What No One Wants to Admit About Porn - Zack Telander
Chris Williamson (host), Zack Telander (guest)
In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Zack Telander, What No One Wants to Admit About Porn - Zack Telander explores porn, Powerlifting, And Fame: What We Avoid Admitting About Culture Chris Williamson and Zack Telander catch up on their rapidly evolving careers before diving into a series of controversial cultural flashpoints. They discuss the comeback of Fyre Festival’s Billy McFarland, public forgiveness of serially problematic influencers, and new transgender policies in strength sports. The conversation then turns to whether porn use counts as cheating, how fragile some relationship norms have become, and broader questions about fantasy, addiction, and honesty. Along the way they touch on body-positivity hypocrisy, representation in casting, nightlife excess, robotaxi sex, and the psychological and lifestyle toll of being a modern creator or touring performer.
Porn, Powerlifting, And Fame: What We Avoid Admitting About Culture
Chris Williamson and Zack Telander catch up on their rapidly evolving careers before diving into a series of controversial cultural flashpoints. They discuss the comeback of Fyre Festival’s Billy McFarland, public forgiveness of serially problematic influencers, and new transgender policies in strength sports. The conversation then turns to whether porn use counts as cheating, how fragile some relationship norms have become, and broader questions about fantasy, addiction, and honesty. Along the way they touch on body-positivity hypocrisy, representation in casting, nightlife excess, robotaxi sex, and the psychological and lifestyle toll of being a modern creator or touring performer.
Key Takeaways
Public redemption often hinges more on winning than on ethics.
Figures like Billy McFarland, Logan Paul, Jake Paul, and Andrew Tate demonstrate that if you keep creating momentum, many people quickly forget or minimize past scandals, especially when new victories or deals follow.
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Sports bodies are quietly shifting toward ‘open’ categories to protect women’s competition.
Swimming (FINA), powerlifting (IPF), and Olympic weightlifting have started restricting male-puberty athletes from female categories and experimenting with open divisions, largely in reaction to flashpoint cases like Lia Thomas, Laurel Hubbard, and Anne Andres.
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Porn becomes a relationship problem when it displaces intimacy, not by default.
They distinguish genuine porn addiction from ordinary use, noting that porn can either signal underlying relationship issues or directly erode a couple’s sex life—making communication and agreed boundaries more important than blanket moralizing.
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Treating sexual fantasy itself as ‘cheating’ ignores basic male–female differences.
Chris cites research that men typically cycle through multiple partners in a single fantasy, whereas women focus on one; framing any non-partner fantasy as betrayal is both unrealistic and heavily biased toward a female psychological template.
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Audience capture pushes creators toward extreme or narrow personas.
They reference Nikocado Avocado as a cautionary tale of a creator reshaping his entire life around what an audience rewards, and contrast that with trying to evolve formats (like Zack’s) so people follow the person, not just one shtick.
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Nightlife and touring careers look glamorous but are often psychologically brutal.
Stories of DJs like Avicii and their friend Kosi reveal cycles of sleep deprivation, substance use, emotional isolation, and even psychotic breaks—underscoring how high-arousal night work clashes with basic human rhythms.
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Japanese and Korean cultures exemplify extreme refinement—and extreme demographic risk.
Zack marvels at obsessive attention to detail in Japan and the intensity of Korean drinking and food culture, while Chris notes both countries’ collapsing birth rates and the eerie absence of pregnant women or children, especially in Korea.
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Notable Quotes
“We love winners. The world loves winners. It doesn’t even matter how evil, how bad they are—if they win, a lot of people will still defend them.”
— Zack Telander
“People only remember your last three streams. On the first one they give you loads of shit, by the fourth one everyone’s forgotten.”
— Chris Williamson (referencing Destiny’s ‘just keep streaming’ strategy)
“It’s the nose blindness to fucking up that the world has. The room stinks like shit, but we’ve been in here for two hours, so that’s just our base level.”
— Zack Telander
“Thinking bad things isn’t the problem. It’s when you make those thoughts physical—searching for it, messaging someone, turning it into reality—that’s where it becomes an issue.”
— Zack Telander
“The people who watch the DJ are having way more fun than he is.”
— Zack Telander
Questions Answered in This Episode
Where should couples realistically draw the line between acceptable sexual fantasy, porn use, and behavior that genuinely constitutes betrayal?
Chris Williamson and Zack Telander catch up on their rapidly evolving careers before diving into a series of controversial cultural flashpoints. ...
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Are ‘open’ transgender categories in sports a sustainable compromise, or will they simply create new fairness and participation problems?
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Why do audiences so readily forgive serially problematic figures once they start ‘winning’ again, and what does that say about our values?
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How can creators protect themselves from audience capture and burnout while still giving viewers what they want?
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What might Japan’s and Korea’s mix of hyper-functioning culture and collapsing birth rates foreshadow for other developed societies?
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We live together.
Mm-hmm.
And despite that fact, we've barely seen each other for probably two months now.
Yeah. Well, because if I'm traveling, you're home. If you're traveling, I'm home. So tha- now we're finally reunited.
And-
It's g- feels good.
... in that time, it, it, like, it's, that's such a long amount of time for two people to be apart that life has happened in the interim.
Mm-hmm.
Uh, I hit a million subs, recorded with Bumstead, Sam Harris, Hormozi, went to that Gymshark event. You traveled to the UK, Korea, Japan, then came back, then went to the CrossFit Games for the entire time. Rogan posted a piece of your content on the show that he did, reacted to a piece of content on the show.
Mm-hmm.
I think you've broken some more subscriber milestones. And now I'm about to leave for another two weeks. So this is like a brief period. Like, everybody else might not ca- I haven't caught up with you.
Yeah.
So I wanna know what, what, what the headlines have been from the last couple of months of your life.
Uh, just more of the same. Like, it's the content game. You, you know it, I know it. It's very g- it's, what's cool is, like, for, for those of us, or for people who aren't in the content game, basically everyone who's listening to this, um, it's very interesting to find people who are also in it and then live with that person. So it's like, uh, I kind of get motivated by your work, and I feel like sometimes you check in and you're like, "Holy shit, Zach's done something pretty big here." Um, but yeah. It's just more of the same. Like, uh, getting crazy interviews, meeting people who... So Ben Smith, the winner of the CrossFit Games back in 20 s- '15 or 2016 or something, maybe 2014, I forget, um, he was one of my heroes in CrossFit. I'm at the airport and he walks up to me. He, like, he literally, like, says, "Be there for me." He goes, "Hey man, I love your stuff on YouTube." I'm like-
Fanboys over you.
Bro (laughs) , I have... Yeah. So, so we, like, clicked immediately. I went to, uh, Virginia Beach, and I actually just did a training session with him. I didn't even cover it or put it on my YouTube channel. Um, it was just so cool for things like that to happen. And I know that that's been happening to you. Like, because I knew you before you would've ever had a chance to have been on Rogan-
Mm.
... uh, let alone be friends with Rogan. So, it, it's really, really fun.
You just had an episode on Rogan where some episode got responded to. What was that? I haven't watched that episode yet. I saw your screenshot of it, but I haven't seen it. What were they reacting to and what'd they say?
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