Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

Order my new book, The Let Them Theory 👉 https://bit.ly/let-them 👈 It will forever change the way you think about relationships, control, and personal power. It all begins with two simple words: Let Them. 🔥 — Why do you love the way that you love? How do you have the best #relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)? Today, Mel sits down with an expert in #attachment theory, Thais Gibson (@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool), to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life. Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships. Topics discussed include: - How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself) - What “attachment style” means and the 4 types - How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do - What love is supposed to look like - How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting - The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?) - What you do that creates pathways in your brain - How to figure out your attachment style - How to make your attachment style “secure” - The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs” - The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser - How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships - How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships - The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner - What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting - How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships Watch the bonus meditation from Thais here: https://youtu.be/vb5AaMIxiEg Follow Thais Gibson: Instagram: https://instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast/ I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 06:22 How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting 07:51 What you do that creates pathways in your brain 10:19 What “attachment style” means and the 4 types 16:35 How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do 23:04 How to have secure and healthy relationships (including the relationship with yourself) 25:42 The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs” 29:54 How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships 41:17 The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?) 43:29 How to figure out your attachment style 50:18 How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships 53:52 The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner 55:43 The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser 1:0:41 What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting 1:02:34 How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships 1:11:56 What love is supposed to look like — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@UCk2U-Oqn7RXf-ydPqfSxG5g Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah