Divorce Lawyer: “Give her a prenup on the 3rd date” - James Sexton

It's Valentine's Day!

I mean, listen, this is a big day. People get all hopped up and make bad choices. It's technically, this is, like, the best holiday for my profession because-

It's the biggest influx of future clients.

Yeah, there's just a level of confidence out there today.

Wonderful.

You know what I mean? Like, everybody out there is just, like, hyper-confident. There's a lot of proposals happen on Valentine's Day, and the romantic in me kind of is like, "Oh, this is lovely." And then the, you know-

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... the professional in me is like, "Statistically, the likelihood you're gonna cross paths with me- [laughing] ... is pretty good."

Uh, for the people that are listening, if you haven't got your beloved a Valentine's gift yet, and you're shitting yourself, and you think, "Oh, crap, I haven't done anything!" Uh, or if you just want to connect more deeply with your partner or work out if you should leave them, I've put together a list of 50 of the internet's most viral questions to connect more deeply with your partner. Some of them are evidence-based, some of them are stuff that I've come up with, and then 25 to work out whether or not it's time to leave. And you can get that at chriswillax.com/valentines. That's chriswillax.com/valentines. We were just talking about famous people. What do you see in the marriages and divorces of pro- professional athletes?

Well, professional athletes are a very particular breed because professional athletes have had a monastic discipline, most of them, to a very specific task. And, and so they have going for them, in the context of relationship, A, that they are used to putting all of their focus into one thing, right? How to catch and throw a football, how to shoot a three, whatever it might be. And so that, that becomes a useful skill in marriage, because in marriage, like, that one-pointedness can also be very useful, and it keeps you from being distracted by all the little, you know, shiny objects that happen. So that's helpful. It, i- it depends on the type of athlete, because I will tell you, like, NFL players, they get their contracts early. They usually have a girlfriend who they were with when they were kind of on the come-up, and then they get giant contracts very early on 'cause they have such short careers. So you're talking about getting a coup- you know, a couple hundred million dollars when you're in your early twenties. You usually have just married the girl you were dating in high school, you know, and, um, all of that money is now being acquired during the marriage. So it's all subject to, you know, division because you're one person in the eyes of the law on the day you get married. Most of these guys don't know that. Most of them aren't sophisticated enough that they would say, "Hey, you know, we should make sure I have a prenup." They don't always have the best people around them giving them advice when it comes to things like that. So, you know, I, I think professional athletes, depending on the longevity, like MLB players, NHL players, they have a longer career.