My Kid Is Nothing Like Me

"My kid is nothing like me." It’s a thought many parents have—but rarely say out loud. We all carry quiet expectations that our kids will reflect us in some way: our values, our temperament, maybe even our path. So what happens when they don’t? Dr. Becky sits down with Dr. Andrew Solomon, author of "Far from the Tree," to explore what it brings up for us when our kids are different from us—and how acceptance and curiosity can help us grow while deepening our connection with them. Learn more about the Good Inside app: https://bit.ly/4lnHxev Today’s episode is also brought to you by Sittercity. We talk a lot about support at Good Inside—emotional support, community, not having to figure out parenting on your own. Sometimes, you also need logistical support. Like, someone to watch your kid so you can make that meeting, run those errands, or finally catch up with a friend. That’s where Sittercity can be a really helpful tool. Their platform gives you a trusted way to find sitters who are kind, experienced, and show up when you need them. You can read reviews from other parents, message sitters directly, and set up interviews—all in one spot. If you’ve been meaning to find a sitter but didn’t know where to begin, this is going to make it feel a whole lot easier. Go to Sittercity.com and use the code “goodinside" for 25% off the annual or quarterly premium subscription plans. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Great Wolf Lodge. As a mom of three kids, I’m always on the lookout for family adventures that offer something for everyone (including myself!). That’s why Great Wolf Lodge is high on our list of future destinations! They offer a world of fun, all under one roof, including water slides, a lazy river, a massive wave pool, arcade games, mini golf and nightly dance parties! With 23 locations all across North America, and more on the way, chances are there’s a Great Wolf Lodge just a short drive away from you. You can save up to 40% off on any stay at Great Wolf Lodge from now through August 31st when you book at participating lodges. Just visit [GreatWolf.com](http://greatwolf.com/) and enter the promo code “GoodInside” – when you book.

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May 20, 202530mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: May 20, 2025
Duration: 30m
Channel: Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

"My kid is nothing like me." It’s a thought many parents have—but rarely say out loud. We all carry quiet expectations that our kids will reflect us in some way: our values, our temperament, maybe even our path. So what happens when they don’t? Dr. Becky sits down with Dr. Andrew Solomon, author of "Far from the Tree," to explore what it brings up for us when our kids are different from us—and how acceptance and curiosity can help us grow while deepening our connection with them. Learn more about the Good Inside app: https://bit.ly/4lnHxev Today’s episode is also brought to you by Sittercity. We talk a lot about support at Good Inside—emotional support, community, not having to figure out parenting on your own. Sometimes, you also need logistical support. Like, someone to watch your kid so you can make that meeting, run those errands, or finally catch up with a friend. That’s where Sittercity can be a really helpful tool. Their platform gives you a trusted way to find sitters who are kind, experienced, and show up when you need them. You can read reviews from other parents, message sitters directly, and set up interviews—all in one spot. If you’ve been meaning to find a sitter but didn’t know where to begin, this is going to make it feel a whole lot easier. Go to Sittercity.com and use the code “goodinside" for 25% off the annual or quarterly premium subscription plans. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Great Wolf Lodge. As a mom of three kids, I’m always on the lookout for family adventures that offer something for everyone (including myself!). That’s why Great Wolf Lodge is high on our list of future destinations! They offer a world of fun, all under one roof, including water slides, a lazy river, a massive wave pool, arcade games, mini golf and nightly dance parties! With 23 locations all across North America, and more on the way, chances are there’s a Great Wolf Lodge just a short drive away from you. You can save up to 40% off on any stay at Great Wolf Lodge from now through August 31st when you book at participating lodges. Just visit [GreatWolf.com](http://greatwolf.com/) and enter the promo code “GoodInside” – when you book.

SPEAKERS

Dr. Andrew Solomon
guest
Psychologist and author of *Far from the Tree*, known for work on identity, family, and difference.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky Kennedy and Dr. Andrew Solomon, My Kid Is Nothing Like Me explores parenting strangers: accepting children who differ from our fantasies Parents often unconsciously expect a child to mirror them, but parenting is a lifelong relationship with a distinct person whose needs may differ from what the parent wanted growing up.

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