Where Did All My Friends Go? A Simple Guide to Finding Your People | The Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, I show you how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful #friendships as an adult in a very simple way. And it starts with your morning coffee. Plus, I’m sharing 4 opening lines and tactics you can use when approaching a potential new friend. Can we just be honest? Making new friends as an adult is so hard. And I believe that we are all struggling with it. So I’m going to share the strategies that I have used in the last year to go from moving to a new town and feeling like I have "no friends" to taking the steps to create an awesome new circle of adult friends. Today you’ll learn: - The ONE practical and life-changing tool you need to create adult friendships - A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area - The lies we all tell ourselves about friendships that keep us thinking we have none - How remote work has changed the friendship game - The single best place to park yourself on a Saturday morning to find your people - How to approach a stranger (potential friend) without coming across as weird, creepy, or awkward What I’m sharing today works because this is how I found my people in the last 12 months. Xo Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 03:52 Today I feel like I’m living in an adult summer camp; it wasn’t always this way. 05:53 It is within your power to create community and connection. 09:38 What happens when you look through the lens of loneliness? 11:38 If you want the flower to grow, you need to plant the seed. Let me explain. 12:37 The lie you’re telling yourself when it comes to friendships. 14:11 Why making friends feels so hard nowadays. 16:33 The #1 mistake you’re making with friendships. 20:04 A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area. 32:58 The coffee shop I go to and why it’s been a game-changer for meeting potential friends. 35:25 I challenge you to do this the next time you get a coffee. 37:42 Friendship is a verb, you have to make it happen. 39:39 This ONE tool will allow you to create lasting bonds. 42:32 The easiest ways to create connection in any situation. 46:09 For all my introverts, here is my advice for you... 51:32 Making new friends can be fun and easy (I’m being serious). #relationships #makingfriends — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah