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I used simple research from Harvard Business School and UCLA to tame my fear of public speaking and become one of the most successful keynote speakers in the world.
I used this same tool to overcome my fear of flying.
If #nerves or #fear are holding you back from applying for that promotion, asking someone on a date, speaking up at a meeting, or traveling to another part of the world, this brain hack will change your life.
Your fears make your life small. Your nerves limit your potential. Your anxiety robs you of happiness and confidence.
Today on the podcast, you’ll hear me coach someone through one of her biggest fears.
You’ll hear the hilarious ways I used to cope with my fears and you’ll also learn why telling someone to calm down never works.
You’ll leave this episode with a 4-step tool that you can apply to your life the moment you learn it.
Stop letting your fear make your life small.
Board that plane, step onto that stage, apply for that promotion, and never let your nerves stop you from living your life the way that you want to again.
And please, share this episode not only with people you love, but particularly with all the young adults in your life, because research shows that this tool not only helps you tame your anxiety – it also helps you perform better on tests, be a better athlete, and compete at a higher level in academic competitions.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to identify fear in your body
- How fear operates in your body and brain
- Why telling yourself to “calm down” doesn’t work
- Why reframing your fear is such a powerful tool
- How to build your own confidence anchor
- The 4-step process you can use to beat your fear
In this episode:
00:00 Intro
02:14 Research: Harvard Business School study how to stop fear and anxiety
07:46 How nervousness feels manifests in the body
11:32 Lack of control heightens fear
14:21 How do you manage your fears
22:33 The bigger breakthrough we all need
24:38 How being a nervous flier holds you back
31:14 Tool: Confidence anchor
31:42 Step #1 - Think about situation that makes you nervous
31:48 Step #2 - What makes you excited about the situation
32:50 Step #3 - Bring that excitement to life with detail and repetition
36:29 How a confidence anchor works, flipping nervousness to excitement
38:59 Research: understanding your autonomic response
51:23 Truth: Your brain doesn’t know the difference between excitement and fear
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