Re:Thinking with Adam GrantJon Batiste and Suleika Jaouad on their creative process and finding love at band camp | ReThinking
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Cross-pollinating music and writing: creativity as energy, rhythm, and narrative
- JBJon Batiste
I love the idea of thinking about music as energy and as frequency.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
There's such an interesting cross-pollination when you collaborate with artists across different disciplines. So Jon, for example, will play me a ch- list of songs that are on, on an album and ask me how he should sequence them, and I'll say, "What is the narrative arc here?" And I'm thinking of it from a writer's mind. Sometimes I'll show Jon a draft and he'll say, "The rhythm of this paragraph or this sentence isn't landing." And that feedback is, is so eye-opening and, and expansive, and has fundamentally changed the way that I think about how to write a sentence.
- AGAdam Grant
[upbeat music] Oh, so excited for this conversation. Welcome Jon and Suleika.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hi, Adam. [laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
It's al- it's always a joy to have an Emmy winner, a Grammy winner, and me on stage.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Which one of these is not like the others?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
So stop, stop redirecting.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Uh, I'm in charge here, you two.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Listen. Um, I, I met the two of you, I think about a decade ago. Did not know that you knew each other, let alone loved each other, and the moment I found out that you were in love, it just made more sense-
- JBJon Batiste
Yeah
- AGAdam Grant
... than I think any relationship I had, I'd seen in a long time.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm.
- 1:31 – 4:04
Band camp origin story: first impressions, awkward genius, and early connection
- AGAdam Grant
I think the audience needs to know how you met and fell in love.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs] That's easy. Two words, band camp. [laughs]
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
Yeah. Band camp is, is an amazing thing. And just to let you all know here at Davos, this is a veiled advertisement for band camp.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
We, see, we met, it was, um, first sleepaway camp that I'd ever done-
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm
- JBJon Batiste
... in Upstate New York, and I'm coming from Louisiana, so I hadn't seen snow, and I hadn't seen any of these landscapes, and these people were very different than the people in my community. And then I see this girl, and she's carrying around a huge double bass that's about twice her size.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
And she's wearing Birkenstocks.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
And she has a bunch of books, and is trekking through the, uh, the woods.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
Because Saratoga Springs and, and the Skidmore campus, where the camp was, is just completely submerged in woods. And I was like, "Whoa, where am I? And who is that?"
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
It was also Jon's first time ever seeing Birkenstocks.
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Which he was very confounded by. [laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
Well, how do you remember it?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm. You know, Jon had been playing the piano for about a year or two. I think I was 13. You were 14. And it was immediately obvious to me, and likely everyone else in the room, that we were in the presence of rare genius. I also remember that you were incredibly awkward.
- JBJon Batiste
Yeah.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
And very, very shy. Uh, so the biggest source of surprise, I think, to anyone who knew you back then, is to see you gracing these stages with ease and confidence and comfort. But there's a real beauty and humility to staying in touch with the people that you know, um, long before you arrive in rooms like this one.
- JBJon Batiste
Oh.
- AGAdam Grant
Well, this is, I mean, this is relationship goals right here.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Who has not wanted their partner to call them both a genius and extremely awkward?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Okay. I wanna talk about the genius of t- of the two of you.
- 4:04 – 5:54
Seeing the artist in your partner: Jon as polymath and obsessive learner
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm. So to describe Jon as a musician or an artist is reductive. Jon is a polymath. He is a voracious reader. Everywhere he goes he has two or three books. He came with me last week, uh, to chemo at 7:00 AM and he had two books, one called The Great Pianists by The New York Times music reviewer, um, Harold Schonberger, and then the second was The Radical King, which was a collection of edited essays put together, uh, of Martin Luther King. Not my choice of 7:00 AM hospital waiting room reading. Um, but he is someone who is a true genius, not just musically, not just when it comes to pattern recognition, not just when it comes to being a student of history. He's also a brilliant writer. Um, I call him a YouTube historian. Every night he becomes obsessed with a moment in history, an individual, and I'll wake up and find thousands of browser tabs open on my computer, uh, which is evident of whatever late-night fascination he has. But your intellect, your ability to work across so many different mediums and to master them is nothing short of breathtaking.
- AGAdam Grant
Okay. So you heard it here first. Your late-night YouTube binge is creatively stimulating.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs] I love that.
- AGAdam Grant
All right, Jon.
- JBJon Batiste
Rabbit hole city.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
[laughs] What have you learned from Suleika?
- 5:54 – 7:53
Suleika’s “true north”: integrity, humanity, and relentless craft
- JBJon Batiste
Oh, my goodness. Okay, so this could be the whole panel.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
I can express the- Depth of humanity of this individual in every choice that she makes, the integrity of every choice, the purity of the intention of every choice, and how it's never forsaking the path to true north of, of, of the first intention, the pure intention of the work. It's never forsaking it for money, for fame, for any sort of accolade or, or, or trend that could come and just disrupt the signal. It's the most pure intention of anyone that I've ever seen create, and I'm talking about from legendary people who I've been in the room with in any genre of creativity. Then there's the craft. Talk about the rigor of the craft, that it, the toil of, of the craft that it takes to, to really know exactly what you're saying, exactly what you're doing, to know your stuff to the point where you just know it cold. Somebody wake you up fi- cold 6:00 AM in the morning and say, "Break down to me the thesis of your latest work." Or, "Can you tell me the philosophy behind why this is interconnected with that and why it led you to this direction?" "Yeah. Well, actually, Jon..." This is a person who has done the work. Anything you see publicly, there's been years of excavation and silent meditation and reading and research and development, and all of it's just undergirded with the deepest integrity. So I find that to be a inspiration because it's very easy if you have a, a gift to, to hone it, and I won't even say it's easy to get to a level where you're, you, you're able to express something that's very original. But many of us in these rooms can do that, but to have the other piece, the humanity, I don't... It's, it's... I could count on a, a single hand.
- 7:53 – 9:05
How they critique each other: workshopping vs. guarded drafts
- AGAdam Grant
Given the reverence that you have for each other, what is it like to critique each other's creative work?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- AGAdam Grant
Do you wake up in the morning and say, "I'm sorry. That's actually bad, Suleika"?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- AGAdam Grant
Does Jon miss? Jon, do you, do you have to tear apart any drafts?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
So... [laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Notice the awkward pause here.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
I love it. Tell u- tell us what you really think of each other's worst work.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Jon is a workshopper. He loves to collect an array of different voices and feedback, and he's able to ask questions and to pick and choose what matters to him. I'm a little bit more protective and moated around my first drafts. I show no one my work until I've taken it as far as I can. Um, that has changed in recent years, in part because of Jon's example. You know, the challenge as an artist is to hold true to what it is that you're trying to say and, and to pick your first readers, to pick your first listeners wisely. And Jon gives me advice and feedback all the time that I don't like. [laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
What's an example?
- 9:05 – 10:54
Specific notes and mutual accountability: delegate vs. focus
- JBJon Batiste
Okay, so I have some. I think that yous need to delegate more.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- AGAdam Grant
Second. [laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
A lot more.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
It was two versus one. [laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
I think that you can still transmit the care and the depth of the work that you're doing and do less, but the result speaks for itself. On the other hand, I love the kind of advice that Suleika gives, and I seek out advice that's very brutally honest and contrary to what I would think. 'Cause a lot of times I'm workshopping to see what I actually believe.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm-hmm.
- JBJon Batiste
And a, a good friend of mine, he will say that Jon asks 1,000 people and listens to none of them.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
And I, I, he t- he explained that to me, and I didn't know that it w- He was like a, it was like a mirror. I was like-
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm
- JBJon Batiste
... "Oh, wow." But I will say that I listen most to Suleika's feedback because it's just, it comes from a place where she knows, obviously, me more than anybody, but she sees things in a way that is, it's not clouded by a lot of things that ultimately become superficial in the final act of creation.
- AGAdam Grant
Okay, let's level the playing field a little here. So Jon, you want Suleika to delegate more.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- AGAdam Grant
Suleika, what's your feedback for Jon? What does he need to work on creatively?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm. I want Jon to focus his genius more. I think one of-
- AGAdam Grant
I'll endorse that one, too
- SJSuleika Jaouad
... the gifts of, of being able to master so many different genres and disciplines is that you do all of them, but I'd be really interested to know what would happen if Jon Batiste did one thing for an entire year.
- JBJon Batiste
I don't think I've ever done that before.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs] You ne-
- JBJon Batiste
Nope
- SJSuleika Jaouad
... you haven't. [laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
And I love that this is on the record because now you're both accountable-
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
... for having to take each other's advice.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- 10:54 – 13:13
Healing through private art: daily lullabies during cancer treatment
- AGAdam Grant
Okay, so I wanna, I wanna talk about healing. Uh, you both have been major forces for healing in the world. Uh, Suleika, literally, that's when you rose to prominence, right? Writing about the, the early stages of your experience with cancer. Uh, Jon, I think last night at the opening concert, one of the most frequent comments was, "Jon is healing us, in part by making us dance together."
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- AGAdam Grant
Uh, talk to me about the power of music to heal and the power of writing to heal.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm. So I'll give you one example that involves Jon. Um, three years ago, I had a recurrence. I went through a second bone marrow transplant, which involved multiple weeks in the hospital, and because of a surge in COVID and the infection risk, there was a period of time where Jon and I weren't able to be in the same room, about a week or two. Um, and Jon responded to that challenge by deciding to compose lullabies. And sending me a lullaby every single day, uh, that I could listen to on loop as a way of enveloping me with his presence and his love. And of course, not everyone has a spouse who can compose them lullabies.
- AGAdam Grant
Yeah, that's not fair.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
But what struck me about that is how, you know, everything we do requires creativity, and especially survival. Figuring out how to tap into your imagination when you're confined to a hospital room or to cell, a cell, to move beyond the confines of whatever your space, uh, is that you find yourself in requires creativity. And so I think that small act, for me, which was not public-facing, there was no goal, it wasn't part of some album project, has changed the way that I think of my own small creative acts outside of my creative work.
- 13:13 – 15:11
A ‘creative church’ on tour: bringing the living room to the stage
- JBJon Batiste
When you, you asked the question, I, I started to recall our recent tour. We went on a tour together. This is the first time that we were on stage together, last year. And we did this really... I didn't know it was possible to bring your living room on tour.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
But we did the closest thing that you could. We set up our k- it was basically the, the, the couch from our living room, the rug, some of the lamps, even some of the, the décor, and then we had books, and Suleika's been journaling since she was a kid, and has trunks of journals. And the show was basically reading from the journals, reading from the book, and us making music together. And that was, it felt like a creative church.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm.
- JBJon Batiste
The people that were in the audience were such a range of different experience, different, different generations, just a culmination of so many different life forces, and the energy of all the people being so focused and invested in something that feels super... Just with the stakes of everything in the world today, us hanging out in our living room, it felt so consequential. It was so deep in a way that reminded me... And I'm reminded every time we get the, the blessing to play and perform, and as a musician, when I listen to all the musicians, my peers, and also the greats who I admire, I'm always conscious of that. But this was a different... It was like, um, it was, it was a soul cleansing.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm.
- JBJon Batiste
Everybody brought their souls and, and we all cleansed our souls together. And then we walked out, and it was like, "Wow, we can just have moments like that." That was powerful. That's, to me, what brought to mind, your, your question brought to mind.
- 15:11 – 16:11
Art beyond entertainment: meaning-making, translation, and connection
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Well-
- AGAdam Grant
I don't think I've ever heard the word soul in Davos before.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
[laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
You know, anyone who's read something or, or listened to a song and felt less alone, more connected, um, to anyone who's been moved, um, then you know that the arts is, is, is more than entertainment. Um, I think our artists are often translators of history, translators of the moment, torchbearers often of the future, and they're able to synthesize the human experience, be it despair or heartbreak, um, or great joy and success into something that doesn't just make sense, but allows for meaning, uh, to be taken in and, and metabolized.
- 16:11 – 19:16
The shared journal: letter-writing as relationship communication practice
- AGAdam Grant
Okay, I have to pick up on the journaling theme.
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Jon, you mentioned that Suleika's an, an obsessive journaler.
- JBJon Batiste
Truly, truly.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
And of course, we know that would mean that you also have to start journaling, but you have gone farther. The two of you have a shared journal.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm.
- AGAdam Grant
What in the world is that?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs] I love the idea of communication lessons and learning how to communicate, learning how to be a better communicator. And for me, I'm oftentimes trying to think of ways to build my skill in that area. With music, ultimately, we're trying to communicate. Even if it's an, a instrumental song, we're trying to communicate, meaning making. If it's a, if it's a conversation, w- we're trying to communicate s- things that oftentimes are not possible to be fully transmitted in words, but through our inflections, through the, the, the way that we, we're able to put our ideas together, references, we can get closer. And in a relationship, we value that so much because there's so much that's on our soul, there's so much on our spirit every day. How do we figure out how to communicate that in the bustle of life?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm.
- JBJon Batiste
When everything is moving, the pace of things is, i- it's going. And there's so many significant moments, there's so many milestones, there's so many hardships. Sometimes you can be at a loss for words. And I learned from Suleika that the journal, you know, it's, it, it's, it's really a very sacred place, but it can also just be something that helps you to, to communicate, so we, we decided to start writing each other letters.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Well, and I think, you know, the practice of writing letters is increasingly a lost art form. Um, and there's- benefit, especially in romantic relationships, to having a lag between what you have to say and the response. I think of, you know, Rilke's Letters to a Young Poet. There's a way in which when we're in conversation, um, we're not always able to say what it is that we want to say, and sometimes we don't even know what it is that we want to say. And when you put pen to paper, I think there's a more direct line between the subconscious, between the unsaid, um, and, and what emerges. And so because we're millennials, we weren't actually mailing each other letters.
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
I would write a letter to Jon in my journal. I'd snap a photo of it and text it to him.
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
He would write a letter in his and text it back to me. But I think we had conversations that we never could have had on the phone or even in person.
- AGAdam Grant
I don't think our audience knew they were getting marriage advice today.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Let alone that it would be to become pen pals with your partner.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- 19:16 – 20:37
Audience Q1—Co-creating ‘Bandcamp’: book, musical, and blending mediums
- AGAdam Grant
But I think it's time for audience questions. We can take a few. Alan Fleischman, mic is coming to you.
- SPSpeaker
You guys are such a beautiful couple. I- have you thought about writing a book together? I love your book. I love your music. Have you thought about taking that collection and putting it to publication?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Hmm. We did start toying with the idea. I don't know if it's a book or a musical. Um, but the title came to us, called Bandcamp, because band camp I feel like is such a fun playground for, yeah, so many of the joys and challenges and the glorious awkwardness of, of coming of age. [laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
Yeah, Bandcamp, look out for it when, whenever it happens.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs] I, I think that would be a, a, a dream of mine. I'm gonna start with a book that I'm writing and, and Suleika will help me because I'm gonna need the help. And I'm excited about, um, Bandcamp because it is what we did on the tour, the blending of the mediums, the cross... It's, it's a cross translation. It's a translation between mediums that I'm very interested in, and I think that our relationship, it really represents very well.
- AGAdam Grant
A hand over here.
- 20:37 – 23:34
Audience Q2—Creative block: journaling that ‘doesn’t count’ and refilling the well
- SPSpeaker
Thank you. I'm Mina al-Oraibi from The National. You're both incredibly talented, but all of us sometimes hit a block on creating, writing, expressing yourself, so how do you deal with it?
- SJSuleika Jaouad
I am someone who feels blocked more often than not. Um, and the reason I think I've been an obsessive journaler my entire life is because it's the writing that doesn't count. It's a rare space, especially in our world today, where there is no audience, unless you have a very nosy mother who's reading your journals-
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs]
- SJSuleika Jaouad
... where you get to show up as your most unedited, unvarnished self. And so often, when I don't know what to say, I begin by writing, "I don't want to write about..." And then I write into that, and inevitably, it's an indication of what I'm most curious about. Um, I think also just refilling the well outside of whatever your discipline is, for me, is always what inspires me. Listening to music, um, reading poetry out loud or going to an open mic night, um, rereading books that influenced me as a child, all of that, uh, inevitably sparks some idea or some little igniting moment that leads me to the next thing.
- AGAdam Grant
And Jon, we wanna hear how you get unblocked. Um, but because Suleika is too modest, uh-
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
... if you have not read her book of Alchemy yet, it is the best guide to overcoming writer's block and all kinds of creative blocks that I've encountered. Highly recommend.
- JBJon Batiste
Literally about to give that advice. I would just say read Suleika's book.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
[laughs] That's the- there's, there's so many great, great lessons and, and, uh, I would highly recommend that, the Book of Alchemy.
- AGAdam Grant
Jon, you're a gamer. Do video games help you creatively at all?
- JBJon Batiste
For sure, 100%. Before I left, I was, uh, sitting on the couch. We watched some films and then, Suleika, when you went to sleep, I went and put on NBA 2K.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
And I was Steph Curry.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
'Cause I love, I just love the... I, I always would escape into a game, especially RPGs where you could become the person and live in the world through that person's eyes.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- JBJon Batiste
That was a beautiful thing. Something about that really is connected in some way to my music making. I couldn't explain how, though.
- AGAdam Grant
All right.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Jon-
- AGAdam Grant
We have time for one more question right there. We'll do it quickly.
- 23:34 – 25:25
Audience Q3—Culture that heals the world: music, intention, and social movements
- SPSpeaker
Hi, Jon. Um, I'm Vinicius. I'm Brazilian, and I love, love, love my country. I love my culture, and you've been showing so much respect for Brazilian culture by bringing artists to the spotlight. And I want to, uh, to ask you, nowadays I work with climate and I work with that because I love my country, and I would like to ask you about healing the world with sounds and words. How do you think that we're saving the world through culture?
- AGAdam Grant
In 30 seconds or less, go.
- JBJon Batiste
Okay. Well-
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- JBJon Batiste
So I think about that all the time. I love the idea of thinking about music as energy and as frequency. And frequency emits intention, and it also plants the seed of intention, and that intention sprouts in your subconscious and then in your conscious mind as ideas. Ideas become things.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Mm.
- JBJon Batiste
If you look at, you know, we had the birthday of the great Martin Luther King Jr., the civil rights movement and the music that preceded it was the soundtrack and also one of the things that gave it a life force in a different way that it would not have had without that energy frequency permeating every moment, every march, every bus ride, every protest. All of this is important, and we have a superpower in music when we view it as not only entertainment, but as a spiritual practice.
- AGAdam Grant
Well done. I would call the two of you a national treasure if we were in America, but we're in Europe. You are an international treasure.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Thank you both.
- SJSuleika Jaouad
Thank you, Adam. Thank you. [upbeat music]
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