The Curiosity Shop with Brené Brown and Adam GrantWhat Chimpanzees Reveal About How We Connect and Divide with Aaron Sandel | The Curiosity Shop
At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Ngogo chimps reveal how bonds form, fracture, and turn violent
- The episode uses the Ngogo chimpanzees (featured in Netflix’s *Chimp Empire*) to explore how social bonds form, fracture, and sometimes turn lethally violent, with parallels to human polarization and war.
- Dr. Aaron Sandel explains that Ngogo’s “western” and “central” groups were one community for decades, then polarized after subtle avoidance behaviors emerged around a leadership transition and the loss of socially connecting older males.
- The hosts probe whether an external enemy is necessary for group cohesion, and Sandel argues cohesion can preexist conflict even though intergroup threat can intensify bonding.
- The conversation reframes chimp dominance: the alpha is chiefly the top of a deference hierarchy rather than a true “leader,” and hierarchy may reduce everyday aggression by clarifying rank.
- Sandel discusses the ethics and psychology of witnessing chimp violence—advocating understanding over demonization—then broadens to chimp friendship, “brotherhood,” mother-offspring bonds, and why adolescent females disperse.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasYou don’t need a “them” to build an “us,” but conflict can amplify “us-ness.”
Sandel argues that within-group cohesion (especially in Ngogo’s western “neighborhood”) existed before the split, and while intergroup threat can intensify bonding, it isn’t required to create it. The Ngogo case highlights how communities can feel strong internally even without a clear external enemy—until conditions shift and an out-group identity crystallizes.
Community splits can begin when key social connectors disappear and power dynamics destabilize.
The western and central groups were one community for decades, with three interlinked neighborhoods. A cluster of deaths among older, socially well-connected males (likely disease) removed “bridge” individuals, coinciding with heightened dominance instability as Jackson rose—conditions that may have made avoidance and later polarization more likely.
Chimp “alphas” are about rank and deference more than leadership—and hierarchy can sometimes reduce violence.
In chimp societies, the alpha male is primarily the top of the dominance hierarchy (not necessarily a visionary leader). Sandel notes dominance hierarchies can reduce day-to-day aggression by clarifying who defers to whom, even though hierarchy also shapes access and pressure (including mating).
Out-group identities can override past relationships fast—and violence can lock in the new identity.
After the split (solidifying by 2018), chimps began treating former community members as outsiders; Errol’s killing became a stark marker that prior familiarity no longer protected individuals. The conversation highlights how perceived threat and retaliation cycles can blur offense vs. defense, resembling human escalation dynamics.
Choosing understanding over demonization can reveal the mechanisms that sustain conflict.
Sandel describes not demonizing individual “perpetrator” chimps as a way to preserve scientific understanding of causes and context; Adam Grant notes demonization can obstruct comprehension. The group discusses the human parallel: accountability matters, but dehumanization/demonization can block systemic insight.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesMy hot take is y- I don't think you need, uh, an enemy to build community. I don't think you need a them for an us.
— Dr. Aaron Sandel
I wonder to what extent we should focus our attention more on sort of the causes and the context and maybe less demonization of the individuals who are perpetrating these horrible things.
— Dr. Aaron Sandel
It was like childhood dream already not quite there, but it's pretty close. You know, one gene is off, but it's hard and boring.
— Dr. Aaron Sandel
So much of what we think of as human is not because we're human. Yes, it's important part of, of being human, but it's because we're apes.
— Dr. Aaron Sandel
It's like brotherhood, or it's almost like the closest thing I've seen in the animal kingdom to romantic love.
— Dr. Aaron Sandel
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