How To Identify Your Internal Fears - Corey Wilks

Up to 76% of people, they lay on their deathbeds with the exact same regret. They lived in mediocrity. They're like, "I wish I would have taken certain chances. I wish I would have faced my fears and went left instead of right, but I chose to be complacent. I chose to let fear stop me from living the life that I wanted to live and knew I was capable of doing. It just was too scary for me to do."

For the people that are watching, you will see that I'm back in my usual, uh, setting. I'm back in the UK. Uh, you'll also notice that I'm handholding a USB microphone, uh, and everything's just a little bit different. That's because I've been slowly fisted by British Airways over the last 24 hours. I left Austin about 24 hours ago. Um, two hours late, got to London Heathrow, that flight left another hour and a half late. Neither of my bags arrived, and then I've just got one bag and thankfully in that one bag is this USB microphone. Uh, like, I, I've been able to sort of piece together this very sort of rough-hewn way of putting stuff, but the show goes on, Corey. That's what we're fucking doing, okay? Uh, extracting-

'Cause you're a fucking professional. (laughs)

Correct. I've extracted British Airways from my, my back passage and now we're gonna record a podcast.

(laughs) I'm glad your rectum is clear. Let's fucking go.

Yes. Let's fucking go, man. So, you are somebody that's transitioned from, uh, being a therapist to now being a coach, and one of the things that I find that's interesting about that is the fact that you've obviously dealt with people that was, uh, subclinical, I think is the term, so people that were suffering with, uh, issues, getting them from, um, illness to wellness rather than wellness to high performance. Um, and what I'm very, very interested about is what the common challenges are that you found that high performers deal with that you were never dealing with with your previous clients when you was working clinically and you were getting people from some sort of, um, social anxiety disorder, depression, whatever it might be, to get them back to the normal world. What is it that the high performers are dealing with that you didn't see and also what are the similarities between the two?

Yeah, so back when I did therapy, you know, therapy's all about dysfunction, right? So, helping somebody overcome clinical depression or panic attacks, things like that. So before you can really flourish or start to tap more into your potential, you have to deal with that baseline functioning level of shit first, right? Because if you are, you know, acutely suicidal or, like I said, if you're having panic attacks so bad you can't leave your house, there's... I mean, your, your ceiling for potential is, is, is pretty low, right? So that's where a lot of therapy is about is how can we just help you function, period, to get you out the door and to just go to like a regular nine-to-five or just do, you know, just basic functioning shit, right? With a lot of high performers, they may, may struggle with like mood symptoms occasionally, right? Or they may have anxiety, everybody has anxiety to some extent in some situations, but it isn't necessarily crippling, right? So with a lot of the people that I work with and with coaching in general, it, it's much more about the assumption is you, you already function pretty well. What you need is these small tweaks to really optimize, okay? So, you know, sleep, diet, and exercise, those are probably pretty dialed in. Your stress management is probably relatively dialed in. So at this point it's like, okay, what do you need that, just that little bit extra, that edge, to really go further faster? That's really the, the main distinction is that there's just, they're at a higher level of functioning overall