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A Toolkit for Confidence: How to Build UNSHAKABLE Self Confidence | The Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of #confidence. This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built. Confidence is not what you think it is. It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts. Confidence is a skill that anyone can master. And today is the perfect day for you to start. Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it. Let’s get that back. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 01:17 The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have. 07:02 This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment. 09:19 Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research. 13:52 Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success. 20:30 Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why. 22:34 Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence. 25:15 Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest. 26:20 Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3. 29:11 Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of.. 31:17 Confidence does not come before action; THIS does. 33:11 Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits. 35:45 Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence. 38:33 Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary. 41:05 I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this. 45:06 Do you like this person you’re spending your life with? 49:37 This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear. #confident #beconfident — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Mar 6, 202355mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 1:17

    Intro

  2. 1:17 – 7:02

    The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have.

  3. 7:02 – 9:19

    This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment.

  4. 9:19 – 13:52

    Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research.

  5. 13:52 – 20:30

    Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success.

  6. 20:30 – 22:34

    Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why.

  7. 22:34 – 25:15

    Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence.

  8. 25:15 – 26:20

    Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest.

  9. 26:20 – 29:11

    Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3.

  10. 29:11 – 31:17

    Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of..

  11. 31:17 – 33:11

    Confidence does not come before action; THIS does.

  12. 33:11 – 35:45

    Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits.

  13. 35:45 – 38:33

    Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence.

  14. 38:33 – 41:05

    Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary.

  15. 41:05 – 45:06

    I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this.

  16. 45:06 – 49:37

    Do you like this person you’re spending your life with?

  17. 49:37 – 55:13

    This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear.

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