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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Ed Mylett on intention-based confidence, “one more,” and lasting happiness
- Ed Mylett explains that although he appears confident, his default is insecurity, and he builds confidence by anchoring it to his intention to serve rather than to achievements or possessions.
- He outlines a framework for self-confidence—faith, intention, and associations—plus a “one more” standard that builds self-trust by consistently keeping promises to yourself and exceeding them slightly.
- He describes how beliefs and emotional patterns are often installed early by well-meaning people, leading adults to repeat familiar emotional states like fear or chaos unless they become aware and reprogram their attention and imagination.
- He contrasts creating from chaos (which can yield external results but a destructive process) with creating from love and presence, noting that anger often masks fear and that receiving love was a key growth edge for him.
- He argues that progress is often “invisible” until a breakthrough moment (his piñata analogy), and that people quit too early in pursuits like business, relationships, and personal change.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasConfidence, for him, is built internally—especially through intention, not possessions.
He describes his default personality as insecure (including imposter syndrome) despite visible success, and says his confidence improves most when he’s living in his intention to serve other people.
Link confidence to intention rather than achievement to stop “chasing” self-worth.
He says Wayne Dyer told him not to tie confidence to ability or achievements because that creates endless chasing; instead, linking confidence to intentions provides a steadier foundation.
Self-confidence grows from faith, intention, associations, and self-trust.
He presents a “confidence trilogy” of faith, intention, and associations, adding that a major confidence killer is having a “bad reputation with yourself” from not keeping promises to yourself.
“One more” is a practical standard for building ‘superhuman’ confidence through follow-through.
His “one more” standard is doing what you said you’d do—and then doing one more rep, minute, contact, or act of love—because over time “we don’t get our goals, we get our standards.”
Perceived distance to a dream is often a belief problem; attention can be trained to spot opportunities.
He says people often believe dreams are much farther away than they are, and that you can change your “matrix” (reticular activating system) so your brain starts noticing the people, ideas, and opportunities aligned with your goals.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesSo my default personality is, uh, insecure.
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I don't need other things. It's an internal game. I don't need other stuff.
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If you don't have self-confidence, here's what you have. You have a really bad reputation with yourself.
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In life, we don't get our goals, we get our standards long-term.
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The highest form of maxing out and greatness is to give and receive love.
— Ed Mylett
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SPEAKERS
Ed Mylett
guestEntrepreneur and motivational speaker focused on personal development and high-performance leadership; author of The Power of One More.
Lewis Howes
hostHost of The School of Greatness podcast and interviewer covering personal development, business, and peak performance.
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