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Deep Dive with Ali AbdaalHow To Find Your Purpose in Life with Vee Kativhu
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Vee Kativhu on Purpose, Goals, Failure and Empowering Students
- Vee describes growing up in Zimbabwe as a fatherless child separated from her mother, reuniting in England at about seven or eight, and being raised by a mother who let her lead and celebrated every win.
- She explains that being one of very few Black students at Oxford, and being told by a teacher that Oxford was not for people like her, led her to start her YouTube channel and the Empowered by Vee platform.
- On purpose, Vee advises tracing what you can't stay away from or would do for free, treating purpose as a season rather than a lifelong commitment, and finding your own passion before serving others.
- Vee and Ali compare views on goals, settling on a shared idea of input goals within your control, and Vee describes her pyramid method for breaking big goals into weekly tasks.
- Vee frames rejection as redirection and failure as information, and says she is open about money and brand deals, with her audience supportive of sponsorships.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasPurpose starts with what you can't stay away from.
Vee suggests asking what you would do for free or keep thinking about, then following that thread. She says purpose can last a few years and need not be a lifelong decision.
Put your own mask on first.
Ali offers the airplane analogy, and Vee agrees that you serve others best when you are at 100%. She says she took two months off the internet to write and study rather than show up depleted.
Goals should be adjustable and broken into systems.
Vee argues goals shouldn't lock you in, and her pyramid method breaks a year-long goal such as a book into monthly, weekly and daily work. Without a system, she says, a goal doesn't work.
Celebrate every stage, not just the outcome.
Vee splits goals like getting into, staying in, and graduating from a university and celebrates each with her family. She applies the same logic to her book, with a launch party days after release regardless of sales.
Rejection is redirection and failure is information.
Using a pebble-beach analogy, Vee says each failed attempt tells you where the prize isn't. She treats leaving her recent job as learning what she doesn't want.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesIf anything, there is strength in your story. There is strength in the journey you've walked, and be proud of it because if that's what you can do when you didn't have a lot, imagine when you have the resources. You're gonna be unstoppable.
— Vee Kativhu
You can't let your start determine your end. That is not how it works.
— Vee Kativhu
You should be selfish with your mental health, with what your needs are before you try and give to the world, because then you'll grow resentful.
— Vee Kativhu
Of course it's the journey. Destination's the bonus. The journey's the beauty of it. The journey is the fun part.
— Vee Kativhu
What would you wanna do for free if you didn't have to think about bills and all this other stuff? What would you happily dedicate your time to for free? And that thing, that thing is embedded in your purpose.
— Vee Kativhu
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SPEAKERS
Vee Kativhu
guestZimbabwe-born British YouTuber and author of “Empowered,” known for her education and access advocacy, with studies at Oxford and Harvard.
Ali Abdaal
hostProductivity-focused YouTuber, author, and podcast host of “Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal.”
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