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The Most Eye-Opening Conversation on Marriage & Love You Will Ever Hear (From #1 Divorce Lawyer)

Most marriages don't end because of one big catastrophic moment. They end because of a thousand tiny mistakes that went unnoticed. And according to today's guest, one of the world's top divorce attorneys, you're probably already making them. Mel calls this the most important relationship conversation she has ever had on this podcast. And after years of hosting, that is not something she says lightly. Today's guest is James Sexton, a world-renowned authority on relationships, but coming from a perspective you may not expect. He's the author of the bestselling book How to Stay in Love. But he's also one of the top divorce attorneys in the world, which means for decades he's had a front-row seat to what makes marriages thrive – and the exact reasons why they fall apart. He's going to show you that most breakups don't happen because of something catastrophic. They result from small, accumulated mistakes that everyone misses – until it's too late. And unlike most relationship advice you'll hear, his isn't theoretical. It's built on what he's seen thousands of couples do when it's working… and when it's not. You'll learn: -Why most marriages are quietly in trouble long before anyone realizes it, and the warning signs to look for right now -How you can save (or strengthen) any marriage in 10 minutes a week -The #1 cause of infidelity (it's not what you think) – and why social media is now the single greatest threat to your relationship -The 3 questions you should be asking your partner every week -How to tell if your marriage is over -The real reason relationships and marriages fail -How to argue in a productive way -How to tell if you're in the wrong relationship -The habits of all successful relationships If you're single, this is what sets the foundation for a healthy relationship. If you're in a relationship, this is what allows it to deepen, strengthen, and evolve with you. If you're suffering from a breakup or a divorce, this will not only make you believe in love again, but it will also give you the road map to create it. This is one of the most important conversations that has been had on this podcast to date. Mel cannot wait for you and everybody that you love or have loved to experience it. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-375/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast In this episode: 00:00 Meet The Guest 6:20 The Reason Relationships and Marriages Fail 9:15 What You Need To Know Before Getting Married 14:04 How You Can Save (Or Strengthen) Any Marriage in 10 Minutes a Week 28:22 Why People Cheat (The Real Causes of Infidelity) 32:37 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships and Infidelity 39:46 Reignite Connection in a Long-Term Relationship (Small Fixes That Work) 52:10 Warning Signs You’re Headed for a Breakup or Divorce 56:18 How to Argue in a Productive Way 1:10:44 The #1 Way to Save a Marriage — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.

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Mar 5, 20261h 32mWatch on YouTube ↗

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March 5, 2026
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1h 32m
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Most marriages don't end because of one big catastrophic moment. They end because of a thousand tiny mistakes that went unnoticed. And according to today's guest, one of the world's top divorce attorneys, you're probably already making them. Mel calls this the most important relationship conversation she has ever had on this podcast. And after years of hosting, that is not something she says lightly. Today's guest is James Sexton, a world-renowned authority on relationships, but coming from a perspective you may not expect. He's the author of the bestselling book How to Stay in Love. But he's also one of the top divorce attorneys in the world, which means for decades he's had a front-row seat to what makes marriages thrive – and the exact reasons why they fall apart. He's going to show you that most breakups don't happen because of something catastrophic. They result from small, accumulated mistakes that everyone misses – until it's too late. And unlike most relationship advice you'll hear, his isn't theoretical. It's built on what he's seen thousands of couples do when it's working… and when it's not. You'll learn: -Why most marriages are quietly in trouble long before anyone realizes it, and the warning signs to look for right now -How you can save (or strengthen) any marriage in 10 minutes a week -The #1 cause of infidelity (it's not what you think) – and why social media is now the single greatest threat to your relationship -The 3 questions you should be asking your partner every week -How to tell if your marriage is over -The real reason relationships and marriages fail -How to argue in a productive way -How to tell if you're in the wrong relationship -The habits of all successful relationships If you're single, this is what sets the foundation for a healthy relationship. If you're in a relationship, this is what allows it to deepen, strengthen, and evolve with you. If you're suffering from a breakup or a divorce, this will not only make you believe in love again, but it will also give you the road map to create it. This is one of the most important conversations that has been had on this podcast to date. Mel cannot wait for you and everybody that you love or have loved to experience it. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-375/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast In this episode: 00:00 Meet The Guest 6:20 The Reason Relationships and Marriages Fail 9:15 What You Need To Know Before Getting Married 14:04 How You Can Save (Or Strengthen) Any Marriage in 10 Minutes a Week 28:22 Why People Cheat (The Real Causes of Infidelity) 32:37 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships and Infidelity 39:46 Reignite Connection in a Long-Term Relationship (Small Fixes That Work) 52:10 Warning Signs You’re Headed for a Breakup or Divorce 56:18 How to Argue in a Productive Way 1:10:44 The #1 Way to Save a Marriage — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.

SPEAKERS

  • Mel Robbins

    host

    Host of The Mel Robbins Podcast and media personality focused on personal development and relationships.

  • James Sexton

    guest

    Divorce and matrimonial trial lawyer and author known for insights on marriage, love, and why couples split.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and James Sexton, The Most Eye-Opening Conversation on Marriage & Love You Will Ever Hear (From #1 Divorce Lawyer) explores divorce lawyer reveals how to build lasting marriage through connection Disconnection—not a single event like sex, money, or cheating—is framed as the root cause behind most divorces and long-term unhappiness in marriage.

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