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The Gottman Doctors: Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married & Non-Cuddlers Have an Awful Sex Life!

Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. 0:00 Intro 02:43 What mission are you on & Why study love? 07:06 Studying traits of successful couples 09:03 Link between relationships & our health 12:51 What is the love lab? 15:41 The misconceptions about relationships 17:52 How to connect with your partner 27:44 What is the 'attuned' framework? 32:46 Why does typical couples therapy often fail? 35:17 The 7 Principles of a successful marriage 38:45 Do partners' dreams need to be aligned? 40:45 69% of our problems are not solvable 48:41 What to do when your partner wants to change you 51:19 The four horsemen 58:21 What is flooding? 01:03:31 What's a 'caretaker' in a relationship 01:06:31 Conflict misunderstandings 01:08:34 How to become a master at conflict resolution 01:11:41 How to repair/fix relationship issues 01:19:22 What have you learnt about the role of kissing 01:22:25 The role of sex in a relationship 01:29:58 Our society is becoming more sexless 01:32:18 Men struggling to figure out where they fit into society 01:37:50 What do women really want in a man? 01:39:59 Talking about sex makes your sex life better 01:44:30 Betrayal in a relationship 01:45:14 The traits that show a failing relationship 01:49:20 Asking your partner their dreams 01:51:28 Advice to give a relationship its best shot 01:53:21 The most interesting conclusions from the love lab 01:55:39 What does Julie mean to you, John 01:56:36 What does John mean to you, Julie 01:58:38 Why did you write this book 01:59:54 The Last Guest's question YouTube: You can purchase the Gottman’s new book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection’, here: https://amzn.to/3IUWpix Follow the Gottman’s: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3xcZA2z Instagram - https://bit.ly/4cC2UVl YouTube - https://bit.ly/4awssRS Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards Sponsors: ZOE: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO2024 for 10% off Linkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 This episode of The Diary Of A CEO was filmed at Gold Tree Studios, located in the heart of the Sunset Strip, West Hollywood, California

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March 28, 2024
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2h 6m
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The Diary of a CEO
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Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. 0:00 Intro 02:43 What mission are you on & Why study love? 07:06 Studying traits of successful couples 09:03 Link between relationships & our health 12:51 What is the love lab? 15:41 The misconceptions about relationships 17:52 How to connect with your partner 27:44 What is the 'attuned' framework? 32:46 Why does typical couples therapy often fail? 35:17 The 7 Principles of a successful marriage 38:45 Do partners' dreams need to be aligned? 40:45 69% of our problems are not solvable 48:41 What to do when your partner wants to change you 51:19 The four horsemen 58:21 What is flooding? 01:03:31 What's a 'caretaker' in a relationship 01:06:31 Conflict misunderstandings 01:08:34 How to become a master at conflict resolution 01:11:41 How to repair/fix relationship issues 01:19:22 What have you learnt about the role of kissing 01:22:25 The role of sex in a relationship 01:29:58 Our society is becoming more sexless 01:32:18 Men struggling to figure out where they fit into society 01:37:50 What do women really want in a man? 01:39:59 Talking about sex makes your sex life better 01:44:30 Betrayal in a relationship 01:45:14 The traits that show a failing relationship 01:49:20 Asking your partner their dreams 01:51:28 Advice to give a relationship its best shot 01:53:21 The most interesting conclusions from the love lab 01:55:39 What does Julie mean to you, John 01:56:36 What does John mean to you, Julie 01:58:38 Why did you write this book 01:59:54 The Last Guest's question YouTube: You can purchase the Gottman’s new book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection’, here: https://amzn.to/3IUWpix Follow the Gottman’s: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3xcZA2z Instagram - https://bit.ly/4cC2UVl YouTube - https://bit.ly/4awssRS Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards Sponsors: ZOE: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO2024 for 10% off Linkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 This episode of The Diary Of A CEO was filmed at Gold Tree Studios, located in the heart of the Sunset Strip, West Hollywood, California

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  • John Gottman

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  • Julie Gottman

    guest
  • Steven Bartlett

    host

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Diary of a CEO, featuring John Gottman and Julie Gottman, The Gottman Doctors: Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married & Non-Cuddlers Have an Awful Sex Life! explores love Lab Lessons: Fighting Right, Cuddling, And Lasting Marriage Science Drs. John and Julie Gottman share 50 years of groundbreaking research on what makes relationships thrive or fail, drawn from their famous 'Love Lab' studies of thousands of couples.

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