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Want ME to be your coach!? 🌟 https://bit.ly/launch_2023 👈 Join my 6-month coaching program, LAUNCH with Mel Robbins. Get ready to make real progress and launch into the life you deserve. I only offer this once a year. Get in before it sells out! 🚀 — Today’s episode is a #masterclass on finding your #purpose, listening to your gut, and never giving up (no matter what other people say). You’re about to meet a woman who went from serving up stacks of pancakes at Denny’s to creating a billion-dollar product that would help millions of #women around the world feel #confident in their own skin. It was such a success that L'Oréal recently bought her company for $1.2 billion dollars. I’m talking about none other than Jamie Kern Lima, the founder of @ITCosmeticsvideo And if you think that her purpose in life was to create a cosmetics company, you’d be wrong. The topic of purpose is essential and misunderstood, so today I’ll teach you how to truly find your purpose using Jamie’s inspiring story and tactical tools every step of the way. Xo Mel Jamie's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@jamiekernlimaofficial/ In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 04:35 How Jamie Kern Lima got her career started in waitressing and ended up building a 1.2 billion dollar company 07:36 A simple reframe when you are facing setbacks in your life 09:10 The biggest misconception around purpose 13:08 The importance of showing up for everything you do, no matter where you are at 16:18 Why Jamie’s 1.2 billion dollar idea almost didn’t happen and the ‘AHA’ moment that changed everything 22:27 Why you need to listen to your ‘aha’ moments 24:17 First step to start taking action on your dreams 28:58 How to face your #1 critic (yourself) and start trusting your gut 35:28 A profound reframe on the hardships you have experienced 36:56 Jamie’s story of one of the most painful rejection she had every experienced and the life-changing lesson she learn about intuition 43:18 How to get yourself unstuck if you are unsure what move to make next 44:34 How Jamie landed one of the biggest moves of her career 48:39 Jamie’s biggest life lesson she has ever gotten 52:29 Why trusting your GUT pays off 57:58 Jamie’s advice if you have been rejected over and over 1:02:47 The definition of true power 1:04:34 The truth about finding your purpose 1:07:59 2 exercises to help have your own ‘AHA’ moment 1:14:10 Why going after your dreams is YOUR responsibility — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Feb 9, 20231h 18mWatch on YouTube ↗

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Turn Setbacks Into Purpose: Jamie Kern Lima’s Billion-Dollar Knowing

  1. Mel Robbins interviews entrepreneur Jamie Kern Lima about how she went from a Denny’s waitress and struggling TV anchor with rosacea to founding IT Cosmetics and selling it to L’Oréal for $1.2 billion. The conversation centers on discovering purpose by transforming your deepest pain, listening to your intuition, and serving the person you once were. Jamie shares concrete stories of relentless rejection, a pivotal investor insult, and her high‑stakes first QVC appearance where she chose authenticity over expert advice. Throughout, they frame purpose as an ongoing, evolving practice of trusting your “knowing,” not an external job title or singular achievement.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Your deepest pain often points directly to your purpose.

Jamie frames one of the strongest ways to find purpose as asking: What nearly destroyed you that you’ve made it through, and how can you use that experience to help someone going through it now? Her rosacea, humiliation on live TV, and feelings of not being enough became the exact problem she solved for millions of women.

Setbacks are often setups; your steps are ordered.

Jobs that feel beneath you, unfair treatment, and painful seasons can be the training ground for the empathy, operational skill, and resilience you’ll later need. Jamie’s time at Denny’s taught her operations and how to relate to “real people,” which directly informed how she built and marketed IT Cosmetics.

There’s a critical difference between a “no” and a “knowing.”

Jamie was rejected for years by retailers and investors, including an investor who told her women wouldn’t buy from someone with her body and weight. In that moment, she felt a quiet but clear inner knowing—“he’s wrong”—and chose to follow that instead of external verdicts, which ultimately led to a billion‑dollar outcome.

Authenticity is a non‑negotiable; inauthenticity guarantees failure.

Consultants told Jamie to use only flawless 20‑something models on QVC; instead she risked everything to feature real women of all ages, sizes, and skin issues and show her own bare rosacea on live TV. She underscores that while authenticity doesn’t guarantee success, faking it and copying others is a reliable path to failure.

Purpose is usually about who you serve, not what you do.

Both women stress that purpose is less about a specific job and more about serving the person you once were or people dealing with what you’ve survived—whether that’s breaking generational cycles, reaching out to lonely neighbors, or building a product that makes people feel seen and enough.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

The seasons that feel like setbacks are actually setups for what we’re called to do.

Jamie Kern Lima

One of the strongest ways to find your purpose is asking: What has destroyed you or hurt you that you’ve made it through—and how can you now use that to help someone going through it?

Jamie Kern Lima

There’s literally only one of you in the entire universe. So if you show up authentically, by definition it’s never been done before.

Jamie Kern Lima

Authenticity alone doesn’t automatically guarantee success—but inauthenticity guarantees failure every time.

Jamie Kern Lima

In life, are you going to listen to the no, or are you going to listen to the knowing inside of you?

Mel Robbins

Redefining purpose as service, not a job title or end goalTurning personal pain, setbacks, and rejection into your life’s assignmentBuilding and trusting intuition (“knowing”) versus external “nos” and opinionsJamie’s entrepreneurial journey: IT Cosmetics, QVC, and the L’Oréal acquisitionAuthenticity versus inauthenticity in branding, business, and personal lifeMoney, risk, and perseverance through years of rejection and near-bankruptcyFinding your next purpose after a big success and giving yourself grace

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