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Jay Shetty Podcast

Ed Mylett: Set Yourself Up For Success With These DAILY ROUTINES!

Today, we welcome back Ed Mylett. Dive into a transformation conversation, where we explore groundbreaking approaches to time management, personal growth, and emotional healing.

Ed MylettguestJay Shettyhost

Feb 19, 20241h 8mWatch on YouTube

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Rewiring the Emotional Home of Worry and Fear
Asked by Jay Shetty what he has been working on inside, Ed Mylett describes growing up as the son of an alcoholic and how it wired him toward worry and fear. He explains the idea of an emotional home and his choice to rewire toward peace and equanimity.
- •Mylett grew up worrying whether his father would come home safe, which wired a pattern of worry and fear
- •Everyone has an emotional home of three or four familiar emotions they keep returning to
- •He chose to rewire toward peace, equanimity and bliss at age 50-plus
- •Jay Shetty describes the shared goal as peace in the storm
- •Mylett found he had been creating chaos because it felt familiar
Anchoring Good States and Changing Familiar Patterns
Mylett explains how he physically anchors great emotional states so he can shift out of unwanted ones. Jay Shetty gives the example of anxiety triggered when a client's head hits the pillow, and the two discuss why internal change matters more than external conditions.
- •Wiring happens in highly emotional states and is anchored in the body
- •Mylett anchors good moments, like a beach walk with his daughter, with a physical trigger such as snapping his fingers
- •Praying on his knees now triggers a state of peace
- •He estimates he now lives in joy 75-80% of the time versus 5% before
- •Jay Shetty notes that a state like pillow anxiety needs to be re-anchored
- •The quality of life is the quality of emotions
The Mansion Story: You Want the Feeling, Not the Thing
Mylett recounts watching joyful construction workers at his dream home while he was angry and stressed. It led him to realize that people want the emotions they think things will bring, so many of his outcomes are now emotionally driven.
- •Mylett was building his first dream home while living in fear, anger and worry
- •Workers who had left their families were laughing, joyful and doing work they loved
- •He concluded they were winning at life while he was losing
- •People want how a mansion, relationship or physique will make them feel
- •The right emotional state can produce the physical results
Saying No and Auditing Whether a Dream Is Still Yours
Jay Shetty asks about Mylett's schedule. He says he has learned to say no as a recovering people pleaser, chooses things that bring contribution and joy, and audits whether goals are still his own, citing a Jim Carrey clip.
- •Mylett conflated love with significance because of his childhood
- •He chooses activities that are productive but also bring contribution and joy
- •He declined a TV show that doesn't serve his current dream
- •The Jim Carrey clip illustrates the courage of deciding you've had enough
- •Many people chase dreams that came from parents or friends and were never theirs
Wayne Dyer's Lesson: Confidence From Intention
After Jay Shetty raises energy management, Mylett says people are always making others feel something, so he focuses on intention. He tells how Wayne Dyer taught him to link confidence to intentions rather than abilities.
- •You are always making people feel something, so intention matters
- •Mylett met Wayne Dyer on a beach run in Maui and talked for an hour and a half
- •Dyer told him to link confidence to intentions, not abilities
- •Abilities and performance are fleeting, while intent to serve is a source of confidence
- •Jay Shetty says refining his intention is the top part of his morning routine
Seeds and Weeds: Purifying Intentions and Validating Them With Action
Jay Shetty describes intention as a seed or a weed and his process of awareness, stillness and extraction. Mylett explains that intentions must be validated with action and tells a story of extending grace to a noisy family in a restaurant.
- •A weed looks like a seed as it grows, but it can strangle the plant
- •Jay Shetty names ego, revenge, jealousy, envy and greed as weeds to pluck without self-hatred
- •Mylett says you validate your intention with action
- •He extended grace to a noisy family by praying for them and buying their dinner
- •He later learned the family had just left a grandmother's funeral, so you never know what someone carries
Dealing With Toxic People by Shifting the Room's Energy
Jay Shetty asks what to do when everyone around feels toxic. Mylett suggests reducing proximity, having trusted havens, and speaking truth in love, noting that you must make deposits in people before you challenge them.
- •Sometimes people must be weeded out, but often it is enough to reduce proximity
- •Mylett relies on two or three close friends who give him perspective
- •Greatness is walking into a room and shifting the energy rather than adapting to it
- •Truth said kindly vibrates at the highest frequency
- •You must make deposits of belief and love before making withdrawals by challenging someone
You're Qualified to Help Who You Used to Be
Mylett argues that people feel unqualified to influence others because of their mistakes. He tells how his father's sobriety began with someone who had also been an addict and says imperfection and vulnerability create connection.
- •Many people hold past sins and failures as weapons against themselves
- •Someone helped Mylett's father get sober, and the ripple reached millions
- •That helper was qualified because he had been an alcoholic himself
- •We are most qualified to help the person we used to be
- •Revealing imperfections connects you with people
Born for Something Great: Big Papa and Loving-Kindness Meditation
Mylett asks listeners to recall the person who made them feel special as a child and tells about his grandfather, Big Papa. Jay Shetty shares a loving-kindness meditation that relives a moment of deep love, and they discuss giving what you have experienced.
- •You were born to do something great, and one person likely made you feel that
- •Big Papa told Mylett he was his favorite and would do something great
- •Mylett urges honoring such people with the life you build
- •Jay Shetty describes a loving-kindness meditation using the five senses to relive a loving moment
- •It is hard to transfer love and belief you aren't experiencing yourself
Spirituality and Strategy: Validate Decisions With Work
Jay Shetty says spirituality and strategy have to go together. Mylett says a decision isn't real until it is validated with action, that his confidence comes from outworking others, and that Jay combines tranquility with intensity.
- •Spirituality and strategy, sincerity and structure must go together
- •You haven't made a decision until you take action to validate it
- •Mylett draws confidence from working hard and deserving to win
- •Love is a verb that requires evidence through action
- •Mylett admires Jay's mix of peace with a fire and work ethic
Bending Time With Mini Days and Short Meetings
Asked how he turns this into a plan, Mylett explains his belief that you can bend time. He splits his day into mini days with built-in evaluations at noon and 6 PM, and uses shorter meetings.
- •The 24-hour day is an archaic construct given modern technology
- •He runs three mini days: 6 AM to noon, noon to 6 PM, 6 PM to midnight
- •He evaluates what was done, learned and celebrated at each break
- •Meetings are often 28 or five minutes rather than an hour
- •Scarcity makes time more valuable and others treat it that way
The Rhythm of Success and Matching Meetings to Energy
Mylett describes an invisible rhythm and pace that successful people share, and gives the example of a meeting ending on time. Jay Shetty ties it to energy management, and both discuss scheduling by energy.
- •Mylett watched Alex Rodriguez end a meeting on time without being rude
- •Guardrails around time protect it, and people come to respect your time
- •Successful people have a rhythm and cadence that creates momentum
- •Jay Shetty limits himself to two podcasts a day because quality drops with a third
- •Mylett front-loads heavy meetings early in the week and schedules key meetings at peak energy
Build Structures Ahead of Growth and Audit Your Routines
The two discuss how success is intentionally designed and how each level requires new structure. Mylett says he trimmed a morning routine that had grown too long and warns against sentimental attachment to old habits.
- •Success and joy are intentionally designed rather than casual
- •Demands on time and energy increase as you climb, so structures must come first
- •Waiting to figure it out after growth stagnates progress
- •Mylett's long morning routine had grown to two hours
- •What got you here won't get you where you're going
Stop Procrastinating: The Identity Thermostat
Jay Shetty asks about people who know what to do but procrastinate. Mylett explains identity as a thermostat that cools results back to what you believe you deserve and says to raise it through proximity to people with a higher setting, and to act without needing to know everything.
- •Procrastination happens when results exceed your identity, so you turn the air conditioner on
- •Examples include love, wealth and fitness cooling back to a familiar setting
- •Proximity to people with a higher thermostat heats you up
- •Procrastination also comes from raising the readiness quota for what you need to know
- •Jay Shetty shares being pushed into his first talk when a speaker canceled
Root Identity in Who You Are, Not What You Do
Mylett says the athletes he works with usually need work on identity and confidence. He and Jay Shetty discuss how society ties value to doing words and why attaching identity to career or achievements is dangerous.
- •Mylett says he usually works with athletes on identity and confidence
- •Losing a career can leave people not knowing who they are
- •Jay Shetty notes people say I am followed by a doing word instead of a being word
- •Mylett says a deep identity rests on intentions, character and values
- •Being proud of achievements is fine, but linking identity to them is dangerous
Avoiding Burnout and the Three D's: Doubt, Discouragement, Delusion
Jay Shetty asks how to pursue all this without burning out. Mylett says he builds rest into his life and listens to his body. He explains the three D's an adversary would use, which are doubt, discouragement and delusion, and how he roots them out.
- •Mylett says he wants everything but doesn't need it right now
- •He slept 12 hours and uses grounding and recharging
- •He no longer fears that resting will lose him momentum, and calls that fear an identity insecurity
- •The three D's are doubt, discouragement and delusion
- •He identifies them when they show up and roots them out

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