How To Put Yourself First Without Feeling Guilty - Nick Pollard

Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker. Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it's hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence? Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and much more... - 00:00 The Trap of People-Pleasing 11:24 Learning to Be Honest With Yourself 17:18 Why People-Pleasers Struggle to Find Joy 22:02 The Cost of Being a People-Pleaser 26:55 When Does Being Considerate Go Too Far? 29:34 How Men & Women People-Please 40:02 Why People Struggle to Advocate for Their Needs 55:37 First Steps to Correcting People-Pleasing 1:05:21 Biggest Misconceptions About Boundaries 1:18:14 Maintaining the Boundaries You Set 1:22:43 How Sensitive People Can Be More Assertive 1:31:09 The Guilt of Choosing Yourself Over Others 1:43:51 The Role of Triggers in People-Pleasing 1:47:35 When to Give Up on Someone 1:50:37 Highly Successful People-Pleasers 2:01:38 Impactful Books for People-Pleasers 2:05:15 Where to Find Nick - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostNick Pollardguest

Jan 2, 20252h 3mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: January 2, 2025
Duration: 2h 3m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker. Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it's hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence? Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and much more... - 00:00 The Trap of People-Pleasing 11:24 Learning to Be Honest With Yourself 17:18 Why People-Pleasers Struggle to Find Joy 22:02 The Cost of Being a People-Pleaser 26:55 When Does Being Considerate Go Too Far? 29:34 How Men & Women People-Please 40:02 Why People Struggle to Advocate for Their Needs 55:37 First Steps to Correcting People-Pleasing 1:05:21 Biggest Misconceptions About Boundaries 1:18:14 Maintaining the Boundaries You Set 1:22:43 How Sensitive People Can Be More Assertive 1:31:09 The Guilt of Choosing Yourself Over Others 1:43:51 The Role of Triggers in People-Pleasing 1:47:35 When to Give Up on Someone 1:50:37 Highly Successful People-Pleasers 2:01:38 Impactful Books for People-Pleasers 2:05:15 Where to Find Nick - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Nick Pollard
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Nick Pollard, How To Put Yourself First Without Feeling Guilty - Nick Pollard explores escaping People-Pleasing: Boundaries, Self-Respect, And Honest Living Chris Williamson and coach Nick Pollard explore people-pleasing as a deeply ingrained coping mechanism rooted in shame and the belief of "not being enough," often formed in childhood through enmeshment and inconsistent parenting.

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