CHAPTERS
- 0:00 – 0:31
Boundaries as self-care: an act of love
Rahaf Harfoush reframes self-care as the practice of setting boundaries. She describes boundaries as a way of communicating what you will and won’t accept, which helps you put yourself first and show up more grounded and authentic.
- •Self-care can mean setting clear boundaries
- •Boundaries communicate what you’re willing to accept
- •Putting yourself first can help you show up authentically
- •Groundedness and authenticity increase when you honor your limits
- 0:31 – 0:59
People-pleasing, validation seeking, and the cost of self-abandonment
She explains that people-pleasing often comes from a deep desire for validation, acceptance, and being seen. Rahaf introduces the idea that many emotional wounds stem from self-abandonment—and that what we seek from others is often what we need to give ourselves.
- •People-pleasing can be driven by a need for validation and acceptance
- •Wanting to be seen is a core motivation behind pleasing behaviors
- •Many wounds may trace back to self-abandonment
- •The validation we seek externally may be something we need to provide internally
