The Monk That Will Change Your Future - 5 Ways We All Waste Our Life Away... | Haemin Sunim

Haemin Sunim says the body doesn't lie, and that repressed anger can surface as physical illness months later. He suggests a nonjudgmental body scan to notice what is really there.

He says naming an emotion and feeling the energy beneath the label lets it change shape and fade, often in about 90 seconds, and that bodily tension may take longer. Simply attending to it is itself an act of care.

He says excitement fades while peace lasts, and that gratitude is another name for happiness. He suggests texting yourself or a gratitude buddy, and pausing for ten seconds to savor something like fresh coffee.

Because we can't know whether what we want will make us happy, he recommends bringing openness to every situation. He says it helps us relax when a wedding goes off plan and keeps curiosity alive in long relationships, calling it another word for love.

He says people talking about you are often talking about themselves, so you should stay connected to your intention. Recognizing that you can't control others' thoughts frees you from stress, and he suggests validating yourself by writing down your achievements.