A Toolkit for Confidence: How to Build UNSHAKABLE Self Confidence | The Mel Robbins Podcast

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

March 6, 2023

Duration

55m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of #confidence. This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built. Confidence is not what you think it is. It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts. Confidence is a skill that anyone can master. And today is the perfect day for you to start. Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it. Let’s get that back. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 01:17 The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have. 07:02 This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment. 09:19 Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research. 13:52 Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success. 20:30 Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why. 22:34 Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence. 25:15 Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest. 26:20 Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3. 29:11 Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of.. 31:17 Confidence does not come before action; THIS does. 33:11 Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits. 35:45 Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence. 38:33 Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary. 41:05 I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this. 45:06 Do you like this person you’re spending your life with? 49:37 This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear. #confident #beconfident — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Heather

  guest

• Alex

  guest

• Skye

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Heather, A Toolkit for Confidence: How to Build UNSHAKABLE Self Confidence | The Mel Robbins Podcast explores mel Robbins Reveals Science-Backed Toolkit To Build Unshakable Confidence Mel Robbins reframes confidence as a learnable skill, not a personality trait, defining it as "the willingness to try" rather than a feeling you wait for. Using research, personal stories, and listener questions, she explains the confidence–competence loop: every attempt, whether successful or not, builds skill and reduces fear over time.

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