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When You're Triggered by Mess

Raise your hand if scattered legos and piles of dirty clothes drive you up a wall. Well, you’re in the right place… and you’re not alone. Messiness is so triggering for so many of us. In today’s episode, Dr. Becky hears from three parents about what mess brings up for them. She walks through practical strategies to pause, understand, and reframe your relationships to mess. From calming mantras to a super-simple hack for getting your kids to help clean up, you’ll learn how to better manage mayhem both inside *and* outside. Remember: Your house is a mess. You are not a mess. You’re a good parent with a house full of life. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Eve Rodsky on How to Stop "Doing It All" - https://youtu.be/WdeiM4Jgw9I Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant" - https://youtu.be/DJXEYwgwNwY

Dr. Becky KennedyhostParent 1 (anonymous)guest
May 6, 202243mWatch on YouTube ↗

Episode Details

EPISODE INFO

Released
May 6, 2022
Duration
43m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Raise your hand if scattered legos and piles of dirty clothes drive you up a wall. Well, you’re in the right place… and you’re not alone. Messiness is so triggering for so many of us. In today’s episode, Dr. Becky hears from three parents about what mess brings up for them. She walks through practical strategies to pause, understand, and reframe your relationships to mess. From calming mantras to a super-simple hack for getting your kids to help clean up, you’ll learn how to better manage mayhem both inside *and* outside. Remember: Your house is a mess. You are not a mess. You’re a good parent with a house full of life. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Eve Rodsky on How to Stop "Doing It All" - https://youtu.be/WdeiM4Jgw9I Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant" - https://youtu.be/DJXEYwgwNwY

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Becky Kennedy

    host

    Clinical psychologist and founder/host of Good Inside, focused on parenting and child development.

  • Parent 1 (anonymous)

    guest

    Anonymous parent caller seeking advice about being triggered by mess at home.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky Kennedy and Dr. Becky Kennedy, When You're Triggered by Mess explores why mess triggers parents and how to respond calmly Mess often triggers parents not because of clutter itself, but because it activates intense self-beliefs like “I’m failing” or “I’m not enough.”

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