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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — This is an episode about how to face the things you’re scared to admit, or as in the case of my guest today, had never publicly spoken about. Today, you will meet a friend of mine who had some serious sh*t to face, and has spent the last several years addressing the things that used to drag him down. Do not miss this deeply personal conversation. It is profound. It is relevant to your life and packed with so much #wisdom. And we jump right in. @lewishowes is host of the award-winning podcast, The School of Greatness, which just celebrated its 10-year anniversary and has over 500 million downloads. His brand new book, The Greatness Mindset, teaches you how to discover your own unique gifts and talents but more importantly, how to do the work to heal. This conversation is “unguarded” and covers sensitive topics. (Particularly, perhaps, for the men in your life). So skip this if this isn’t for you today. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 09:18 If you were bullied or didn’t do well in school, you’ll relate to this. 11:00 Here’s why I really love Lewis’ story and think he’s so inspiring. 18:58 Almost all of us have an identity crisis at some point in our lives. 22:38 Hear Lewis’ two-part advice if you’re drowning emotionally. 26:18 Here’s what happens when success never feels fulfilling. 27:11 What does it feel like to be “at peace”? 31:02 Listen to Lewis describe the surprising places he felt his past trauma. 32:28 Here’s how Lewis came to terms with being dyslexic. 35:08 Hold trauma without healing it and it will surface in real life.. 36:43 Listen to Lewis describe the first time he shared his abuse out loud. 49:10 After all the work he’s done, how does Lewis define “greatness”? 49:42 Here’s what’s incredible about seeing your own value. 50:00 When no matter what you do, you don’t feel like you’re enough. 52:47 The wake up moment that led to The School of Greatness. 57:43 Do this when you want to change your career or start a business. 58:58 I love this way of thinking about winning. 1:00:41 Out of hundreds, this is the interview guest that had the most impact. 1:03:10 Lewis only found real love after doing this first. 1:05:49 What does it mean to no longer abandon yourself? 1:07:03 Most men struggle with this because they were never taught how. 1:09:34 The powerful words Lewis said at the start of his current relationship. 1:11:13 The surprising place where Lewis found men who felt emotionally free. Check out Lewis's new book, The Greatness Mindset: https://info.lewishowes.com/the-greatness-mindset #lewishowes #inspiration #motivation #healing — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Mel RobbinshostLewis Howesguest

Mar 1, 20231h 18mWatch on YouTube ↗

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Healing Trauma To Unlock Inner Peace, Confidence, And Greatness

Mel Robbins interviews Lewis Howes about the inner healing work behind his success and his book, *The Greatness Mindset*.
Lewis shares his journey from being a struggling, injured ex-athlete sleeping on his sister’s couch to building a global podcast and business, emphasizing that outer success didn’t bring him inner peace.
He describes confronting childhood sexual abuse, academic shame, and unhealthy relationship patterns through intensive emotional healing, therapy, and vulnerability.
The conversation reframes “greatness” as a healed, peaceful, mission-driven life focused on service, self-acceptance, and no longer abandoning yourself to please others.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Outer success cannot compensate for inner unworthiness.

Lewis describes achieving financial and professional milestones yet still feeling empty, angry, and not enough—until he addressed his unresolved trauma and self-worth issues.

Healing starts by telling the truth about your pain.

His healing accelerated when he publicly acknowledged childhood sexual abuse for the first time; speaking what he was most ashamed of transformed isolation into connection and respect.

Greatness is ‘we-focused’ service, not ‘me-focused’ ego.

He distinguishes success (self-centered achievement and proving others wrong) from greatness (pursuing your dreams while helping others win and be elevated in the process).

Stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace with others.

Lewis realized he repeatedly gave up his needs and boundaries in relationships to avoid conflict, creating inner resentment and chest-tightening anxiety; real peace came from honoring his values even if others were displeased.

Emotional coaching and therapy are performance tools, not last resorts.

He invested in years of workshops and intensive therapy, treating emotional work like training—essential for nervous system regulation, better decisions, and healthier love and leadership.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

The game is healing.

— Lewis Howes

You can accomplish a lot and make a lot of money, but if you still don’t feel enough, you’re not great.

— Lewis Howes

I didn’t know that was the game—accepting yourself.

— Lewis Howes

You don’t win unless everyone wins around you.

— Lewis Howes

You are loved, you are worthy, and you matter.

— Lewis Howes

Lewis Howes’ backstory: injury, identity loss, and rock-bottom on his sister’s couchChildhood trauma, sexual abuse, and the cost of secrecy and shameThe difference between success and greatness (ego vs. service, ‘me’ vs. ‘we’)Emotional healing: therapy, nervous system regulation, and reworking painful memoriesSelf-abandonment in relationships and learning to set boundariesDiscovering a meaningful mission and creating The School of Greatness podcastCultivating inner peace, self-acceptance, and the belief that you are worthy and loved

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