The Evolutionary Psychology Of Bullies - Tony Volk

The Evolutionary Psychology Of Bullies - Tony Volk

Modern WisdomJun 5, 20231h 37m

Tony Volk (guest), Chris Williamson (host)

Definition and distinguishing features of bullying versus general aggressionEvolutionary functions of bullying: dominance signaling, resources, and matingPersonality traits (HEXACO, honesty–humility) and genetic heritability of bullyingVictim selection, risk factors, and the bully–victim dynamic across developmentSex differences in bullying tactics and reputational attacksEnvironmental influences: family SES, role models, school structure, and social mediaEffectiveness and limitations of anti-bullying interventions and practical advice for parents

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Tony Volk and Chris Williamson, The Evolutionary Psychology Of Bullies - Tony Volk explores bullying as Evolutionary Strategy: Power, Sex, Status, and Solutions Tony Volk explains bullying through an evolutionary psychology lens, arguing it’s often a strategic behavior that brings bullies status, resources, and even greater reproductive success, rather than a symptom of damage or low self-esteem.

Bullying as Evolutionary Strategy: Power, Sex, Status, and Solutions

Tony Volk explains bullying through an evolutionary psychology lens, arguing it’s often a strategic behavior that brings bullies status, resources, and even greater reproductive success, rather than a symptom of damage or low self-esteem.

He distinguishes bullying from general aggression by its deliberate harm, goal-directedness, and power imbalance, and shows how bullies carefully select vulnerable victims to signal their own formidability to an audience.

Key drivers include the personality trait of low honesty–humility, social environments that reward ruthless competition, and structural setups like age-graded schools and social media that amplify bullying’s reach and concealment.

Volk critiques many common interventions, outlines why some approaches backfire, and highlights evidence-based strategies for parents, schools, and peers to reduce bullying and buffer its long-term psychological and biological harms.

Key Takeaways

Bullying is strategic, not random cruelty or a ‘cry for help’.

Volk defines bullying as deliberate aggression against weaker individuals in a power-imbalanced relationship, often used to gain status, resources, and a reputation for being dangerous to challenge rather than stemming from poor self-esteem or social deficits.

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Low honesty–humility is the strongest personality predictor of bullying.

Bullies tend to believe they deserve more than others and are willing to exploit people to get it; this trait is highly heritable and strongly overlaps with the ‘dark core’ behind psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism.

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Bullies choose victims tactically and usually perform in front of an audience.

They target peers who are weak but not so weak that the signal is meaningless—isolated, smaller, younger, or socially awkward individuals—because public bullying efficiently advertises their formidability to other high-status peers.

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Bullying can pay off in popularity, sex, and even offspring.

Longitudinal and cross-cultural data show that adolescent bullies become more popular, have more sexual partners, initiate sex earlier, and later end up with more children on average, making bullying evolutionarily ‘successful’ despite its moral costs.

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Victimization has deep, long-term health and mental health consequences.

Severe, chronic bullying is linked to decades-long changes in immune function, gene expression, and elevated risks of depression, anxiety, and suicidality, making it far more than a character-building rite of passage.

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Most standard anti-bullying tactics are weak or can backfire.

Confronting bully and victim together is often iatrogenic, peer-led programs mainly affect low-status bullies, and crackdowns work only as long as the whole system sustains them; bullies adjust quickly and exploit gaps in monitoring and enforcement.

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Effective responses mix ‘carrots and sticks’ and change power dynamics.

Promising approaches include close parental monitoring of low honesty–humility kids, strongly enforced school norms, giving dominant kids pro-social status roles, building at-risk children’s friendships and competencies, and involving adults and allies rather than urging victims to simply ‘fight back’ alone.

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Notable Quotes

Bullies are behaving like selfish assholes. And like all other selfish assholes, they’re ruining it for everybody.

Tony Volk

Bullying is not a rite of passage. If you have severe bullying, it affects your immune response and the expression of your genes for decades.

Tony Volk

The biggest predictor we find across cultures is low honesty–humility… being bad is basically the same thing as being low in honesty–humility.

Tony Volk

Why is number two punching number 17? Number 17 isn’t a threat. What number two is doing is showing number one and number three what they’re capable of doing.

Tony Volk

It’s very rare that if they picked on somebody who could potentially punch their way out, they would probably bully them in a way that if they did that, it would be really bad.

Tony Volk

Questions Answered in This Episode

If bullying so reliably delivers status and mating benefits, what realistic incentives could ever fully compete with it in modern schools and workplaces?

Tony Volk explains bullying through an evolutionary psychology lens, arguing it’s often a strategic behavior that brings bullies status, resources, and even greater reproductive success, rather than a symptom of damage or low self-esteem.

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How should we treat bullying in policy and law when it has a strong genetic component but is still a strategic, morally chosen behavior?

He distinguishes bullying from general aggression by its deliberate harm, goal-directedness, and power imbalance, and shows how bullies carefully select vulnerable victims to signal their own formidability to an audience.

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Could systematically promoting pro-social status pathways (e.g., leadership roles, public praise for kindness) meaningfully redirect low honesty–humility kids, or will they just exploit those roles too?

Key drivers include the personality trait of low honesty–humility, social environments that reward ruthless competition, and structural setups like age-graded schools and social media that amplify bullying’s reach and concealment.

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Given social media’s role in amplifying and obscuring bullying, what kinds of platform-level design changes or regulations would actually reduce harm rather than push it elsewhere?

Volk critiques many common interventions, outlines why some approaches backfire, and highlights evidence-based strategies for parents, schools, and peers to reduce bullying and buffer its long-term psychological and biological harms.

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For adults who were badly bullied as children, what evidence-based steps best mitigate the long-term psychological and biological scars Volk describes?

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Tony Volk

There's far too many people who think that bullying is a rite of passage. If you have severe bullying, other researchers have shown that it affects your immune response for decades. It affects the expression of your genes for decades. It's not a minor thing. (wind blows)

Chris Williamson

Why did you get interested in studying bullying?

Tony Volk

It actually was, uh, kinda by accident. Uh, Wendy Craig at Queen's University, uh, had a whole pile of data and she needed a PhD student to work on it. Um, I was friends with her and I said, "Sure. Uh, I'll look at it." So, I ended up looking at it. And then over time, as I was a professor, more and more students wanted to do research on bullying. And it eventually became my main focus.

Chris Williamson

What do you think is unique or novel about the approach that you've taken to looking at bullying?

Tony Volk

Yeah, the biggest thing is that our group really asks why, um, bullying happens. Seeing as it's ubiquitous over time, uh, across cultural, um, and really hard to prevent, it- it seems like either development has gone wrong for so many people or maybe there's something in it for the bullies.

Chris Williamson

Mm. Okay. So how do you define bullying? What is it?

Tony Volk

Yeah, another great question. Um, we define bullying as a deliberate, uh, aggressive attempt against a weaker individual that causes harm. Uh, so it's gotta be goal-directed. It's got to, uh, be something that causes harm. So it can't be a meaningless thing. And most importantly, it has to happen in the context where the victim has a hard time defending themselves. That's the power imbalance.

Chris Williamson

So, bullying in that regard can't happen to somebody who is of equal status or higher status than you?

Tony Volk

Exactly. That would be general aggression, but that wouldn't be bullying.

Chris Williamson

Interesting. Okay. So what's the evolutionary hypothesis behind bullying? What have you come to believe about it?

Tony Volk

So, bullying, uh, at first seems a little counterintuitive from, um, an evolutionary perspective, in that what you often find is that in nature there's dominance hierarchies. So bullying is often confused with the alpha male, beta male, et cetera, but it's really unusual in dominance hierarchies for number two to pick on number 17 in the hierarchy. That's the whole point of a dominance hierarchy. Um, they shouldn't be fighting. So we think bullying has a few different functions. Um, some of them depend on that hierarchy and some don't. The ones that don't are pretty easy to explain. You're bullying somebody to get something that you want. So you want their resources, um, you want the best spot in the play yard, you want that scholarship that they're going for that you're interested in. But when it comes to bullying for, uh, dominance, we actually don't think that it's a direct competition between competitors, um. Instead what bullying is, it's a way of signaling how dangerous you are to compete with. So why is number two punching number 17? Number 17 isn't a threat. Number 17 doesn't have things that they need socially. But what number two is doing is showing number one and number three what they're capable of doing. Um, and they're picking a target that's a reasonable threat. So if you were a, a 10-year-old and you were beating up a four-year-old, that's not really impressive. Right? If you're in grade 12 and you're picking on a grade nine, that's not really gonna intimidate the other people. But on the other hand, if you're a twel- a grade 12, or a 12-year-old, uh, picking on a peer, then that's showing your peers what you're willing and capable of doing to other peers. And it seems to be quite effective.

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