Lori Gottlieb — The Power of Getting to Unknow Yourself | The Tim Ferriss Show

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

March 23, 2020

Duration

1h 37m

Channel

Tim Ferriss

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Sign up for my free "5-Bullet Friday" newsletter: https://go.tim.blog/5-bullet-friday-yt/ Every Friday, I send out an exclusive email with the five coolest things I’ve found (or explored) that week. It could include exclusive giveaways or chances to interact with me, books, gadgets, albums, articles, new hacks/tricks, and — of course — all sorts of weird stuff I dig up around the world. Lori Gottlieb (@LoriGottlieb1) is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is being adapted as a television series by Eva Longoria and the creators of the Emmy and Golden Globe-winning series The Americans. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes the Atlantic’s weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column and contributes regularly to the New York Times and many other publications. Her recent TED Talk is one of the top 10 most-watched of the year, and she is a sought-after expert in media such as the Today show, Good Morning America, CBS’s Early Show, CNN’s Newsroom, and NPR’s Fresh Air. Her new iHeart podcast, Dear Therapists, produced by Katie Couric, will premiere this year. Please enjoy! Intro [00:00] Lori's appearance at The Moth [06:21] What is the hierarchy of pain? [10:55] There's a place for idiot compassion and wise compassion. [13:46] How to listen to someone’s story in a way that invites self-reflection [17:23] How can we better communicate—and avoid escalating conflict—with each other? [20:26] How does Lori define therapy? Plus, the benefits of "unknowing" yourself. [22:42] Why we keep storylines going that don't serve us anymore. [25:51] What distinguishes a good therapist from a great therapist? [30:12] A memorable time when Lori’s own great therapist improvised to great effect. [32:07] “Insight is the booby prize of therapy.” [33:38] The pros and cons of therapy in person vs. writing advice to a general audience in her Dear Therapist column [38:41] How to better identify your own blind spots, and how a therapist can help [47:15] In what ways does Lori think she and I are most alike and most different? [55:18] The education of Lori Gottlieb [57:31] On moving through change [1:04:03] The benefits of acknowledging life’s hundred-percent mortality rate [1:06:56] How does Lori help people get past denial? [1:12:17] What we’re doing to get through these challenging COVID-19 times [1:16:24] What book has Lori gifted the most? [1:22:44] How Lori made two big project decisions [1:25:11] Parting thoughts [1:29:33] SUBSCRIBE: http://bit.ly/1dSzTkW About Tim Ferriss: Tim Ferriss is one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and an early-stage tech investor/advisor in Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ other companies. He is also the author of five #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers: The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body, The 4-Hour Chef, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors. The Observer and other media have named him “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of his podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show, which has exceeded 400 million downloads and been selected for “Best of iTunes” three years running. Connect with Tim Ferriss: Sign up for "5-Bullet Friday" (Tim's email newsletter): https://go.tim.blog/5-bullet-friday-1/ Visit the Tim Ferriss PODCAST: https://tim.blog/podcast/ Visit the Tim Ferriss BLOG: https://tim.blog/ Follow Tim Ferriss on TWITTER: https://twitter.com/tferriss/ Follow Tim Ferriss on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/timferriss/ Like Tim Ferriss on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TimFerriss/

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Tim Ferriss

  host

  Host of The Tim Ferriss Show and author/investor focused on performance and lifestyle design.

• Lori Gottlieb

  guest

  Psychotherapist and author of "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone" and advice columnist ("Dear Therapist").

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Tim Ferriss, featuring Tim Ferriss and Tim Ferriss, Lori Gottlieb — The Power of Getting to Unknow Yourself | The Tim Ferriss Show explores Therapy, stories, and change: un-knowing yourself beyond insight alone Lori Gottlieb describes how personal stories—like her experience becoming a parent via sperm donor—can reveal universal emotions that connect audiences and reduce isolation.

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