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Dr Rangan ChatterjeeScience-Based HABITS To Be More Charismatic, CONFIDENT & STOP Anxiety! | Vanessa Van Edwards
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Use warmth-and-competence cues to boost authentic charisma and confidence
- Vanessa Van Edwards argues that confidence and charisma are learnable through understanding “cues,” and that you don’t need to be an extrovert to be confident or likable.
- She describes authenticity effects (like real vs fake smiles) and explains that nonverbal and vocal signals often drive how others feel and respond to us.
- She frames charisma as a blend of warmth and competence, tied to people’s rapid judgments of whether they can trust you and rely on you.
- She shares practical, research-backed behaviors to dial warmth or competence up and down in person and on video, including first-impression protocols and posture/gesture tweaks.
- She discusses cue-reading for relationships and deception, including contempt as a serious signal and patterns like question-inflection and nose-touching that can correlate with lying.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasConfidence improves when you stop chasing one ‘extrovert’ style and define your own flavor.
She says many people misread neutral cues as negative and then lose confidence, especially if they overthink social signals; instead, she suggests expanding what “confidence” looks like so it can match someone’s natural personality.
Authentic expression spreads positive emotion; forced charisma makes you less memorable.
She describes research where authentic smiles (with upper cheek muscles engaged) boosted observers’ mood and confidence, while fake smiles did not; she argues authenticity creates more positive impact than “faking it.”
Contempt is a high-stakes cue that’s often missed—and it’s an opportunity to investigate, not panic.
She explains contempt as a one-sided mouth raise that people often misinterpret as boredom or ambivalence, and links it to relationship risk; she frames spotting it as early-warning information that can be addressed rather than feared.
How you sound can influence how trustworthy and capable you seem—sometimes more than your words.
She outlines that communication is largely non-verbal and emphasizes vocal delivery; she cites research using short, “warbled” doctor voice clips where lower perceived warmth/competence correlated with higher malpractice lawsuits.
Charisma works when you quickly signal warmth (trust) and competence (reliability).
She says people quickly assess others with two questions—trust first, then reliance—mapping to warmth and competence; she argues clearer cues reduce mental effort for others and increase “magnetism.”
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesWe've spent way too many years hiding anxiety or hiding what we're awkward about.
— Vanessa Van Edwards
In other words, when you are truly confident, you actually infect other people positively. When you are faking it, when you are trying to pretend to be an extrovert, you are less memorable. You are literally less impactful.
— Vanessa Van Edwards
Non-verbal is about, and it's really hard to measure this exactly, but about 65 to 90% of our communication is non-verbal.
— Vanessa Van Edwards
I respect you so much that I don't wanna just listen to you with my ears. I j- I don't wanna just hear the words. I wanna listen to you with my entire body.
— Vanessa Van Edwards
When we under-express, when we don't show enough cues, we don't send off messages of our competence or our warmth.
— Vanessa Van Edwards
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SPEAKERS
Vanessa Van Edwards
guestBehavioral investigator and author/speaker known for research-backed communication and charisma skills (e.g., “Captivate,” “Cues”).
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
hostMedical doctor and host of the podcast “Feel Better, Live More,” author of “The Stress Solution.”
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