Your Guide to Better Sex, Intimacy, & Love From a World-Leading Sex Therapist

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

March 20, 2025

Duration

1h 17m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. If you feel like intimacy with your partner is rare, your desire is low, or that your marriage is even sexless, this conversation is for you. Here to deliver the most important sex advice you need to hear is renowned sex therapist and bestselling author, Vanessa Marin. Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist and a sex therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience helping people have healthier, more satisfying sex lives. She is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. This conversation tackles everything you weren’t taught—and probably aren’t talking about—when it comes to sex. Mel also shares openly about her own sex life, difficulties with intimacy, and speaks openly in a way you’ve never heard before. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, this conversation is going to make you think differently about sex and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender. You’ll learn: -The real reason you feel disconnected in your sex life -The two different types of sex drives and why it matters -What to do if you’re on your way to a dry bedroom -What exactly to say if you’re not in the mood when your partner initiates sex If you feel like you can’t talk about sex, if you can’t ask for what you want, don’t know how to bring it up, are going through a dry spell, or want to have more sex but you’re exhausted, this episode is for you. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-273 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome 01:23 Why You Should Stop Settling for Mediocre Sex. 04:08 Mel Personally Struggles with Sex Talk. 16:17 Chris’s Sex Questions & the Advice That Works. 39:03 How to Take Responsibility for Your Pleasure. 42:06 The Simple Trick to Save Your Sex Life. 52:52 How to Unlock Deeper Intimacy with Your Partner. 57:25 A Sex Therapist’s 3 Tips for Better Sex. 01:13:18 Your Best Sex Starts Today. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Vanessa Marin

  guest

• Guest questioner (pre-recorded listener/partner)

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Vanessa Marin, Your Guide to Better Sex, Intimacy, & Love From a World-Leading Sex Therapist explores transform Your Sex Life: Communication, Desire Types, and Playful Intimacy Mel Robbins interviews renowned sex therapist Vanessa Marin about how couples and singles can create more satisfying sex, intimacy, and connection. They debunk myths about sex always being spontaneous, introduce the concepts of spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and emphasize planning and intentional intimacy—especially for busy, long-term partners. Using Mel’s marriage as a live case study, they explore common blocks like exhaustion, bristling at touch, embarrassment talking about sex, and mismatched expectations. The episode provides simple, practical tools—conversation prompts, rituals, and mindset shifts—to increase pleasure, emotional closeness, and a sense of being cared for in and out of the bedroom.

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