How to ask the right questions, project confidence, and win over skeptics | Paige Costello (Asana)

How to ask the right questions, project confidence, and win over skeptics | Paige Costello (Asana)

Lenny's PodcastJul 9, 20231h 3m

Lenny Rachitsky (host), Paige Costello (guest), Narrator

Building trust and credibility as a younger or less-experienced leaderAsana’s product planning structure, metrics, and Double Diamond processHybrid work, office culture, and collaboration dynamics at AsanaCoaching and developing product managers (experience, exposure, education)Mindsets for confidence, curiosity, and challenging scarcity thinkingIntegrating AI/LLMs into an existing product and org structureCareer management: learning curve, environment, and problem selection

In this episode of Lenny's Podcast, featuring Lenny Rachitsky and Paige Costello, How to ask the right questions, project confidence, and win over skeptics | Paige Costello (Asana) explores paige Costello on trust, coaching PMs, and smarter product strategy Paige Costello, product lead at Asana, shares how she builds trust and credibility as a relatively young leader by deeply understanding customers, markets, and metrics, and by showing up with unique insight instead of pretending to know everything.

Paige Costello on trust, coaching PMs, and smarter product strategy

Paige Costello, product lead at Asana, shares how she builds trust and credibility as a relatively young leader by deeply understanding customers, markets, and metrics, and by showing up with unique insight instead of pretending to know everything.

She explains Asana’s evolving product development and planning processes—nested metrics, area-based ownership, rolling 12‑month plans, and the Double Diamond framework—and how these changes improved focus, autonomy, and speed.

Paige dives into her approach to mentoring PMs through leading by example, exposure over instruction, and concrete tools like better feedback frameworks and clearer decision ownership.

Throughout, she highlights common PM pitfalls, mindsets that accelerate growth, and practical techniques for confidence, handling trade-offs, and integrating AI and LLMs into product work.

Key Takeaways

Bring unique insight to build trust, regardless of your seniority.

Paige emphasizes that younger PMs win over skeptics by deeply knowing the customer, product, numbers, and competitive landscape—showing up with real insight rather than trying to out-expert functional veterans.

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Plan at multiple altitudes with rolling horizons, not rigid annual roadmaps.

Asana moved to nested metrics (R&D → pillar → area → team) and rolling 12‑month plans updated every six months, which aligns product and go-to-market while admitting that priorities will change.

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Use the Double Diamond to force real discovery, not opinion-driven solutions.

By explicitly broadening and narrowing on customer, problem, and solution—and mapping reviews (kickoff, concept, spec, full experience, launch) to those phases—teams escape knee-jerk feature thinking and stay customer-targeted.

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Coach by example and exposure, not just instructions.

Paige intentionally runs meetings the way she wants others to run them and brings PMs into high-stakes situations so they can learn through exposure (seeing how it’s done) alongside education and direct experience.

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Shift from advocacy to inquiry to grow faster as a PM.

New PMs often feel compelled to be the expert and defend a fully-baked plan; Paige advises instead to be truly curious, invite challenge, and co-develop solutions, which leads to better outcomes and stronger relationships.

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Clarify decision ownership and limit approvals to speed execution.

Asana reduced daisy-chain approvals by capping reviews (e. ...

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Use simple mental models to reduce anxiety and unlock options.

Tools like “How might the opposite be true? ...

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Notable Quotes

Bring the insight. Know thy customer, know thy market, know thy competitors, know thy numbers, know thy product.

Paige Costello

Think big, ship small.

Paige Costello

Trust is equal to credibility plus reliability plus authenticity, divided by perception of self-interest.

Paige Costello (referencing Anne Raimondi’s framework)

Always answer the question they should have asked.

Paige Costello (advice from an Intuit business unit leader)

Sometimes your brain is so accustomed to having a scarcity mindset. The moment I asked myself, ‘How might the opposite be true?’ my shoulders dropped.

Paige Costello

Questions Answered in This Episode

How can a PM practically build the kind of deep customer and market insight Paige describes when they’re at a company with weak research or customer access?

Paige Costello, product lead at Asana, shares how she builds trust and credibility as a relatively young leader by deeply understanding customers, markets, and metrics, and by showing up with unique insight instead of pretending to know everything.

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What are the early warning signs that a team is stuck in advocacy rather than inquiry, and how can a leader intervene without disempowering them?

She explains Asana’s evolving product development and planning processes—nested metrics, area-based ownership, rolling 12‑month plans, and the Double Diamond framework—and how these changes improved focus, autonomy, and speed.

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How might the Double Diamond process need to change for very early-stage startups or extremely fast-moving growth teams?

Paige dives into her approach to mentoring PMs through leading by example, exposure over instruction, and concrete tools like better feedback frameworks and clearer decision ownership.

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What trade-offs did Asana experience when limiting approvals and shrinking meetings—were there any meaningful downsides to that increased speed and autonomy?

Throughout, she highlights common PM pitfalls, mindsets that accelerate growth, and practical techniques for confidence, handling trade-offs, and integrating AI and LLMs into product work.

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As AI and LLMs become more capable, how should PMs rethink their own role, skills, and the definition of “insight” they bring to the room?

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Lenny Rachitsky

You're often the youngest person in the room. What have you learned about how to garner trust and win over skeptics?

Paige Costello

The thing I would say is bring the insight. Know thy customer, know thy market, know thy competitors, know thy numbers, know thy product.

Lenny Rachitsky

I'm curious what you find most holds back new PMs.

Paige Costello

Your brain is so accustomed to having a scarcity mindset, as opposed to, like, creating alternative options or seeing a different path. Effectively, there's this notion of how might the opposite be true? And the moment I challenged myself and said, "How might the opposite be true?" my shoulders dropped. (laughs) I felt more relaxed. I was like, "Oh. Yeah, I can do both. It'll be fine."

Lenny Rachitsky

(intro music plays) Welcome to Lenny's Podcast, where I interview world-class product leaders and growth experts to learn from their hard-won experiences building and growing today's most successful products. Today my guest is Paige Costello. Paige is a product lead at Asana, overseeing teams responsible for the core product experience of Asana. Before Asana, she was director of product at Intercom. And prior to that, she was a group product manager at Intuit, where she spent five and a half years. In our wide-ranging conversation, we dig into strategies for building trust with people who are more experienced than you or older than you. We talk about coaching product managers, including why leading by example is often the most effective strategy. We talk about Asana's product development process and how it's evolved over the years as the company has scaled, plus some of Paige's product and career missteps and what she's learned from those moments. To prep for this interview, I got input from some of Paige's colleagues and former colleagues, and everyone I talked to loved Paige. You'll soon see why. Enjoy this episode with Paige Costello after a short word from our sponsors. Today's episode is brought to you by Brave Search and their newest product, the Brave Search API, an independent global search index you can use to power your search or AI apps. If your work involves AI, then you know how important new data is to train your LLMs and to power your AI applications. You might be building an incredible AI product, but if you're using the same datasets as your competitors to train your models, you don't have much of an advantage. Brave Search is the fastest growing search engine since Bing, and it's 100% independent from the big tech companies. Its index features billions of pages of high-quality data from real humans, and it's constantly updated thanks to being the default search engine in the Brave browser. If you're building products with search capabilities, you're probably experiencing soaring API costs or lack of viable global alternatives to Bing or Google. It's only gonna become harder to afford these challenges. The Brave Search API gives you access to its novel web-scale data with competitive features, intuitive structuring, and affordable costs. AI devs will particularly benefit from data containing thorough coverage of recent events. Lenny's Podcast listeners can get started testing the API for free at brave.com/lenny. That's brave.com/lenny. This episode is brought to you by Attio, a new type of CRM that's powerful, flexible, and built around your data. Traditional CRMs were built for a different era, with totally different speed, scale, and data demands. Attio is different. It allows you to quickly build a CRM that matches your unique workflows and data structures. Within minutes of connecting your email and calendar, you'll have a CRM that's already set up, complete with customer profiles and automatic data enrichment. You'll also have real-time dynamic reporting at your fingertips. No more slow deployments, outdated user experiences, or tedious manual data input. With Attio, you can build and adapt your CRM on the fly, no matter your business model or company stage. Attio is the CRM for fast-growing startups. Get started today and get 15% off your first year at attio.com/lenny. That's A-T-T-I-o.com/lenny. Paige, welcome to the podcast.

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