's gonna try to hurt you or scare you, or gangsters who try to, you know, uh, uh, intimidate you. So, uh, if you're complaining, money may not be a such a fun, good person. So I, I think by complaining, you become... uh, you make money a villain, and you don't want the scary person to live in your house. So, uh, for happy, wealthy people, money is their best friend.

    29. LHLewis Howes1:29:49

        How do we reprogram our minds to either heal or shift our perspective to be ready for the money, the relationship, the, the healthier opportunity for us?

    30. KHKen Honda1:30:03

        I think the question should be what do you need, why or n- what, why, what do you need the money for? Unless you're clear with what you wanna do, I think you will never be ready. Uh, I, I have a, a, you know, young, young people like your young per- you know, you young person back they, back then, say, "Ken, I wanna make $1 trillion." [laughs] "I wanna be a billionaire."

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