Non-Monogamy, Exclusivity Agreements & Regulating Sexual Jealousy - Justin Mogiliski

Justin Mogilski is an evolutionary psychologist at the University of South Carolina whose research focuses on consensual non-monogamous relationships. It’s often said that choosing the right life partner is the most important decision you can make. So if you're not sure, why not just choose two? Or more? And how do the people in these relationships make it work? Expect to learn whether non-monogamy is more likely to end in failure than typical relationships, what sorts of people are most likely to be non-monogamous, why the public so heavily condemns you dating multiple people, how you can better manage sexual jealousy, what the best predictors of relationship satisfaction are and much more... Sponsors: Get $150 discount on Plunge’s amazing sauna or cold plunge at https://plunge.com (use code MW150) Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first box at https://www.drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at https://bit.ly/proteinwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #nonmonogamy #polygamy #dating - 00:00 Increase of Consensual Non-Monogamy 08:33 The Huge Role of Jealousy in Non-Monogamy 13:05 Personality Profiles of Non-Monogamous People 16:59 Most Common Non-Monogamy Practices 27:01 Importance of Exclusivity Agreements 29:37 Disclose Attraction Instead of Hiding It 35:31 Regulating Sexual Jealousy 45:41 Sharing New Partner With Current Partner 51:34 Non-Monogamy’s Branding Problem 1:05:23 Is Ancestral Polygamy a Myth? 1:15:40 Where to Find Justin - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostJustin Mogilskiguest

Oct 28, 20231h 16mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: October 28, 2023
Duration: 1h 16m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Justin Mogilski is an evolutionary psychologist at the University of South Carolina whose research focuses on consensual non-monogamous relationships. It’s often said that choosing the right life partner is the most important decision you can make. So if you're not sure, why not just choose two? Or more? And how do the people in these relationships make it work? Expect to learn whether non-monogamy is more likely to end in failure than typical relationships, what sorts of people are most likely to be non-monogamous, why the public so heavily condemns you dating multiple people, how you can better manage sexual jealousy, what the best predictors of relationship satisfaction are and much more... Sponsors: Get $150 discount on Plunge’s amazing sauna or cold plunge at https://plunge.com (use code MW150) Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first box at https://www.drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at https://bit.ly/proteinwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #nonmonogamy #polygamy #dating - 00:00 Increase of Consensual Non-Monogamy 08:33 The Huge Role of Jealousy in Non-Monogamy 13:05 Personality Profiles of Non-Monogamous People 16:59 Most Common Non-Monogamy Practices 27:01 Importance of Exclusivity Agreements 29:37 Disclose Attraction Instead of Hiding It 35:31 Regulating Sexual Jealousy 45:41 Sharing New Partner With Current Partner 51:34 Non-Monogamy’s Branding Problem 1:05:23 Is Ancestral Polygamy a Myth? 1:15:40 Where to Find Justin - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Justin Mogilski
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Justin Mogilski, Non-Monogamy, Exclusivity Agreements & Regulating Sexual Jealousy - Justin Mogiliski explores inside Consensual Non-Monogamy: Jealousy, Mate Value, And Maintenance Rules Chris Williamson interviews evolutionary psychologist Justin Mogilski about the rise, psychology, and practicalities of consensual non‑monogamy (CNM), especially polyamory. They discuss prevalence rates, sex differences in motives and jealousy, and why CNM so often fails compared with straightforward monogamy. A major focus is Mogilski’s “multi‑relationship maintenance strategies” research, outlining concrete practices like attraction disclosure, jealousy regulation, and partner hierarchy that help CNM function. They also explore social stigma, fears about harems and inequality, and how insights from CNM might improve monogamous relationships as well.

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