41 Harsh Truths Nobody Wants To Admit - Alex Hormozi (4K)

We are back again, speed-insighting our way through stuff about how hard life is.

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The Queen of England died 18 months ago. She ruled an entire nation and accumulated more wealth than 99.9% of humans, and yet you haven't thought about her, except for right now. No matter how big your dreams, you're gonna die. Everyone will move on. Do what you want. It sucks to not be liked, but it sucks more to not be yourself.

Yeah, it's really interesting when we think about what tactically happens when someone dies, right? Like, a lot of emotion exists in the vague but far less in the specific, because you plan your funeral, right, and then you think that everyone's gonna be standing there just forever changed because of the death and the impact that you had on their lives, but the reality is there's gonna be a caterer at the funeral. Some people are gonna like the food. Some people are gonna comment that it was too cheap, you know, the food that you had. Um, they're gonna have comment on the venue like, "Oh, I don't really... You know, it's a little hot." There's gonna be somebody who's gonna, uh, make a list of people, and they're gonna check them off. Some people aren't gonna be able to make it last minute 'cause things came up, and it got busy. And after the whole funeral is over, everyone's gonna go to a restaurant and just eat dinner and then move on with their lives. And so not to say that it... uh, you know, the people who, you know, mean a lot to you, uh, won't remember you to a degree, sure. But on the macro scale, when I think about somebody like the Queen who accomplished so much in her life as like the- the zenith of, you know, accomplishment, and most people probably haven't even thought about her today except for the fact that we just brought it up. (laughs)

Mm-hmm.

And so I think that just... it, um... Whenever I have, uh, my harder times, that's my, my, like, reminder to self of, um, the absurdity of it all, which is like, "Someone's gonna argue over what appetizer they're gonna serve when I die. This probably doesn't matter that much." (laughs)

How does that change the way that you show up and operate in the moment?

I think it just decreases affect in, in the, in the acute moment. So I, you know, I define resiliency as the amount of time after an aversive stimulus, after a bad thing happens that you return back to baseline behavior. And so, um, and then there's a different one, which is how long is your fuse, which is toughness, and it's a whole different thing, right? But resiliency is like, "Okay, I've been cracked. You know, I've hit the fuse. The bomb's gone off," but the size of the bomb is irrelevant. Like, you could be super resilient, have a terrible day, your father dies, and the next day you're back. People are like, "Holy sh-" It's like you, like, go to the depths of hell, you touch the bottom of the pool, and then you shoot back up. And so I think about how many different tools can I have in my toolset to make the rebound from down to back up as V-shaped as possible?