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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In today’s episode, I’m finally answering the #1 personal question that I get asked: What’s the story behind my #tattoo on my right wrist? Pull up a seat to laugh along with us as Chris and I share our tattoo adventure - complete with anxiety, jealousy, intention, love, a huge mistake on my part, and the most incredible moments of #synchronicity. But it’s not just a story; there’s a much more profound topic we are discussing today. Because tattoos aren’t really about tattoos. They are an example of a powerful, positive force that habit researchers call an “environmental trigger.” This goes way beyond etching ink onto your body. Today, you will learn how to create and use positive triggers and meaningful #mantras to improve your life and to remind you of either a deeper purpose or the values you want to live by. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 02:12 I’m answering this personal question so many of you have been asking 07:41 Chris shares his powerful story for the tattoo he etched on his forearm. 10:57 The inspiration for my own tattoo came from this. 12:52 You won’t believe what happened on our 15th wedding anniversary. 16:08 Here’s how I beat myself up while Chris was getting his tattoo. 17:21 You might know this already, but a tattoo isn’t just a tattoo. 19:23 I just love the synchronicity behind this entire tattoo event. 22:58 Chris’s tattoo has become a lifeline for him, especially now. 30:45 Rule #1: a mantra will only work for you if you have this first. 31:30 Here’s how to figure out your own powerful mantra. 32:20 Need an idea for your own mantra? I’ve got a bunch of them for you. 36:09 This is what scientists think about why tattoos are so powerful. 38:13 Here’s what Chris did that gets him emotional every time he sees it. 41:09 Are you a busy mom? Then this mantra might work for you. 42:25 Maybe you need to shift your thinking about a mantra this way. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Mar 30, 202350mWatch on YouTube ↗

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mel Robbins Reveals Tattoo Story And Mantra Hack For Meaningful Living

  1. Mel Robbins and her husband Chris share the personal stories behind their tattoos—Mel’s “It shall be” and Chris’s “One gate”—and how these phrases became lifelong anchors during years of debt, addiction recovery, career change, and family upheaval.
  2. Using these stories, Mel introduces the concept of “meaningful mantras” and environmental triggers—simple visual cues like tattoos, Post-it notes, or photos—that help you access courage, optimism, and resilience in hard moments.
  3. She emphasizes that mantras only work if you genuinely believe them, suggesting people choose phrases they can authentically get behind rather than forced, overly positive affirmations.
  4. The episode culminates in a practical assignment: identify a personal mantra that reflects who you’re becoming, write it somewhere visible, and use it as a daily lifeline rather than just passive inspiration.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Choose a mantra you genuinely believe, not one you wish you believed.

Overly positive affirmations like “I love my body” can backfire if your lived thoughts and behavior contradict them; instead, pick phrases like “I’m trying my best” or “I deserve kindness” that your brain doesn’t argue with.

Use environmental triggers to keep your mantra in sight and in mind.

Visual cues—tattoos, Post-it notes, a photo with a caption on your bulletin board—act as “environmental triggers” that automatically prompt supportive thoughts and behaviors when you see them.

Let your mantra reflect process, not perfection or the end result.

Phrases like Chris’s “One gate” or “One day at a time” shift your focus from anxiety about outcomes to taking the next small step, which is especially helpful when you’re scared or overwhelmed.

Create a phrase as if it’s spoken by your future self to you now.

Imagining the person you’re becoming reassuring the current you—saying things like “I believe in you” or “Keep going, it’s worth it”—can make the mantra feel more trustworthy and motivating.

Test-drive any potential mantra before making it ‘permanent.’

Treat your phrase like a piece of clothing: write it on a Post-it, your mirror, or even your skin with a Sharpie and live with it for a while to see if it still feels true and supportive over time.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

A mantra is only gonna work if you believe intrinsically in what the mantra means.

— Mel Robbins

My dad helped me see the race differently by constantly suggesting that I just take it one gate at a time.

— Chris Robbins

These three words, ‘It shall be,’ reminded me that this is just a moment, and like all moments, this will pass.

— Mel Robbins

Think about the future you, the person that you want to become, and let the future you give the present you that assurance and that advice.

— Mel Robbins

I am perfect the way I am… who I am is who I am.

— Chris Robbins

Backstory and meaning of Mel’s “It shall be” tattooChris’s “One gate” mantra from ski racing and his fatherUsing meaningful mantras as emotional and psychological lifelinesEnvironmental triggers (tattoos, Post-its, photos) and habit formationWhy many positive affirmations fail and how to choose believable mantrasPersonal examples of hardship: debt, sobriety, career pivots, and family stressPractical steps to design and test your own guiding phrase or mantra

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