How Do You Develop Real Confidence? - James Smith

If you go through life always taking the path of inaction, always opening these loops wondering whether or not the girl on the tube was single, whether or not your boss would have given you a pay rise, whether or not you could have got more responsibility at work, whether or not you could have told your partner how you really felt, is it all a guise? Is not being confident a guise to excuse yourself for constantly picking the source of inaction?

I'm very, very happy for the last couple of months for you. Some big wins. Another Sunday Times bestseller. Congrats, man.

Mate, thank you very much and the same goes for your camp. I mean, watching your trajectory over the last few months has been really good. Probably saw it before, like, probably six months ago when you went to Austin I was like, "This guy's, this guy's serious. This guy is gonna start moving in some big circles." And then some of the guests you've had on, I think have just bolstered your credibility, like, to that next level. Like, uh, yeah, you could see it from your first few years of effort where you were going and, uh, mate, it's been a pleasure to watch you kill it as well.

It's awesome to have a little community of people that are crushing it from the UK now. Really, really cool. And people that are all supporting each other, whether it's the Triggernometry boys or yourself, Darren's starting to step things up. You know, people are moving away to different countries, places that they know they can get more growth in. And it's really positive, so every time that you win, it makes me feel good, which is, uh, not necessarily something that I can say is a common culture in the UK. So I think setting that example is probably pretty good as well.

Yeah, I, um, I hired, like, my first proper employee to help me with my socials, like, uh, pretty much like a social digital manager. And when it was things like YouTube, I was like, "Chris Williamson, we need to be more like him." Your end cards, your content, the way things all connect together. See, an interest in paradox that I kind of created the other day, I call it the hater inspiration paradox and in essence, most of the people that probably hate on you or hate on me, if I use myself as an example, are often personal trainers or black belts in jujitsu. And the reason for that is they came to a fork in the roads where they could have been inspired by what I did or hate me for what I've done. And it's quite ironic that the majority of people that will criticize you could have all too easily taken the same path as you to get to success. It's very weird. They're not... The people that hate you the most aren't strangers. They're very similar to these kind of like two little forks. And they're... I'm sure that a lot of people back in the day would have seen what you'd done and could have had negati- negative things to say, but for me, I was like, "What he's doing successfully leaves clues." I was like, "I need to step my game up, even if I could just, you know, follow the spearhead, even if I could just get in your, your path of least resistance behind you, like a bird flying in formation." And, uh, yeah, it's good. When we, we kind of put up strengths, weaknesses of, you know, real basic who in the industry is killing it in these different social industries and your YouTube stuff is top level.