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Reset Your Mind & Soul: How to Find Peace When Life Feels Overwhelming

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — This episode will help you live a more peaceful and fulfilled life, even in a chaotic world. It's an invitation to pause, reset, slow down, and reconnect with yourself. And it’s a masterclass in how to release the tension you’re holding and unlock the calm, grounded confidence you’ve been craving – no matter what is happening around you. Joining Mel on the podcast is New York Times bestselling author and poet Diego Perez, also known as Yung Pueblo. Diego has sold almost 2 million books and inspires millions of people every day with his wise words of wisdom and healing. In this deeply honest conversation, he pulls back the curtain on what it really takes to stop running from your emotions and create a life filled with more love, peace, and purpose. You’ll learn: -How to protect your energy, without losing your compassion -3 simple habits that will reset your mind, your heart, and your life -Why embracing change is the fastest way to feel at peace -The truth about love, healing, and the relationships that actually last You’ll also learn why every relationship — especially the one with yourself — depends on your willingness to heal, grow, and embrace change. If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or ready for something deeper, this is your invitation to pause, reset, and finally trust yourself. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-314/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 01:21 How to Unlock a Peaceful Life 04:22 Why Distraction is Keeping You From Healing 25:59 3 Green Flags That Prove You’re With the Right Person 35:47 The Signs of a Healthy Relationship 46:52 How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt 51:24 How to Build a Good Life 56:16 3 Healthy Habits for a Better Life 01:05:02 It’s Time to Find Stillness — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Mel RobbinshostDiego Perez (Yung Pueblo)guest
Aug 7, 20251h 12mWatch on YouTube ↗

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  1. 0:00 – 1:21

    Meet the Guest

    1. MR

      (instrumental music plays) Have you ever read something and thought, "How do they know exactly what I'm feeling right now?" Writing so powerful you just keep coming back to it again and again? Today, you're gonna meet a number one New York Times best-selling writer whose work and words have helped millions of people, including me, be happier, heal, and live a more peaceful and fulfilling life. He writes under the pen name Yung Pueblo.

    2. DP

      We live in such a fast-paced world that it really does feel like a form of rebellion to slow down. It's an investment in your own inner peace.

    3. MR

      People say you're afraid to feel your emotions. I think most of us just don't want to deal with them. What do you say to somebody who feels that way?

    4. DP

      The biggest factor in your healing is not time. It is your ability to face emotions that you used to run away from. You can crave distraction because you're afraid to feel your emotions, and when I was very much committed to running away from myself, the medicine was giving myself my own attention. If I'm running away from my emotion, I have to feel it. If I'm lying to myself, I need to start telling myself the truth. You can honor the truth of your emotions without letting them control you. I mean, that's the beginning of a different life.

  2. 1:21 – 4:22

    How to Unlock a Peaceful Life

    1. DP

      (clock ticks)

    2. MR

      Diego-

    3. DP

      Wow.

    4. MR

      ... welcome to Mel Robbins' podcast.

    5. DP

      Thank you so much, Mel. It's an honor to be here.

    6. MR

      You know, I've never met somebody in real life that has a pen name.

    7. DP

      Mm-hmm. Yeah.

    8. MR

      And so I feel almost like I'm doing something wrong by calling you Diego. (laughs)

    9. DP

      (laughs) No, Diego's the right name, that's the name my mother gave me, but Yung Pueblo's a pen name. Having a pen name just helps me be really honest. It helps me be in touch with what's true and what's difficult about my own story, and just have the freedom to really go deeply into suffering, the suffering that we all experience.

    10. MR

      Wow. Well, what I'd love to have you do is I'd love to have you speak directly-

    11. DP

      Yeah.

    12. MR

      ... to the person who is with us right now, they're somewhere in the world-

    13. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    14. MR

      ... and they've found and made the time to be here with you and me and learn from you and learn something about themselves. Could you share with them what they might experience about their life that could be different if they take everything you're about to teach us today to heart?

    15. DP

      If you're gonna come hang out with us today, I think the main things that you're gonna get are inner peace, a new sense of gratitude, and new clarity around how to best show up in your relationship.

    16. MR

      Wow. Okay. You're, we're gonna accomplish that in this conversation.

    17. DP

      I think we should try. Yeah, let's do it.

    18. MR

      I think we're gonna do it, actually.

    19. DP

      Yeah. (laughs)

    20. MR

      You know, Diego, you say that you don't need to hit rock bottom to become the best version of yourself.

    21. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    22. MR

      What do you, what do you mean by that?

    23. DP

      I think a lot of times we think about transformation in a much more dramatic context where we have the idea of rock bottom and we think that we need to actually hit it to become the best version of ourselves, but I've seen it done a lot of ways. I went through my own rock bottom, but I've also seen my wife and different friends change their lives for the better without necessarily hitting a rock bottom. It more so is a moment of awareness when they realize, "Oh, I could do things a little bit better. I can create a much more peaceful atmosphere in my own mind and have that show up in my life."

    24. MR

      What's interesting is do you think that the rock bottom moment for you is what also made you go, "I don't think I wanna let it get that bad. I wanna start noticing-

    25. DP

      Oh, yeah.

    26. MR

      ... sooner"?

    27. DP

      Oh, totally. It was either, it was either change or die, honestly. I mean, for me it got really bad. I, you know, hit a rock bottom that was driven by my inability to feel my own emotions. Like I was so afraid of my emotions that I would chase after drugs and alcohol and get myself to a point where, you know, my body was breaking.

    28. MR

      Would you read us the poem that you've written about this?

    29. DP

      "I was never addicted to one thing. I was addicted to filling a void within myself with things other than my own love."

    30. MR

      What does that mean?

  3. 4:22 – 25:59

    Why Distraction is Keeping You From Healing

    1. DP

      It means that when you don't have self-love, you end up finding these superficial things to run away from yourself, and I didn't know how to deal with my own pain; the pain of growing up in poverty, the pain of, you know, seeing my parents fight to figure out how to pay the rent, to put food in the fridge. Just seeing this constant struggle filled me with so much anxiety, so much sadness, but I had no real way to process it. So what ended up happening was I just developed a lot of bad habits to run away from myself.

    2. MR

      One of the reasons why I love your story so much, and I didn't know a lot of your backstory. I had just followed you online for years, but I was excited to talk to you because there are so many people around the world that listen to this show-

    3. DP

      Yeah.

    4. MR

      ... who are in their 20s or have people in their 20s in their families that they're really worried about, and it makes it so relatable. So can you kind of put us at the scene of when this-

    5. DP

      Yeah.

    6. MR

      ... breakdown started to happen?

    7. DP

      Yeah. So it was from, um, 20, from when I was 20 years old to about 23 was the rock bottom-

    8. MR

      Okay, so you're in college.

    9. DP

      ... moment. I'm in college. I'm sort of just, you know, lost in this space of trying to run away from myself as fast as possible. So what I would notice was that whenever I would feel these intense emotions, when I would feel sadness, when I would feel, um, anxiety, what I would do was I would roll up another joint, drink, go out to parties, stay around people, make sure that I was never alone, just trying to avoid myself as much as possible. And really, it just felt like whenever the tension was too big inside of me, I had to run. I had to run because I was scared of what was inside.

    10. MR

      Well, what's interesting about the word run-... is that if you haven't stopped to think about this for yourself, or if you're listening or watching right now and there's somebody in your life that is either struggling or they're not thriving in their life-

    11. DP

      Oh, yeah.

    12. MR

      ... right?

    13. DP

      Yeah.

    14. MR

      And you're not quite sure-

    15. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    16. MR

      ... how to reach them, you s- don't stop and think about what the experience is like, 'cause there is so much friction and tension in your life when you're not thriving. I mean, nobody's an idiot.

    17. DP

      Yeah.

    18. MR

      You know when you're not doing well. But when you use the word run, what you're basically saying is in those moments, here you are in college-

    19. DP

      Yeah.

    20. MR

      ... you wake up, you feel a sense of tension. You can't handle that feeling, so you reach for the joint.

    21. DP

      Yeah.

    22. MR

      You're alone.

    23. DP

      Exactly.

    24. MR

      You start to feel self-conscious or lonely. You can't handle that feeling, so you reach for the drink. You don't like being on your own, 'cause then you get lost in your thoughts, so you are constantly reaching for friendships or toxic f- relationships, or for a lot of people, it's like social media, it's this-

    25. DP

      Right.

    26. MR

      ... constant need to fill something.

    27. DP

      Yeah. And it's some form of distraction, right? You're trying-

    28. MR

      Okay.

    29. DP

      ... to just busy your mind with something external-

    30. MR

      Mm-hmm.

  4. 25:59 – 35:47

    3 Green Flags That Prove You’re With the Right Person

    1. DP

    2. MR

      You write a lot about... online, how the foundation of any really solid relationship is the relationship you have with yourself. Why is that?

    3. DP

      I mean, if you are disconnected from yourself, you're gonna have a really hard time connecting with another person. And I noticed that. As soon as I started meditating, I was faced with that truth of, "Wow, my relationships were so superficial because I was so far away from myself." As soon as I started telling myself the truth, just living in this new honesty, I saw that I was able to show up in all of my relationships, not just with my wife, but with my parents, with a new level of honesty to have a better sense of presence with them.

    4. MR

      You know, when I hear you talk about this, I think a lot about high school and college and law school.

    5. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    6. MR

      And I don't have a lot of really close friends from those years of my life.

    7. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    8. MR

      And I can look back and now say, it's because, like you, I had a lot of pain and a lot of emotion-

    9. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    10. MR

      ... that I didn't know how to process.

    11. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    12. MR

      And the thing that kept me distracted was constantly being in a new relationship-

    13. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    14. MR

      ... constantly needing to be dating somebody, constantly needing to be with the person that I was dating.

    15. DP

      Right.

    16. MR

      And it makes so much sense that if you're disconnected from yourself, which I was-

    17. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    18. MR

      ... you can't build strong relationships-

    19. DP

      No.

    20. MR

      ... which is why I didn't.

    21. DP

      No. And the person is always going to feel a little far away, and you won't quite realize that that distance is measured equally to the distance that you are far away from yourself.

    22. MR

      There's a poem of yours that I read about this that I just loved. Could you share it with us right now?

    23. DP

      "You cannot build a deep connection with someone who is disconnected from themselves."

    24. MR

      How do you know if you're in a relationship with someone else who's disconnected from themselves?

    25. DP

      I think the primary way is if they really struggle with vulnerability. I think that's how you know. If you can be honest with yourself, if you have that strength, then you can potentially, in a safe space, show that honest version of yourself, that vulnerable version of yourself. But if they really struggle to open up and just share their highs and lows with you, then there is a bit of disconnection there.

    26. MR

      What's the number one lie about relationships that people believe?

    27. DP

      "It's a total lie that relationships are supposed to be easy. You have to learn how to love each other well while the relationship shines a mirror on the ways you each need to grow. This is a big challenge to accept."

    28. MR

      Let's talk about that.

    29. DP

      Totally. I think these romantic comedies have totally spoiled the culture. And they're very enjoyable, but when that's all you're fed, when all you see over and over and over again is people coming together only after they have had one challenge and then it ends happily ever after, that slowly makes you think that love is gonna solve everything. But the reality of love is that that is only the beginning. That just shows that there's a very strong connection there, that I can feel very strongly for you, so I say, "Yes, I love this person." But do I know how to care for them? That's something wholly different. Learning how to care for someone means trying to really understand your emotional history, understanding your triggers, learning the ways that you like your happiness to be supported. That takes time. That doesn't just happen overnight.

    30. MR

      Yeah, I think it's a very big, um, fad right now-

  5. 35:47 – 46:52

    The Signs of a Healthy Relationship

    1. DP

    2. MR

      You have a beautiful poem that's all about the signs of a good and healthy relationship.

    3. DP

      Mm.

    4. MR

      Can you share it with us?

    5. DP

      Yeah. Attributes of a good relationship. Calm communication. Hold space for each other. Honesty. No need to perform. Trust is strong. No need to control. Rest, laugh, and adventure together. The love between you is empowering. Commitments to each other are clear. Both have the space to heal and grow. Flexible. No need to always be together.

    6. MR

      Why do you think we keep repeating the same patterns in love-

    7. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    8. MR

      ... even when we know these patterns are hurting us or people that we care about?

    9. DP

      Because for most of us, craving and attachment are the default. So, that makes us very, you know, inflexible, and it keeps us back in the survival mode. It keeps us in our old patterns. And to literally break away from the past, like, that takes energy, and it nee- it takes repetition. That's what we don't understand about the mind, is that all of these habits come from repetition, even the good ones.

    10. MR

      So, you've said you've built a home-

    11. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    12. MR

      ... with another person a few times. That resonated with me. But what does it actually mean to you?

    13. DP

      I want to unpack this more by reading something I wrote to you, Mel. "I have built a home with another person a few times now, always expecting it to be a lasting haven. As the storms came and went, the homes would show their weakness and eventually come apart. Being left with the dread of sadness and the hollow feeling of unwanted new beginnings, it has finally dawned on me that if I build a home within myself, a palace of peace created with my own awareness and love, this can be the refuge I have always been seeking."

    14. MR

      How do you know if you are guilty of constantly trying to find a home within someone else? What does that feel like? How do you start to identify-

    15. DP

      Yeah.

    16. MR

      ... "Oh my gosh-"

    17. DP

      It's-

    18. MR

      "... like, I'm seeking this from somebody else"?

    19. DP

      It's very clear. It's if you're, if you're constantly trying to externalize your happiness, if you think that your happiness is solely coming from the TV show you're watching, from the person that you're with, if your happiness feels fully dependent on another person, then there's a lot of disconnection there, and you're not taking ownership over your own happiness.

    20. MR

      So, does that mean if you're somebody that's obsessed with finding a significant other, or obsessed with getting married, or like, you just feel like until that thing happens, there's something wrong with you? Like, how do you, like, start to really see that, "Wait a minute. All I want is to build a home with somebody else-"

    21. DP

      Yeah.

    22. MR

      "... which is a beautiful thing to do"?

    23. DP

      Totally, totally. Those are fine goals to have, but you have to understand that once you get those goals, they will be evermore fruitful if you already have a home within yourself, if you already enjoy your own friendship with yourself, if you have, um, a sense of joy when you're alone, if you're able to walk without being distracted all of the time. I think these things, you know, the relationship, the marriage, it becomes more fruitful when you have been... spent time cultivating a mindset of happiness on your own.

    24. MR

      Well, this one really resonated with me because especially in my teens and 20s, before I met my husband and started doing a lot of work-

    25. DP

      Yeah.

    26. MR

      ... to face the things that I didn't like about myself so that I could feel comfortable in my own skin-

    27. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    28. MR

      ... and feel at home with myself, um, I, 1000%, used the next relationship as a way to-

    29. DP

      Yeah.

    30. MR

      ... feel secure, the next relationship-

  6. 46:52 – 51:24

    How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt

    1. DP

    2. MR

      Why is it so hard for people to set boundaries and hold them?

    3. DP

      I wanna read you this passage, "Having boundaries will help your growth flourish. If you don't like someone, you don't have to be around them. You can wish them the best in your mind and go along your own way." I think boundaries are tricky, right? Because they're very useful, but you want to make sure that these boundaries don't become walls, because if you're building boundaries in a way where you're trying to avoid problem-solving, then you're building walls. But if you're trying to build boundaries that just help you feel a little more nourished and help you have space in your life so that you can breathe, and you're not avoiding problem-solving, then you're doing it right. But you have to measure it because your bound- like, the boundary that you're gonna have one year may not necessarily be what you're gonna need, like, two years from now.

    4. MR

      How do you describe boundaries? Like, how do you think about them? I love the-

    5. DP

      Mm.

    6. MR

      ... the fact that it's not a wall, but do you have a way that you describe what a boundary is-

    7. DP

      Mm.

    8. MR

      ... in relation to you versus another person?

    9. DP

      Yeah, I think it's just, it's simple. It's, like, just what you're willing to accept and not accept. I think, um, if, you know, you're not gonna accept maltreatment. I think if there is, like, if someone's trying to speak to you in a way that's disrespectful, if they're trying to, um, just take from you and take and take constantly, and they're not giving anything, then there may be a person that you do want to help, but you can only help them so much. So you kinda have to just draw the line in the sand somewhere.

    10. MR

      But I think a lot of people accept a lot of mistreatment-

    11. DP

      Oh, yeah.

    12. MR

      ... and a lot of disrespect, and so what is somebody actually struggling with if they are not able to draw a line in the sand when they know they're in a situation-

    13. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    14. MR

      ... where they're being disrespected or mistreated?

    15. DP

      That person is in dire need of more self-love, because self-love means embracing your power, and it means saying no to people-pleasing. I think people-pleasing is, like, just a, a giant thing that's happening globally, and it's not the same as compassion.

    16. MR

      Let's talk about people-pleasing 'cause I think about the inability to say no-

    17. DP

      Yeah.

    18. MR

      ... or the fear of disappointing somebody as the same discomfort that not having a drink, not having a joint-

    19. DP

      Mm.

    20. MR

      ... putting down the phone-

    21. DP

      Yeah. (laughs)

    22. MR

      ... sitting with yourself-

    23. DP

      Yeah.

    24. MR

      ... it's the same thing.

    25. DP

      Yeah.

    26. MR

      The reason why we-... please other people, and we can't say no, and we put up with treatment that is disrespectful-

    27. DP

      Yeah.

    28. MR

      ... is because we can't handle the emotions-

    29. DP

      Yeah.

    30. MR

      ... that we think we're going to feel if we stand up to somebody-

  7. 51:24 – 56:16

    How to Build a Good Life

    1. DP

    2. MR

      You know, with everything that you've learned and shared, I mean, 13,000 hours of meditation-

    3. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    4. MR

      ... millions and millions of people that follow you online and read your work, what does it really take to build a good life, in your opinion?

    5. DP

      I think there's two, two key elements, and we've talked about both, but when you combine them together, it really helps you flow through life in a way where it becomes smoother to achieve your goals. And I think that's embracing growth and embracing change. I think when you really embrace change, you can't accrue tension, the stress that we were talking about, the anxiety, where you may feel that stress and anxiety pop up from time to time. But then you remember that you control what you can control, and what you can't control, you let it go, you let it flow. And when you accept the fact that there are habits that you can build that can make your life easier, what you need to do is figure out which ones you wanna put energy into and then repeat them. Through repetition, they become second nature.

    6. MR

      You know, when you keep talking about fighting change, I, I can't help but think about this visual-

    7. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    8. MR

      ... of being at an ocean-

    9. DP

      Yeah.

    10. MR

      ... and standing in the water-

    11. DP

      Yeah.

    12. MR

      ... and trying to punch the waves as they come-

    13. DP

      Literally. Literally.

    14. MR

      ... as if they're going to somehow disappear.

    15. DP

      Yeah.

    16. MR

      It seems so absurd-

    17. DP

      Yeah.

    18. MR

      ... to fight against-

    19. DP

      (laughs)

    20. MR

      ... the tide and the waves of change-

    21. DP

      I'm glad. (laughs)

    22. MR

      ... and yet we do it, when the alternati- alternative is, is to climb up on a raft-

    23. DP

      Yeah.

    24. MR

      ... and just ride the waves of... as they come.

    25. DP

      That's the exact image I see in my mind too. It's like, if this universe is a river that's always flowing forward, then attachment is me trying to stand there against the current. I'm gonna get knocked down. Like, literally. And I'm talking about the old school of attachment, right? Attachment in the sense of craving for things to exist in a very particular way. You're just not gonna beat the universe. The universe is just gonna keep flowing forward, and you'll eventually get knocked down. So, let go where you can let go. Let me read you something that, when I posted it, so many people resonated with. "How do you build a good life? Relentlessly follow your intuition. Build with people who also love to grow. Take responsibility for your healing. Love yourself so deeply that you feel at home in your own body and mind. Teach yourself to forgive. Never stop being a kind person."

    26. MR

      So beautiful. I get a lot of questions about how to know when it's your intuition-

    27. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    28. MR

      ... versus your fear.

    29. DP

      Yeah. So, the int-

    30. MR

      I would imagine, I would imagine 13,000-

  8. 56:16 – 1:05:02

    3 Healthy Habits for a Better Life

    1. MR

      What are the three healthiest habits that everyone listening or watching should learn in order to improve their lives?

    2. DP

      Hm. The three healthiest habits to learn, number one, being grateful for the little things, two, noticing when your nervous system is overwhelmed and responding by saying no to anything new that would consume your energy, and number three, don't hide your love. Let your friends and family know how much you care about them.

    3. MR

      I love these three habits because, number one, they're subtle.

    4. DP

      Hm.

    5. MR

      But the impact they have is profound. And so as you hear those three right now, or you're watching right now, I want you to really think about how simple this would be.

    6. DP

      Yeah.

    7. MR

      And what a big impact it would be. Number one, being grateful for the little things. And let's do this right now. This is, this is how simple this is.

    8. DP

      Yeah.

    9. MR

      What is something y- little that you're grateful for?

    10. DP

      Oh, my gosh. I think I'm always really grateful for natural spring water. Whenever I can really have some natural water, I th- it just tastes so good and is so nourishing. And honestly, the first thing that came to mind is I'm so grateful for my Toyota RAV4.

    11. MR

      (laughs)

    12. DP

      It is so freaking reliable.

    13. MR

      (laughs)

    14. DP

      And it just never breaks. It's, it always does its job. And I, m- in my mind, I have a hard time giving it up because it's just, it just works too well.

    15. MR

      And as you're listening to us, I want you to think of something specific, small, second habit. Notice when your nervous system is overwhelmed and respond by saying no to anything new that would consume your energy. And this is also one of those subtle things, whether it's being overwhelmed at work and somebody-

    16. DP

      Yeah.

    17. MR

      ... asking you if you can cover their shift.

    18. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    19. MR

      And you, as a people pleaser, would normally be like, "Yeah, yeah, okay, okay, okay," even though you don't want to-

    20. DP

      Yeah.

    21. MR

      ... learning to take a beat and notice that you're overwhelmed and saying no-

    22. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    23. MR

      ... that is a subtle but powerful moment where you create peace for yourself instead of creating chaos in order to please somebody else.

    24. DP

      Right. Part of reclaiming your power so that you can have real inner peace is having a good understanding of what your capacity is.

    25. MR

      I think another example of this is just invitations that you feel obligated.

    26. DP

      Mm.

    27. MR

      Whether it's going to a fundraiser or helping somebody do something, there are times when you do that because it fills you up.

    28. DP

      Right.

    29. MR

      But if you're in a place where things are really chaotic and you're overwhelmed and your nervous system is fried-

    30. DP

      Yeah.

  9. 1:05:02 – 1:12:52

    It’s Time to Find Stillness

    1. MR

    2. DP

      Totally.

    3. MR

      How do you radiate peace, and how does that create more peace in your life and relationships?

    4. DP

      The people with the best vibe are the ones who radiate peace. They intentionally heal their generational trauma, and they are not interested in harming anyone. The energy in the room changes when they enter because they treat people with compassion. I think people can just feel you, right? If you are tense, if your mind is full of friction, if there are so many parts of you that remain unprocessed and unhealed, you can feel that tension in someone next to you. But when you are radiating that peace of someone who is, who knows what they're working on, who is actually taking steps forward, then people are gonna feel calmer around you because you know that you're moving forward with a mindset of compassion, as opposed to a mindset of ego.

    5. MR

      What I think we've gotten wrong about power is that people think it's the loudest person.

    6. DP

      Oh, yeah.

    7. MR

      The richest person.

    8. DP

      Yeah.

    9. MR

      It's actually the most peaceful person-

    10. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    11. MR

      ... that is the most powerful person in the room.

    12. DP

      Absolutely. Absolutely. And, and a peaceful mind is a powerful mind. When someone really has access to their own peace, their creativity soars. They're able to increase their capacity and they're able to connect much more deeply.

    13. MR

      You tell people to face the storm and evolve from it.

    14. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    15. MR

      What does that actually look like in real life, and how do you do that?

    16. DP

      Mm-hmm. I wanna read you this passage. "They asked her, 'How do you get through tough moments?' She answered, 'Do not trust the way you see yourself when your mind is turbulent, and remember that even pain is temporary. Honor your boundaries, treat yourself gently, let go of perfection, and feel your emotions without letting them control you. You have enough experiences to face the storm and evolve from it.'" Hmm.

    17. MR

      I love the, "Do not trust the way you see yourself when your mind is turbulent. And remember that even pain is temporary."

    18. DP

      Oh, yeah. When- when you're going through a down moment, that is not the time to do self-analysis.

    19. MR

      (laughs)

    20. DP

      If your emotions are turbulent, if your sort of view is cloudy and gray, that's the time for you to treat yourself gently, for you to not be judgmental about yourself or other people. And, uh, it even helps to, like, let the people around you know that you're going through a tough day, and just move forward with a sense of kindness towards yourself and others.

    21. MR

      So, Diego, if you had to give someone a prompt-

    22. DP

      Mm-hmm.

    23. MR

      ... so if the person listening is either-... at a moment where they're recognizing they really want to step out of the chaos and create more inner peace in their life, or they're gonna share this with somebody in their life-

    24. DP

      Mm.

    25. MR

      ... that they really hope can embrace what you're teaching us today. Is there a journal prompt that you could use today, right now-

    26. DP

      Yeah.

    27. MR

      ... that you could share with the person listening or watching?

    28. DP

      I think one of the best journal prompts that you can work on is a combination of two things. One is, "What are the patterns of the past that were holding me back?" And two is, "What am I doing differently now that is making my life better?" Because we don't give us- give ourselves enough credit, because oftentimes, we're so judgmental and we don't realize that already we've taken steps forward into a better life.

    29. MR

      So, is... What are the patterns of the past kinda like, "What do I keep doing that I wanna stop doing?" Or, "What do I keep doing that is hurting me now?"

    30. DP

      Right. Like, "What, what have I, what have I been doing in the past that has been making life difficult?"

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