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Dr. Shadé ZahraiHow to Improve your Emotional Intelligence (for career success) | Shadé Zahrai
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Three practical emotional intelligence strategies to advance your career faster
- Emotional intelligence (EI) is framed as a key predictor of performance and leadership potential, involving awareness, use, and management of emotions in yourself and others.
- The first strategy builds self-awareness by identifying your emotional “energy state” (positive/negative and high/low intensity) to create distance from triggers and choose better responses.
- The second strategy focuses on understanding others through non-verbal cues and curious, probing questions that uncover motivations and emotional drivers.
- The third strategy strengthens workplace relationships by managing your own non-verbal signals, using humor to reduce stress, and reframing conflict as a growth opportunity.
- The overall aim is to increase visibility as a strong contributor with leadership potential by making interactions more productive, empathic, and effective.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasEmotional intelligence is a skill set, not a vague personality trait.
EI is presented as the ability to understand, use, and manage emotions—your own and others’—through emotional awareness, harnessing emotions for tasks, and regulation/repair.
Name and locate your emotion before you react.
In high-pressure or triggering moments, noticing what happens in your mind and body helps you move from automatic reaction to deliberate response.
Use the “energy plot” to quickly classify what you’re feeling.
Plot emotions by intensity (high/low) and valence (positive/negative or “empowered/not empowered”) to clarify your current state and decide how to shift it productively.
Ask “What triggered this?” to create distance from negativity.
Intentional self-coaching questions help you identify the source of anger/anxiety/sadness and reduce its control over your next behavior.
Understanding others requires listening beyond words.
Tone, facial expression, and other non-verbal cues can reveal emotional state changes, improving how you respond moment-to-moment in workplace interactions.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesWhat's the one skill that's guaranteed to make you more successful, more productive, earn a higher salary, and even make you a better leader? Yep, you guessed it. It's in the title. Emotional intelligence.
— Dr. Shadé Zahrai
The reality is that we're actually not particularly good at articulating what emotion we're feeling at any given time, which is a problem.
— Dr. Shadé Zahrai
Learning how to first identify your energy states allow you to then self-coach and ask yourself intentional and thoughtful questions like, "What made me feel this way? What was I triggered by?"
— Dr. Shadé Zahrai
And remember, there is no such thing as good or bad emotion. There are only good or bad reactions to your emotions.
— Dr. Shadé Zahrai
Separate yourself from the situation emotionally by taking a step back and realize that any conflict is an opportunity for you to grow as a person.
— Dr. Shadé Zahrai
SPEAKERS
Dr. Shadé Zahrai
hostOrganizational psychologist and leadership expert focused on emotional intelligence and career success.
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