How To Become Psychologically Healthy & Attractive - Sadia Khan

There's nowhere worse than Dubai because the promiscuity in Dubai amongst men and women, it's the only city in the world where the women are far more promiscuous than the men. Far more. Because what's happened to the women that come to rich cities is they come emotionally detached. They come with the idea that, "I wanna meet a rich man." Now, that woman is completely different to the woman that comes to a city and says, "I wanna fall in love and have kids." Now, that emotionally detached woman who comes, "I want a good life," is never emotionally invested. And here's the mistake a lot of rich men make. They seem to think that if they can support a girl and give her a good life, loyalty is a given. But what they're forgetting is a woman that craves a good life doesn't seek emotional intimacy. She seeks financial intimacy. Uh, any woman who doesn't seek emotional intimacy is far more likely to stray. (air whooshing)

What's your background, for the people that don't know you?

Uh, my name is Sabia. I am a relationship coach. I used to be a psychology teacher. I studied psychology and then I went on to do my master's in psychotherapy and education. So I was teaching psychology for many, many years in London and Dubai. And then only about a year ago, about a year or so ago, I decided to kind of give a little bit of the relationship advice that I learned, uh, in, in my studies. I thought, "Let me just post one or two videos, and because it seems like there's a, a gap of understanding in the market." I just saw so many podcasts teaching the wrong things that I thought, "Let me just give a little bit of advice." And, um, it kind of went a little bit big on social media. So now I, I stopped teaching and I've gone into full-time, um, relationship coaching.

What is it that you see on the internet with regards to relationship advice that was the most egregious? What were people getting most wrong that lit a fire under your psychology background?

Um, I think what I couldn't understand is why we were pitting men and women against each other. I couldn't understand that battle. I didn't understand what positive outcomes could ever come from making men think women are users and abusers and they're awful, and women thinking men are dangerous and aggressive and cheats. I couldn't understand, um, where this anger and hostility was coming from. And more so, I didn't understand how it's gonna benefit people by thinking like this. So I just wanted to debunk some of this kind of, uh, the zeitgeist to just kind of hate the opposite gender.

Why do you think that has become so prevalent?

I think what's happened is... Firstly, it's great for clickbait. It's r- fantastic for, like... Because lonely people are attached to what they see on the internet the most. So when you're saying something that triggers the people that have been hurt, they are gonna share, repost, watch, et cetera. So when we tap into vulnerable people or people who've been broken or hurt, we're going to get more views, we're going to blow up quicker and easier. So I think tapping into, you know, online success, they wanna divide and conquer. That's always the b- best strategy. The other thing is, is that a lot of people actually haven't had relationship experiences, especially the younger generation. They haven't had that much experience, so they learn a lot of it from watching online and watching memes and so on and so forth. So I think it's become people's template. They use the internet as a template for relationships if they've been modeled it at home. And as a result, that's why they stick to the, the information that they're getting online.