Why Nobody Seems To Care About Incels - Dr Andrew Thomas

Why Nobody Seems To Care About Incels - Dr Andrew Thomas

Modern WisdomOct 19, 20241h 26m

Chris Williamson (host), Dr Andrew Thomas (guest), Chris Williamson (host)

Parliamentary incel research and methodology (mental health, ideology, networking)Mental health as an intervention route versus purely ideological or security approachesStereotypes, media narratives, and the reality of incel demographics and subgroupsOnline misogynistic ideology (OMI), red‑pill/manosphere versus incel dynamicsEffects of labeling, rejection sensitivity, and forum culture (cope, crabs-in-a-bucket)Male mental health, therapy experiences, and gender/ideology in counselingMating market findings: body count preferences, demographic and fertility patterns

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Dr Andrew Thomas, Why Nobody Seems To Care About Incels - Dr Andrew Thomas explores inside Incels: Mental Health, Misogyny, and Misunderstood Male Suffering Dr. Andrew Thomas discusses his large-scale research on incels, arguing that mental health and ideology are stronger predictors of harm than online networking alone, and that these two factors reinforce each other in a damaging feedback loop.

Inside Incels: Mental Health, Misogyny, and Misunderstood Male Suffering

Dr. Andrew Thomas discusses his large-scale research on incels, arguing that mental health and ideology are stronger predictors of harm than online networking alone, and that these two factors reinforce each other in a damaging feedback loop.

He challenges popular stereotypes of incels as uniformly right‑wing, white, violent extremists, showing instead a diverse, often left‑leaning community with high rates of autism, rejection sensitivity, and perceived victimhood.

Thomas criticizes academic and media framings that dismiss mental‑health approaches as ‘excusing’ incels, and warns that labeling them as violent monsters entrenches their alienation and online radicalization.

The conversation broadens into wider issues of online misogyny, male mental health, therapy failures (especially for men with female therapists), shifting mating markets, body‑count norms, and demographic trends in fertility.

Key Takeaways

Target mental health to indirectly reduce harmful incel ideology.

Thomas’ study found mental health problems and incel ideology are both stronger predictors of harm than networking, and each worsens the other. ...

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Abandon one-dimensional stereotypes about incels; the community is heterogeneous.

Data show roughly a third of incels are non‑white, many are politically centrist or left‑leaning, and most are not violent. ...

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Stop framing empathy and support for ‘bad’ men as zero-sum.

Critiques that mental‑health approaches ‘validate incel victimhood’ assume empathy and resources are limited and that male suffering matters less than other groups’ suffering. ...

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Recognize how online forum culture can function as ‘reverse CBT.’

Concepts like ‘cope’ and the ‘crabs in a bucket’ dynamic harden all‑or‑nothing thinking and punish hopeful narratives, reinforcing hopelessness and disengagement. ...

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Be precise with terms like ‘violence’ and ‘misogyny’ to design effective policy.

Lumping together mass shootings, doxxing, and offensive posts under ‘incel violence’ obscures very different behaviors and risk profiles. ...

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Improve how therapy engages men, especially around dating, status, and ideology.

Men often report feeling invalidated by therapists—commonly female—who invoke concepts like ‘toxic masculinity’ or dismiss their mating struggles. ...

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Update assumptions about body count and sexual double standards.

Across multiple countries, both men and women prefer partners with moderate, not high, sexual histories, especially when past partners are clustered in youth and taper over time. ...

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Notable Quotes

The worse an incel’s mental health was, the more into the ideology they were—and the more they got into the ideology, the worse their mental health became.

Dr. Andrew Thomas

I want to stop misogyny full stop, and I want to stop suffering full stop. I don’t care so much about how you get there as long as you get there.

Dr. Andrew Thomas

If you label incels as violent monsters, you’re just feeding into the problem and validating their belief that society already hates them.

Dr. Andrew Thomas

Men come to have a conversation with me that they can’t have with anyone.

Dr. Andrew Thomas

People think there is a sexual double standard, but when you ask them about their own choices, they don’t actually apply it.

Dr. Andrew Thomas

Questions Answered in This Episode

If mental health support can reduce harmful ideology, how could governments and health systems practically deliver such interventions without public backlash for ‘helping’ incels?

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What alternative online or offline communities could realistically compete with incel forums and break the ‘crabs in a bucket’ dynamic?

He challenges popular stereotypes of incels as uniformly right‑wing, white, violent extremists, showing instead a diverse, often left‑leaning community with high rates of autism, rejection sensitivity, and perceived victimhood.

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How should researchers and journalists talk about incels and ‘online misogynistic ideology’ without either inflating the threat or minimizing genuine harm?

Thomas criticizes academic and media framings that dismiss mental‑health approaches as ‘excusing’ incels, and warns that labeling them as violent monsters entrenches their alienation and online radicalization.

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Given the distinct subgroups within incels, what screening or assessment tools would be needed to route individuals to healthcare versus counter‑extremism interventions?

The conversation broadens into wider issues of online misogyny, male mental health, therapy failures (especially for men with female therapists), shifting mating markets, body‑count norms, and demographic trends in fertility.

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What concrete changes should therapy training programs make so that male clients—especially those struggling in the mating market—feel understood rather than pathologized or ideologized?

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Transcript Preview

Chris Williamson

You spoke at the Houses of Parliament. What was that like?

Dr Andrew Thomas

I did, yeah. That was daunting and it was really hot, and I decided to wear my three-piece, which was, uh, not a- not a good idea. But no, that was, uh, a really interesting experience because we produced a piece of research that was funded by, uh, an arm's length body of the Home Office, uh, into incels. Uh, you very kindly shared that study when it was out to help us with recruitment, and that was one of the biggest incels studies to date. Um, and the Women & Equality Select Committee were really interested in it, and so they called myself, Joe Whittaker, and Will to come and talk to them about the report a little bit more, which was, uh, a fantastic experience. All recorded and online. I didn't realize how they- how they do these things these days. It's all sort of part of the public record. Um, but hopefully will kind of inform policy a little bit and- and dispel some of the myths around the incel phenomenon, I think, because, um, the primary research is what we need to be doing. That there's a lot of theoretical stuff out there that's a little bit bad. There's a lot of secondary data analysis, scraping forums and stuff that gives a little bit of a misleading picture. Uh, but it was fantastic to be able to talk about that research on that forum, and I'd love to go back and do more of it.

Chris Williamson

Should incels be looked at from a mental health perspective?

Dr Andrew Thomas

So (laughs) I think so, at least in part. So if people agree that incels are, quote unquote, "a problem" and that we should try to reduce the online misogynistic ideology, then my view is I don't really care how we do it. Let's just do it the best way and the most effective way. Um, and so in order to figure out what that is, we have to entertain lots of different options. Um, now what we did with our recent study was we tried to predict incel harm, and harm we- is defined quite loosely as a combination of misogynistic beliefs, the condoning of violence, and seeing feminism as the- as the enemy. Sorry, that was in ideology. Um, uh, of- of, uh, aggression and aggressive tendencies, so that's what we had for harm. And then we decided to see how we could predict that using a couple of different things. Uh, now my colleague, Joe Whittaker, who's a criminologist, he was really interested in the networking, how incels are talking to each other and whether that sort of ratchets things up and contributes to risk. Uh, I was interested in a mental health perspective primarily because I've taken a little bit of a left turn into that p- uh, particularly in male psychology. Uh, and of course we had Will Costello that your- your listeners will probably be very familiar with, uh, and he's sort of, uh, knee-deep constantly in incel ideology. And so we were able to run these three things kind of in parallel and say, "Well, which actually predicts harm the most?" And we found something really interesting. So the first thing is they all predicted harm in some, uh, degree. So they're- the- it's not just one thing, and that's fantastic because it means that there's multiple avenues for intervention. So if we look at incel networking and reduce that, then the risk of harm might go down. But we also found that, uh, incel ideology and mental health was about twice the predictive strength of networking. So those things are bigger. So it doesn't mean don't attack the networking, um, but it means that if you're- if you want good bang for your buck, looking at the mental health and the ideology, um, might be a good way to do it. But then the most fascinating thing of all was statistically we found a relationship between mental health and ideology in a sort of bidirectional back-and-forth way. So what that basically means is that the worst an inc- the worse of an incel's mental health was, the more into the ideology they were, but also the more they got into the ideology, the worse their mental health became. And so for me, because engaging with people about ideology and trying to change their beliefs about their ide- ideologies is notoriously difficult. It's one of the most difficult things you can do when it comes to mod- modifying behavior. But mental health, we have a- a- a much better track record of doing something about that. And so what that study kind of imple- implied to me is one avenue we could explore is looking at supporting the mental health, and that in and of itself is probably a worthy goal because people who are suffering with their mental health, they're humans. At the end of the day, you wanna help people from that and stop them suffering. But it kind of implies that that might reduce the ideology along with it, in which case you've got an interesting way of getting, uh, at the issue. So absolutely I think it's- it's not something that we should take off the table, but it's controversial, right? So if you look at the, um, the research evidence on just re-offending, I'm not saying that incels are criminals, but if you look at the forensic literature and you look at re-offending among those who are in prison, there was a in- really interesting study out a couple of years ago that compared giving mental health support, generic mental health support, to inmates versus sort of physical health support. And what they found is that the inmates that you give physical health support to, re-offending went up, whereas if you gave generic general mental health support to them, re-offending rates when they left went down.

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