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Today’s episode is a masterclass in narcissism.
If you want to know how to protect yourself from a narcissist, you first have to know how to identify one.
You’ll learn the top 10 personality traits to look for, how to handle a narcissist in your life (that you can’t avoid), the difference between ‘love bombing’ and infatuation, and a whole lot more.
Joining Mel today is Dr. Ramani Durvasula (@DoctorRamani ) a clinical psychologist and one of the world’s leading experts on narcissism.
Her mastery of all things narcissism has made her the #1 most requested guest on The Mel Robbins Podcast.
Dr. Ramani has been researching this topic for over 20 years and is here to give you the wisdom, practical advice, and well-researched tools and tricks to navigate what is one of the most unpredictable experiences: being in a relationship with a narcissist.
According to Dr. Ramani, 1 in 5 people has narcissist traits, which means you know (and may love) someone who is a narcissist. After you listen, you’ll know what to do.
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In this episode:
00:00: Intro
09:54: What we need to change about the narcissism conversation
11:11: The top 10 characteristics to help you identify a narcissistic personality
12:36: What is the empathy flip flop?
14:04: The one quality that makes a narcissist different from a vain person
18:51: What if you think you’re a narcissist?
21:16: Two questions to ask if you’re concerned that you’re a narcissist
22:15: How to manage a relationship with a narcissist (that you can’t avoid)
26:07: Two of the ways narcissism begins in a child
31:12: Why does it seem like there are so many narcissists?
36:12: The 3 things to look for if you think someone in your life is a narcissist
38:48: What vulnerable narcissism looks like at work
41:24: Does a narcissist understand what they’re doing?
43:33: How to identify a narcissist personality in a room
45:57: The #1 myth of narcissistic personalities
46:28: What is malignant narcissism and why is it the worst form?
48:25: The second myth of narcissism and why we have to be careful
51:46: Where TikTok is getting it wrong with narcissism
53:19: The third myth of narcissism
56:22: The shocking estimate of people with narcissistic personality
59:31: The one thing narcissists especially do NOT like
1:02:11: What does ‘love bombing’ look like and how can it happen in families?
1:08:19: How to tell the difference between love bombing and infatuation
1:11:45: How the ‘C-Suite’ is the gateway to love bombing
1:14:24 Why narcissists are nice sometimes and other times not
1:21:27: The story of a former client that broke Dr. Ramani’s heart
1:25:08: The #1 topic you want to know about when it comes to narcissism
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