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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Six Reflective Questions To Design Your Best, Most Intentional Year Yet
- Mel Robbins shares a six‑question year‑end ritual she has practiced with her family for 20 years to help people reflect on the past year and intentionally design the next one.
- The first three questions focus on understanding where you are now by identifying highlights, hardships, and what you learned about yourself across key life areas.
- The final three questions borrow from a business framework—Stop, Start, Continue—to translate that self-knowledge into clear, relevant actions and habits for the coming year.
- She emphasizes slowing down, reviewing photos and calendars, and even doing the exercise with others to surface forgotten wins, meaningful struggles, and intrinsically motivating goals.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasReview your actual year, not just your memory of it.
Go through your camera roll and calendar month-by-month to identify highlights; you’ll uncover important experiences and wins you’ve already forgotten, which broadens your sense of progress and possibility.
Mine your hardest moments for goal-worthy lessons.
Systematically examine what was toughest in health, work, relationships, fun, and purpose; your biggest struggles point directly to the most relevant, intrinsically motivating goals for the next year.
Clarify what you learned about yourself this year.
Articulating new self-knowledge—about your resilience, limits, patterns, or needs—gives you a more accurate ‘starting location’ so your plans for next year actually fit who you are now.
Decide what to stop doing before you add more.
Use the ‘Stop’ question to intentionally drop habits, commitments, or storylines (like constant complaining or overtraveling) that drain you or conflict with what you want in the next 12 months.
Protect what’s working with a ‘Continue’ list.
Identify the practices, mindsets, and routines already serving you (like a boundary, ritual, or mindset such as the “let them” theory) so you deliberately carry them into the new year instead of accidentally dropping them.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI just need to take a minute and figure out where I am so I can figure out where I'm going.
— Mel Robbins
You need to remind yourself that your life is way bigger than how you feel in this moment.
— Mel Robbins
Knowing what's hard in your life allows you to do what researchers tell you that you need to do if you want to set goals that you care about.
— Mel Robbins
Sometimes it's more effective to stop doing something than it is to constantly focus on the new thing that you're gonna do.
— Mel Robbins
The best days, the best years of your life, they're ahead of you… The version of yourself that is waiting for you to arrive, it's waiting for you in this coming year.
— Mel Robbins
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