3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Figure Out What You Really Want

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

November 3, 2025

Duration

1h 2m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — If you’ve ever had that quiet thought – “There’s more I’m meant to do” – this episode is your sign to pay attention. What if the life you want isn’t as far away as it feels? What if you could start seeing new possibilities right now? In this episode, Mel shares 3 powerful questions you need to ask yourself this week. Developed by Stanford University professors, these questions have helped millions of people design lives they love. They’re simple, but they’ll shake up how you think about your work, your relationships, your life purpose, and the direction you’re heading right this second. By the end, you’ll know exactly where you have “unfinished business” with yourself – and how to finally take action on it. You’ll learn: -The 3 questions from Stanford’s “Designing Your Life” course that reveal what you really want next. -How to identify and create new options for your life, even when you think you have none. -How to take one small step today that quietly changes everything. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to blow up your life and start from scratch. You just need to ask yourself these 3 questions, then watch your life change for the better. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-339/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome 5:08 Q1:  How Will Your Life Look If You Stay on Your Current Path? 20:08  Q2: If the Path You’re on Disappeared Tomorrow, What Would You Do? 33:18  Q3: How Would Life Look if There Was Nothing Holding You Back? 48:44 Design Your Life with Stanford’s Research 01:00:21 Live the Life You Actually Want — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins, 3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Figure Out What You Really Want explores three Transformative Questions To Design A Life You Actually Want Mel Robbins introduces a three-question framework, adapted from Stanford’s Designing Your Life ‘Odyssey Plan,’ to help listeners get unstuck and clarify what they truly want. First, she asks you to project your current path 1–5 years ahead and honestly assess where it leads. Second, she poses a ‘rug pull’ scenario—if your current path vanished tomorrow, what would you do?—to surface hidden options and a realistic Plan B. Third, she invites you to imagine your life with nothing holding you back, then translate those dreams into small, low‑risk experiments that gently shift your trajectory without blowing up your life.

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