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Lewis HowesMONEY WILL FLOW LIKE CRAZY! (How To Manifest Success & Riches) | Dr Joe Dispenza
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How Childhood Programming Shapes Our Relationship With Money
- SPSpeaker
I think it's so important for people to remember that they're the creators of their lives instead of the victim of their lives, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the victim is saying, "I'm feeling this way because that person or that circumstance, or I don't have any money, is causing me to feel this way. This is my relationship with money." What that really means is I'm using my lack to-
- LHLewis Howes
I think you gotta have a dream.
- SPSpeaker
The School of Greatness.
- LHLewis Howes
Really? [laughs] Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Please welcome Lewis Howes.
- LHLewis Howes
What is your, your thoughts around the identity of money and the psychology of how we-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- LHLewis Howes
... how it plays in our lives? 'Cause a lot of people wanna make more, they wanna attract more, but they're just struggling with just the concept of it.
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm, yeah. Well, I think we've been programmed quite a bit, uh, in, with our relationship with money. I mean, y- we have a relationship with everything known in our environment. You have a relationship, a neurological network in your brain to, for your parents, for your cellphone, for your computer, where you live, where you've lived in the past, what you're gonna do tomorrow, that for the most part, the brain is a reflection of everything that we know, right? So along with that is our relationship with money.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And I, I feel like I have a really good relationship with money, 'cause I work on having a really good relationship with everything in my life, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Did you always have a good relationship with money?
- SPSpeaker
I think so. I think so.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
I've never really lived in lack. That just wasn't part of it. Even when I went to college and I had to take out student loans and stuff, I always figured out a way to always be a little bit ahead of the curve. And so, so let's back up and just look at how people, uh, form beliefs, 'cause-
- LHLewis Howes
Yes
- SPSpeaker
... most beliefs, um, are created from past experiences, right? So, uh, children, uh, when they're, uh, in their early ages, their brainwaves are very slow. Like, their brainwaves are in alpha, uh, when they're, like, seven to 12. They're in theta when they're, like, uh, two to six years old. And, and they're in delta, like, when they're, when they're, you know, newborn to two years old. And so these brainwave states, uh, are states that we're really suggestible to information.
- LHLewis Howes
So when we hear information, we believe it.
- SPSpeaker
And we accept it, we believe it. We surrender to it as if it's the truth, without analyzing it, because there's no analytical facilities yet.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
The a- the analytical mind starts around 12 or so, seven to 12, and that analytical mind is actually what's creates a barrier between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. So-
- LHLewis Howes
So before 12, roughly, what we see, how we model our parents' behavior-
- SPSpeaker
It's all pro-
- LHLewis Howes
... what they say to us
- SPSpeaker
... it's all being programmed subconsciously, right? And-
- LHLewis Howes
Wow
- SPSpeaker
... and so, so that's really, really important, because if you heard money is the root of all evil, uh, money is bad, uh, only certain people are allowed to make money, you have to work hard to make money-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- 5:27 – 9:43
The Lack Game: Separation, Time, and Accumulation in 3D Reality
- LHLewis Howes
Before you go onto the next thing, what happens to the body and the mind when it is in an environment of lack? Mentally or physically, I'm in lack.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
What is, what is the body and the mind saying?
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. So the body is saying, "I'm waiting for some external event to occur. I win the lottery."
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
"I marry the right guy." Whatever it is-
- LHLewis Howes
Right, right, right
- SPSpeaker
... that you're waiting for that event to occur, that experience produces an emotion. So the emotion then takes away the lack- And so when we play the game in three-dimensional reality, the creation game in three-dimensional reality-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... um, we experience separation from everyone and everything because our, our senses fool us into the illusion, the hallucination of separation. I'm here, and you're there.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
I'm here, and the door is over there. So I'm aware that I'm here at one point of consciousness, and the door is over there, another point of consciousness. Okay, so in order for me to get from here to the door, I gotta move my body and do something through space. I gotta do something, and everything in this three-dimensional reality is gonna take time and energy.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
So, okay, so then here's, here's Lewis right here.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And then he says, "Okay, I want this experience in my future," and your brain automatically predicts and projects how far in the future you think it's gonna take.
- LHLewis Howes
Maybe it's a year, five years, 10 years.
- SPSpeaker
30 years.
- LHLewis Howes
Oh, my gosh.
- SPSpeaker
Right? Because that's what it's gonna take to pay off that house, right? So now, one point of consciousness, I'm here. The other point of consciousness is where I'm placing my dream. So I'm separate-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... from that experience. So then how do I get to that experience? In three-dimensional reality, you gotta get up, and you gotta do something.
- LHLewis Howes
Every day, yeah.
- SPSpeaker
You gotta go to work. You gotta drive to work. It takes energy. You gotta fill your car with gas. You gotta eat food. You gotta work. You know, all this stuff. You gotta sleep. You gotta recover if there's stress. And now people are, in a sense, waiting for the experience that's 10 years down the road or 30 years down the road to happen to take away the lack of them not having it. And unfortunately, many times when the experience finally occurs, they can't enjoy it-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... because they're too exhausted, right?
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs] Right.
- SPSpeaker
So then, so you play the game. You, you, you go to school. You study really hard, or you study on your own. You develop some skills. You make the right choices. You start saving money. You start learning from your mistakes, and then the game is, how many things can you accumulate? And that accumulation then you associate with being wealthy or being abundant or being successful, right? And some people get really good at it, right?
- 9:43 – 16:43
Creating From the Quantum Field Instead of Waiting for Events
- SPSpeaker
Okay. So the person who's living in lack is waiting for their wealth to feel abundant. They're waiting for their success to feel empowered.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
They're waiting for their healing to feel gratitude. They're waiting for their new relationship to feel love. They're waiting for the mystical experience to feel awe. That's the Newtonian model of reality, of cause and effect. You know, waiting for that event to happen to take away this separation or lack. Nothing wrong with it. It's the w- way most people create. But what we've discovered is actually something else. The moment you feel gratitude, your healing begins.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
The moment you feel worthy and abundant, you're generating wealth. The moment you're empowered, you are moving towards your success. The moment you're in love with yourself and you're in love with life, you'll create an equal. The moment you are in awe of life, you're going to have a mystical experience. And so that's cause and effect, right? So then if you can teach people, then, how to create instead of from lack or separation, but create from wholeness and create from what we call the quantum field instead of three-dimensional reality.
- LHLewis Howes
What's the difference?
- SPSpeaker
Okay. So the way you... First of all, it takes knowledge, okay? The quantum field is an invisible field of energy that exists beyond our senses. You can't see it. You can't smell it. You can't taste it. You can't hear it. You can't feel it. It exists beyond our experience of three-dimensional reality.
- LHLewis Howes
Would this be in the, our mind's consciousness, or would this be in a different space?
- SPSpeaker
Okay. Let's, let's, let's look at that. So the answer to the question is, how much of your waking day do you put your attention on matter-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... on the material world, and how much of your waking day are you aware of energy and frequency? For most people, they're unaware of the quantum field, and if you're unaware of it, it doesn't exist for you.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
Just like you have a nose, but if you're unaware of it, it doesn't exist for you.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
The moment you become aware of it, it exists. Well, the quantum field, you can ask. You could study all kinds of science, and they'll tell you there is this invisible field of frequency and energy that exists beyond the senses that tend to connect everything physical and material. In fact, everything physical and material is connected to this field, okay? So- How do you get there, right? How do you get there?
- LHLewis Howes
How do you get there? [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
How do you get there? So we discovered that when you take all of your attention off your body, and you are not paying attention to your emotions, your drives, your habits, if you take all of your attention off of every element in your environment, your cellphone, your tablet, your computer, uh, your, your car, your whatever it is, your bed. Take aw- take your attention away from everything, every place that you live, where you sleep, where you work, and you're not thinking about time. You're not thinking about your schedule, where you need to be, or what happened yesterday. You can relax into the present moment. There, there tends to be a dramatic change in the way the brain functions when people do this properly. We call it getting beyond yourself, but in a sense, you're dissociating from your three-dimensional reality.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Why? Because if you're thinking about anything in your three-dimensional reality, that's where your attention is, and that's where your energy is, okay? So we kind of figured out this formula when people really become nobody, no one, no thing, nowhere, and no time. We are pretty much all of a sudden outside the constraints of the Newtonian world of gotta do something to get an outcome. And if you can teach people how to linger there without a name, without a face, without a profession, without a family, without a culture, without a past, without a disease, you teach them how to be in this place we call the unknown, right? And you teach them that from that place, that invisible field, is where everything material comes from. And if they could create coherence in their brain, you need a strong signal in the brain. The more coherent the brain, the more stronger the signal.
- LHLewis Howes
What do you mean a strong signal?
- SPSpeaker
Okay, let's see how I could say this.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
When most people... We look at, when we look at brains in real time, and we're looking at people's, how their, how their mind is working. When you're under stress, okay? Stress is created by not being able to predict something-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... that's gonna happen in your life. Uh, the perception that something's gonna get worse, or you can't control something, right? So when that occurs, we switch on that primitive nervous system called the fight or flight nervous system, and the brain goes into this very alarmed state called high beta. That means pay attention to the outer world. There's danger out there. So it's... But if it's not a predator and it's traffic, or your coworker, or your ex-
- LHLewis Howes
Right
- SPSpeaker
... this is where it gets to be a problem-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... because it becomes very maladaptive, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Uh-huh.
- 16:43 – 27:16
Coherent Brain, Coherent Heart, and Feeling Your Future First
- SPSpeaker
Right. So then if you can teach people to do the exact opposite, go from putting all of their attention on everything physical and material in the world of separation, and instead of narrowing their focus on something material, ask them to broaden their focus and put it on nothing. Now, I know that sounds kinda crazy, but when you put your attention on space and you divert your attention, the act of sensing without thinking actually starts to slow the brainwaves down.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Not only slow it down, but all of a sudden cause the brain to start re- reintegrating, starts to synchronize, right? And so you see different compartments of the brain that were firing out of order start to-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... resonate. They start to communicate. They're, they're, they're, they're all of a sudden synchronizing, and what syncs in the brain kinda links in the brain.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So when a person has their whole entire brain firing in rhythm, that's a very strong signal that you can send out into the field. If you-
- LHLewis Howes
So when that signal is strong in that position, what can you create from that space?
- SPSpeaker
Okay. So, but that's only one element.
- LHLewis Howes
Okay.
- SPSpeaker
So then the clear intention tends to be a very important element that we have to have to get down. And the more coherent the brain, the more clear the signal for that intention. So y- with intention and attention, we could actually make thought more real than anything else. Now, what is that?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
You're saying, what would it be like to be wealthy? What would it be like to be abundant? What would it be like to have all my needs met? What would it be like to have more than I need?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
What would I do if I had everything I ever wanted? The answer always is the same. You start giving stuff away. Because if an abundant person is truly abundant-
- LHLewis Howes
Right
- SPSpeaker
... why would they hold on? They would say, "There's... I'm not in lack. There's more for everybody." Okay? Turns out, though, that the signal sent out isn't enough. You gotta have to draw the experience back to you. And so now-
- LHLewis Howes
You're sending the signal out to, you know-
- SPSpeaker
This coherent brain
- LHLewis Howes
... financial freedom, abundance-
- SPSpeaker
Whatever that is
- LHLewis Howes
... all these different things.
- SPSpeaker
Right, right, right. Right. Whatever that is for you. Whatever that is for you.
- LHLewis Howes
So then you're putting that out there-
- SPSpeaker
Right
- LHLewis Howes
... with your signal, b- with the intention and the attention.
- SPSpeaker
Right.
- LHLewis Howes
And then how do you draw it to you?
- SPSpeaker
Okay, so, so now, so-
- LHLewis Howes
So in the physical world, the 3D world-
- 27:16 – 30:09
Creator vs. Victim: Using Synchronicity as Feedback
- SPSpeaker
I think it's so important for people to remember that they're the creators of their lives instead of the victim of their lives, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the victim is saying, "I'm feeling this way because that person or that circumstance, or I don't have any money, is causing me to feel this way." That's my relationship with money. What that really means is I'm using my lack to reaffirm my dependency, my addiction, my conditioning. That's my relationship with money, is that I put my attention on money because I don't have it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So the relationship with money is, of course, built on lack. And so when they don't have it, they feel bad. And what they're really saying is, "My outer environment, my reality, is actually controlling the way I feel-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm. Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... and the way I think." So Lewis, why are you in a good mood today? Things are going good. Why in a bad mood? Things are going bad today. So this unconscious program of victimization is saying that, that, that we're, we're allowing our environment to influence the way we feel and the way we think. Isn't that, isn't that what victimization is? And, and the stronger the emotion we have to our lack, the more we put our attention on the fact that we don't have it, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
And so then the person has forgotten that they're creating reality because what they're creating is lack.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And they're creating more of it, and then they try harder and they force harder and they control more.
- LHLewis Howes
And they're more exhausted and their body's tired and their mind-
- SPSpeaker
And they're breaking down and, right. So, so the experiment then is let's try it another way. Let's create from the field instead of from matter. Get a coherent heart, get a coherent brain. Relax in the heart, and energy moves right into the brain. We've measured this a thousand times, and all of a sudden the person moves into these beautiful, elegant brainwave states where they're super creative, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the, the longer you're conscious of that energy, the more you draw that future to you. So then what does the synchronicity mean? It means whatever you're doing inside of you is producing that effect outside of you. Pay attention to what you did.
- LHLewis Howes
Keep doing more of it.
- SPSpeaker
And do it again.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
So generate a little bit more abundance.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
Just do it for an experiment. Now, when the synchronicity happens, do you think you feel suffering or do you think you feel a little excitement? You feel inspired, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So then that synchronicity is saying, "Use this energy. Use this feeling. It should be easier for you to feel this now, and go back and do it again."
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Keep the experiment going. Then here comes the promotion. Here comes the, here comes the email.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Here comes the person you meet at the right time, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Whoa, we have something happening here. And then that, that becomes the momentum, right? So then we generate abundance. That's, that's how we do it. And the relationship-
- LHLewis Howes
It, it doesn't just happen by accident. We generate it
- 30:09 – 38:41
Changing Your Personality: Sitting With Lack and Overcoming Cravings
- SPSpeaker
So then, so then, so then let's go a step further. If your personality creates your personal reality, and it does, and your personality is made up of how you think, how you act, and how you feel, then the present personality who's listening to this podcast has created the present personal reality called their life. Nothing big there. Which means if you wanna change your personal reality- You're gonna have to change your personality
- LHLewis Howes
Right
- SPSpeaker
Nothing changes in your life until you change, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So then 95% of who we are is, is on autopilot, right? It's, it's a programmed thoughts, hardwired thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, unconscious habits and behaviors, and really, really emotional responses that tend to be really knee-jerk and automatic, right? So if 95% of who we are is a set of unconscious programs, then the first step to change is becoming conscious of those unconscious thoughts. Now, people think when they sit down to do the work and make their change, that they're, they're doing something wrong. No, those thoughts have to come up. I can't, I'm not worthy, it's never gonna work. But a person who's truly persevering towards their abundance realizes just because they have that thought doesn't mean it's true. They're curious on what's on the other side of that thought. Ah, well, that's just the thought, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And nerve cells that no longer fire together no longer wire together. So you keep moving past that thought, it gets... it has less and less power over you, right? Uh, now, your, you have power over it, or, or better, better yet, you're using your brain in the proper way instead of your, being a victim to your brain.
- LHLewis Howes
Sure.
- SPSpeaker
Right? If you complain about money, if you judge people who have it, if you rush when you're in lack, if you cheat when you don't have what you need, an abundant person doesn't do that. You gotta look at that and say, "I gotta break these habits."
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Oh, my God, if I truly wanna be abundant, I can't act this way. Now, here's the big one.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
If, if I truly wanna be a new personality that's in a new personal reality, I can't take lack with me. I can't take unworthiness. I can't take the story that goes along with it with my parents or my grandparents-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... or with my ex or whatever. That story has to end, right? I mean, if not now, when, right?
- LHLewis Howes
How do people end those stories?
- SPSpeaker
Well, of course. Well, how many times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering?
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
That's the game, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
That's the game called change. How many times do we have to go unconscious and default to that old personality when we catch ourselves, and stop doing that and get conscious? That's the moment of change.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
So the problem is, is that most people wake up in the morning and they think, "Ah, let me think of my problems", right? Their, the, the brain is a record of the past, right? So they think about their problems. They don't have enough money, and those, those problems are usually connected to certain people at certain places-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... with certain objects and certain things and certain-
- LHLewis Howes
What didn't work out-
- SPSpeaker
Right
- LHLewis Howes
... or who screwed me over-
- SPSpeaker
So-
- LHLewis Howes
Or like, yeah
- 38:41 – 42:28
Rehearsing the Abundant Person and the Story of Becoming
- SPSpeaker
So now the person says, "Okay, what thoughts do I not want?" What, what, what would an abundant person think this way? The people in our work that have created-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... I had a guy come to our event. I, I love this guy. He healed himself of, he t- tried to take his life three times. When he, he told me that when he came to our work, he didn't have $2 to rub together. He's worth hundreds of millions of dollars now.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
And he just keeps giving it away.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
His, his lesson, his lesson was, and that wasn't the wealth, it was who he became. So it's the overcoming process that is the becoming process, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Who did he become in that journey?
- SPSpeaker
Exactly. He had to get beyond all of those thoughts of his past, all the mistakes he made, all the things he did wrong, all the money he owed there, all of that. That was like, he just had to no longer be that person any longer.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
But he did say, "How would a wealthy person live?" And, and, and when he created his wealth, what do you think the first thing he did?
- LHLewis Howes
Started giving?
- SPSpeaker
Giving it away. Why? 'Cause an abundant person doesn't have any lack.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And he knows how to create more of it, and that's, he's in the experiment. Well, what would happen if I keep giving it away? He keeps getting more. That's a good experiment to have 'cause the, he is actually living in that abundant state. He also had tremendous healings taking place because when you heal your heart, you heal your mind. I mean, it's just the way it is. We saw it so many times, right? So he healed his heart. He got an upgrade.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
He got an upgrade, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
So then, the, the next fundamental question is, how would an abundant person think? Write it down, dude, and fire and wire those thoughts in your brain and install the hardware. Keep doing it with attention and intention. It becomes the new voice in your head. It becomes a software program. Then say, "Okay, how am I gonna be in my life today? What would an abundant person, how would they behave?" And before you reach for your cell phone and start scrolling through your social media, close your eyes and rehearse in your mind how that person would walk, how they would breathe, how they would smile, how they would-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... greet people, how they would be on Zoom calls, how would they be in traffic, how would they be at dinner. And, and the act of closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing the act-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... if you're truly present, the brain does not know the difference between the real-life experience and what you're imagining. In fact, just a little bit of time, you start to install the neurological hardware to look like you already did it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Now the brain is no longer a record of the past. It's primed for the future. Keep doing it. Keep rehearsing. No different than playing an instrument, no different than learning how to dance, no different than learning how to act, uh, or play a sport.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Everybody's always rehearsing, right? The rehearsal process changes the brain to look like you've already done it, you've already experienced it. Now, what's the essential part of that? The hardware is in place. Now all you gotta do is step into the footprint.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Keep doing it, it becomes a software program. You start acting like an abundant person. Everything changes. Your energy changes. Your mood changes. The way you walk, the way you breathe, your posture changes. You're out of the known, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- 42:28 – 51:43
Beliefs, Emotions, and Rewriting the Past With a Strong Decision
- SPSpeaker
Here's what we learned. Here's what we learned. Let's go back to beliefs now. So remember, a belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again. A belief is something that you keep thinking enough times that you hardwired in your brain, and it becomes an automatic program. And we have beliefs about all kinds of things, money, relationships, God, whatever it is. It's all based on what we've been told or our past experiences, right? The boundaries of those beliefs are our emotions, right? So let's just say you got betrayed, or somebody abused you-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... or your father told you that money was bad and there's never enough of it, or whatever. Th- that's a story, okay? But, but somehow it left an impression on you. You remember that event very clearly, and that's kind of rooted in who you are, right? Okay, so that emotion then is the boundary of our belief, okay? So how you think and how you feel creates your state of being. If you take a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, that's called an attitude.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
A series of good thoughts with a series of good feelings, you say, "I have a good attitude today." You have a series of negative thoughts that are connected to a series of negative feelings, you say, "I'm a bad attitude today." So attitudes are just shortened states of being. Good attitude in the morning, bad attitude in the afternoon. If you take an attitude, an attitude, an attitude, and you keep those up, and you string attitudes together, you create what's called a belief.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
And a belief is just an extended state of being. So if you keep thinking the same thought, you keep hardwiring it in the brain, you keep feeling the same feeling, you keep conditioning in your body, the redundancy of that cycle over and over again conditions the body to subconsciously become the mind of that belief, and all beliefs are subconscious states of being.
- LHLewis Howes
Hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Okay. Take a belief, a belief, a belief, and you string them together, you form what's called a perception, and perceptions are just such extended states of being that, that we're unconscious. And so then we, we edit out reality. In fact, most people don't see things the way they are, they see things the way they are.
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Right? And people are always filling in reality unconsciously based on their memory. They could be married to a person for 40 years, and they don't see the person, they see the memory of the person.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Right? And there's research to prove this, okay? So how do we change a belief or perception about ourself or our lives, okay? We've studied this. Okay, let's just say that lack is ingrained in there. You got the story. You lived on the streets. You lost everything. You got betrayed. Your business partner took everything, took your wife, took e- You've got the story in the half, okay?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
Okay, you gotta start telling a new story of the future, right? You gotta believe in that future more than you have to believe in the past. So how do you do that?
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
You only believe in the past when you feel the emotions of the past. The only time you're gonna believe in the future is when you feel the emotions of the future, right? Okay. So in order for us to change a belief or perception about ourself and our lives, we have to make a decision with such firm intention that the amplitude of that decision carries a level of energy that's greater than the hardwired programs-
- LHLewis Howes
Uh-huh
- SPSpeaker
... in your brain and the emotional conditioning in your body, and your body literally has to respond to your mind, that the choice that you're making to change-
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
... in that moment becomes a moment in time that you never forget. Now, here's the key.
- LHLewis Howes
Physically.
- SPSpeaker
Physically. The stronger the emotion you feel when you make that choice, the more you'll remember the decision.
- LHLewis Howes
Hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Okay? So then how do we down-regulate that old belief? If the trauma created emotional quotient of six or seven, then your decision to change your belief's gotta be a nine.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
And you gotta come out of your resting state, and that moment has to define you. You could say, "I know exactly where I was, the time of day it was, who I was with, when I made my mind up to change."
- LHLewis Howes
Hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Right? 'Cause you created a long-term memory. Long-term memories are created-
- LHLewis Howes
With a new emotion
- 51:43 – 58:32
Losing Money, Opportunity Over Money, and Staying in the Experiment
- LHLewis Howes
That's what I was gonna ask you next, was let's say you make a million dollars in your business, but then you invest it a lot in the stock market or whatever, and then half of it goes away overnight.
- SPSpeaker
Who doesn't have that happen?
- LHLewis Howes
Right. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
Every abundant person has that happen.
- LHLewis Howes
Right. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And, and, and their response is minimal.
- LHLewis Howes
So what should be... people be thinking when they lose a lot of money, or they lose something?
- SPSpeaker
Lesson. Don't lose the lesson.
- LHLewis Howes
Wow.
- SPSpeaker
You may lose the money, but don't lose the lesson.
- LHLewis Howes
Should people feel this emotional attachment to the money lost-
- SPSpeaker
No. Why?
- LHLewis Howes
... or just say, "Okay"?
- SPSpeaker
Why, what is, what is money? I mean, what is that? Y- what people really want, it's like people say to me, "Oh, I have this great idea for this new business, and, and I need money." And I say, "You don't need money. You need opportunity."
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
You need opportunity. You better tune in to some opportunities, right? So it's the framing of how limited we think that we have to get things through money. It just is not the way it is.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
So the fundamental importance about all of this is I, I really don't care if people wanna be abundant. I don't care if they wanna heal. I don't care if they wanna have a mystical... I don't care what, wanna travel the world. Doesn't matter to me. I just want them to be in the experiment, the experiment of actually trying it out-
- LHLewis Howes
Yes
- SPSpeaker
... and seeing kind of, "If I really change my energy, what could I actually t- have an effect that's produced in my life?" And if I'm waiting for the event to occur, I'm back to the illusion of separation and lack.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Waiting for it to happen to take it away from truly a creator.
- LHLewis Howes
So let's say, let's say they're not waiting. What should they do instead of waiting? Keep feeling the feeling in the present moment and trust, right, things will, will come to them?
- SPSpeaker
Look, if you're, if you're waiting, you're not creating. I mean, that's just the way it is.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So wake up every day. How bad do you want it? How bad do you want your dream? It's so much easier to forget that vision than to remember it, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yes.
- SPSpeaker
So if you're gonna remember, you gotta keep it alive in your mind. How do you keep it alive in your mind? You, you disconnect from your environment. You close your eyes. You play music in the background. You g- sit your body down, and it's gotta pee, and it's gotta eat, and it's gotta...
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
Well, you just, just sit down for a few minutes-
- 58:32 – 1:03:00
Worthiness, Keeping Your Vision Private, and Staying Consistent
- LHLewis Howes
What's the, what's the, the strategy to start believing we're worthy of receiving now? Is there a-
- SPSpeaker
Fill your brain with as much knowledge as possible. And, and bl- listen, my dad used to say this to me all the time. He'd say, "Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait a second. Wait a second. Just sit down with me here. If anybody else can do it, you could do it also."
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
Well, let's just start there. So, how did these people do it? Like, let's look at what they did.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
All right, let's study, we are, this is the school of greatness.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
Let's study greatness. What, what is greatness? Like, an uncompromising will, invincibility.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
Lead with their heart, adapt and make changes, let go of the past, give you, give, give life, if, live it fully and completely, and, embrace it and enjoy it. I don't know. Whatever, you get to write the script.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And you, you tell the story of your future instead of telling the story of your past and watch what happens.
- LHLewis Howes
Oh, my gosh. What, so how do we, should we be speaking to others about our future, or should we be more keeping that to our mind and our bodies, and kinda speaking it to ourselves?
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- LHLewis Howes
What happens when you say, "I'm gonna do this, and I'm gonna do this-"
- SPSpeaker
Yeah, yeah
- LHLewis Howes
... "and this is my future." Does it actually hurt us?
- SPSpeaker
That's a great question. Yeah. So, I really don't leak it out.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah, yeah.
- SPSpeaker
I never leak it out.
- LHLewis Howes
Keep it within you.
- SPSpeaker
'Cause if I'm working on something-
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... I hold it, right? I don't wanna, I don't, I, I'll, when it, when I know it's going to happen-
- LHLewis Howes
Then you-
- SPSpeaker
... that's when I'll say, "Hey, you guys, this is, you're not gonna believe this," right?
- LHLewis Howes
So, it's more to yourself-
- SPSpeaker
Right
- LHLewis Howes
... of the future.
- SPSpeaker
Listen, you know when you know when you're changing? When you stop talking about it. That's when you know you're changing. 'Cause you're out, you're out of the bleachers and you're on the playing field. Look, look, so many people come to our work, Lewis, and they say, "I'm, I always believed that this was possible. All this information, it seems, I've seen people healed and some people create wealth. Uh, I, I get it. I just didn't believe it would work for me."
- 1:03:00 – 1:13:20
Moving Energy From Body to Brain and Becoming a Magnet
- SPSpeaker
There was a, a researcher, uh, out of Yale University that, uh, in the 1940s was studying electromagnetic fields around living organisms. And in the 1940s in Yale, at Yale University, nobody was doing this, and he was a, a vitalist. He wanted to understand the unseen fields around living organisms. So he started studying eggs, all kinds of eggs. Chicken eggs, you know, swallow eggs, reptile eggs, snake eggs, salamander eggs. Just all kinds of eggs. And he was using a magnetometer, and what he found was, with 100% of the time, no matter what egg he measured, the positive charge was always at the head-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... and the negative charge was always at the tail. Well, if you have positive charge on one end and negative charge on the other end, you got a external electromagnetic field called the magnetic field. That's a magnet, right? What happens with human beings is every thought has a frequency. Every thought produces a chemical. So if you keep obsessing about your lack, your lack of finances, your lack of time, your lack of energy, lack, lack, lack, lack, and, and those thoughts-
- LHLewis Howes
I don't have this.
- SPSpeaker
I don't know.
- LHLewis Howes
I need this. I want this.
- SPSpeaker
What, what are the chemicals you're feeding your body? You're taking thought, it's producing a frequency, and that frequency, in the form of chemistry, is storing that thought emotionally right in your second center. You feel guilty. You feel unhappy. The moment you feel unhappy, then you generate more thoughts equal to that feeling, which makes more chemicals, and you keep taking energy from the brain and storing it in the body. If you react to people in your life and you feel anger or frustration, whether it's traffic, the news, whatever it is-
- LHLewis Howes
Parents
- SPSpeaker
... parents, whatever.
- LHLewis Howes
Feel for an embryo.
- SPSpeaker
Girl, what, you're drawing from this field, this electromagnetic field. You're tapping that resource, and you're making chemistry out of it, and the field shrinks. So now-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... by doing that and living in survival, the body no longer is a magnet. So now you have very little energy in the brain. In fact, 5% of the energy is in the brain, and 95% is stored in the body. Now, the body's been conditioned emotionally, so a lot of energy in the body, very little in the brain.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So in our work-
- LHLewis Howes
We want energy to be in the brain
- SPSpeaker
... we wanna move energy back up to the brain. So-
- LHLewis Howes
What does that do when we move the energy from the body to the brain or the heart?
- SPSpeaker
Well, this is a great thing, because once it makes it here, it's going up.
- LHLewis Howes
Oh.
- SPSpeaker
Right? So we do these different meditations and these different techniques to draw that energy right up to the top of the head. Now, when this energy shakes loose and it starts to move, the sympathetic nervous system switches on, and instead of releasing energy out like you're being chased by a predator or you're, you're having an orgasm, that same energy is going up into the brain, and the brain switches on, and it goes into these very high, high frequencies called gamma brainwave patterns. Now, the person has an arousal, but the arousal isn't fear.
- LHLewis Howes
Not an orgasm.
- SPSpeaker
Well, in the brain.
- LHLewis Howes
An, an, an orgasm of the mind.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah, exactly. It's, it's energy that's being n- released into the brain.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And you can only describe it as ecstasy or bliss. So the energy of guilt that was stored from thinking and feeling the same way releases, and it travels up to the brain, and it's going back. And when it reaches the brain, what happens? You get more energy in the brain, and it begins to produce that external field. So you're, you're beginning to create a field around your body.
- LHLewis Howes
You can imagine the future as opposed to staying in something from the past that was so-
- SPSpeaker
Well, once the energy's moved, you're, you're, you're going to feel, you're gonna feel pretty blessed in that moment. In fact-
- LHLewis Howes
So we can transfer guilt, shame, insecurities-
- 1:13:20 – 1:16:56
Reacting Daily and Self-Regulating Emotional Reactions
- LHLewis Howes
Now, here, I mean, I've got so many questions around this, but one thing quickly. How often do you find yourself in reaction mode when someone throws you under the bus, whether it's someone honking at you in a car and you say, "Ah, this..." How often do you get back to that place and- Like, 'cause we're, aren't we conditioned to kind of react in a spot?
- SPSpeaker
Dude, I react every day.
- LHLewis Howes
So do you.
- SPSpeaker
I react. Oh, my God. I react every day, but the fundamental question is how long are you gonna react?
- LHLewis Howes
Right, right, right.
- SPSpeaker
So shortening the refractory period of your emotional reactions is that kind of intelligence where we're keeping ourselves out of the past.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Justified, valid or not, the only person that that's affecting is you.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
And then you have to ask yourself, "Is it loving to me?" Well, if you can't control that emotional reaction, then you're a junkie, and you're on a bad trip, and you're overdosing.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
But if you know that you're overdosing, you gotta get beyond your rational mind, 'cause you'll say, "Why are you this way?" I'll be, "'Cause they should..." All right. And by, by you doing that, is it making more of those chemicals? Yeah. Why were you doing that? To make you feel more like it's, it's justified.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So then this takes... Lewis, I, I excuse myself many times in one day.
- LHLewis Howes
Because you'll be, "I'm in a reaction mode. Let me step aside."
- SPSpeaker
I'm like, I'm like, "Are you ki-" Like, I'll be like, "Are you kidding me? What, who, what did they do?" And then I'll be like, I'll, we're not gonna make a decision-
- LHLewis Howes
In this state
- SPSpeaker
... in this state. So give me a minute.
- LHLewis Howes
Oh, wow.
- SPSpeaker
I go take a few breaths, get out of that state, remember my future, where I'm going. It's so much more important than the present moment. I just gotta condition my body into that future. And now it takes sometimes a Herculean effort, I have to tell you.
- LHLewis Howes
[laughs] When you feel, especially when-
- SPSpeaker
You can, you can ask my staff. I'll be in my, I'll be in there 15, 20, 30 minutes. Sometimes I'll say, "I work, it took me an hour." But what-
- LHLewis Howes
To get, to get back to a peaceful state
- SPSpeaker
... in the, in the, in, in the, in the expanse of all eternity, if I don't overcome that emotion, then I'm in my past, and that's karma. Because that emotion's gonna drive my behaviors and thoughts, and I'm gonna be predictable.
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
My past is gonna look, my future's gonna look-
- LHLewis Howes
Interesting
- SPSpeaker
... a lot like my past. So if I'm soulfully on the journey-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... then what matters the most is being able to learn the skill of self-regulation.
- 1:16:56 – 1:27:53
Information, Brain Research, and Conditioning Emotions Before Evidence
- SPSpeaker
If you rewind the tape 10 years ago, you know, information was the thing that stimulated thought, stimulated new ideas. And, and as we learn new things, we make new connections in our brains. So as we begin to add new stitches into that three-dimensional tapestry in our mind, we're beginning to cause our mind to function in new ways. But the key then is to apply it, to personalize it, to do something with it. And, and 10 years ago, when I went out and got in front of an audience and talked about the application, it, it, nobody wanted to step outside that philosophical, theoretical, intellectual realm, right? 'Cause when doing something means you're gonna have to change something about yourself.
- LHLewis Howes
Painful.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah. You're gonna get uncomfortable, right?
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And, um, I think we're in an age of information, and in an age of information, ignorance is a choice. And because of technology, we have access to so much content, and information creates awareness. And awareness is consciousness, and you can't have consciousness without energy. They're, they work together. So there's an energetic change, I think, that's taking place in the world right now where people are so informed that old models, old paradigms, are beginning to break down.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Whether it's the medical model or the religious model, the education model, journalism, uh, the, the economy, you know, um, politics, it's all beginning to, uh, come to the surface because something else has to come out. And, and I think that one of the things that, uh, people are realizing is that you don't have to be a Buddhist monk to do this or-
- LHLewis Howes
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... a, a nun with 40 years of devotion. You just gotta understand the formula. And just like any skill or anything you learn, you gotta go from thinking to doing to being. You gotta take knowledge, you, you create the experience. And if you keep doing it over and over again, you start getting a skill or you start getting wise about how to do it, and you, you know that you know how to do it.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
Well, in the last 10 years, we have assembled a scientific team, and let's see if you can really make significant brain changes. I, I don't want those changes to just be in your mind. I want them to be in your brain. I wanna be able to see before and after pictures to say-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... that person has a significant change after a traumatic brain injury or anxiety or depression or a cyclic mood disorder or a stroke. We wanna see that there's been significant change. At the same time, let's measure your brain in real time, and let's look to see what that transformation process looks like.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
And in the discovery, Lewis, of that process, we gained so much knowledge about what that transformational process looks like.
- LHLewis Howes
Right.
- SPSpeaker
In other words, I can tell you without a doubt that if you're analyzing your life right now within some disturbing emotion, that 100% of the time you're going to make your brain worse.
- LHLewis Howes
If you think about your life
- SPSpeaker
If you're stuck in an emotion
- LHLewis Howes
Oh, you're stuck in emotion. Yeah, yeah
- SPSpeaker
... like you're frustrated, you're angry, you're fearful
- LHLewis Howes
Resentful, unforgiving
- SPSpeaker
... resentful, and you're thinking within that emotional state. In other words-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... you can't think greater than how you feel, that means then you are thinking in the past because those emotions are a record or residue of the past. So we see people in the, in the process of change that are analyzing and, uh, uh, in, in duality or polarity. That kind of drives the brain into higher states of arousal-
- LHLewis Howes
Mm
- SPSpeaker
... and, and further away from true change.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- SPSpeaker
So we did, uh, we've done thousands and thousands and thousands of brain scans and, and we now know that there's a formula to create greater brain coherence, greater brain efficiency, to make your brain work better.
- LHLewis Howes
Mm.
- 1:27:53 – 1:33:16
Maintaining a Future State and Heart Coherence Practice
- SPSpeaker
How do you maintain it when, when life happens?
- SPSpeaker
That's, that's practice. Well, let me finish. It-
- SPSpeaker
If I punch you in the face right now, how do you main- [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
Well, of course. Of course. I mean, we all take blows in our lives.
- SPSpeaker
Yeah.
- SPSpeaker
And, and we all react emotionally. But the question is, how long are you gonna react?
- SPSpeaker
Right. Right. How-
- SPSpeaker
So then if you can't mediate and regulate your-
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... emotional reactions and those emotions linger for days, that's a mood.
- SPSpeaker
Years for some people.
- SPSpeaker
Mood. And then a, months, temperament, years, personality trait. So then the person's personality is literally based on the past.
- SPSpeaker
Crazy.
- SPSpeaker
But they don't know that because they're doing it over and over again, and it becomes a subconscious program. So now if it requires a coherent brain and a coherent heart, then we have to train people-
- SPSpeaker
Uh-huh
- SPSpeaker
... how to self-regulate. So we've done thousands and thousands of measurements. We've partnered with the HeartMath Institute to teach people how to create and sustain heart coherence.
- SPSpeaker
How do we do it?
- SPSpeaker
Well-
- SPSpeaker
Besides going to your workshop, what's the simplified version? I'm sure it takes more time than-
- SPSpeaker
Well, it really doesn't.
- SPSpeaker
Oh.
- SPSpeaker
It really doesn't. It just requires getting still, closing your eyes, putting your attention on your heart, changing your breath so that you move into the present moment. And when you slow your breathing down, you slow your brainwaves down. When you slow your brainwaves down, now you're accessing your autonomic nervous system. So then you train a person how to open their heart and feel an elevated emotion, and it takes a little practice. And just like a flower that, that takes time to bloom-
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm
- SPSpeaker
... it takes a little bit of time.
- SPSpeaker
Mm-hmm.
- SPSpeaker
But if you work in trading the resentment, the frustration, or the impatience for gratitude, appreciation, and thankfulness, and you keep at it, there'll come a moment where that system switches on and now you're feeling grateful for no reason at all.
- SPSpeaker
Right. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
Now that's, that's not a bad thing, because gratitude, the emotional signature of gratitude means something's happening to you, something has happened to you-
- SPSpeaker
Yeah
- SPSpeaker
... you're receiving something or you just received something. So your body then, when you're feeling gratitude, is in the perfect state of receiving.
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