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How To Build A STRONGER Relationship During DIFFICULT TIMES! | Radhi Devlukia Shetty & Jay Shetty

This week, Jay Shetty speaks with his wife, Radhi Devlukia-Shetty, to talk about the challenges and successes of their relationship on this very special 2-year anniversary episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty.

Jay ShettyhostRadhi Devlukia-Shettyguest
Feb 15, 202159mWatch on YouTube

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Jay and Radhi Shetty Reflect on Love, Compromise, and Growing Together

  1. Jay and Radhi say 2020 felt like a first year of marriage, as spending unusually large amounts of time together deepened understanding and led them to enjoy activities like workouts and hikes together.
  2. Jay argues that compromise leaves both people giving up something they want, so he prefers each person getting what they want and allowing space, while Radhi stresses clearly communicating what matters to you.
  3. They describe treating a partner's everyday requests as requests for love, pausing for a second thought instead of reacting to the first, and appreciating different strengths rather than trying to make a partner more like you.
  4. They openly discuss past doubts, including Jay worrying he might be taking Radhi away from her family and Radhi's fear-driven pattern of abandoning projects before she found her path with her recipes and YouTube channel.
  5. Jay introduces frameworks such as relationship seasons and multiple scorecards (physical, financial, mental, emotional, spiritual) to help partners see what each person carries, before the episode closes with lighthearted fill-in-the-blank and final five segments.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Your partner often reflects your own weaknesses

Radhi says petty arguments often hit a sore point, usually her stubbornness, because a partner knows you so well. Examining your own reaction can matter as much as blaming the other person.

Amplify a partner's strengths instead of dampening them

Jay realized he doesn't want Radhi to be like him because he loves her for being different, such as her spontaneity. Radhi adds that partners can still help each other tighten up their weaker areas.

Treat everyday requests as requests for love

Jay says that when he trusts Radhi loves him, he reads even demanding requests as her asking for love in that moment. He notes the first thought is often frustration, and it is the second thought that matters.

Compromise can breed bitterness; space can bring closeness

Jay says giving up what you want all the time leads to resentment, and forcing togetherness can push people further apart. Radhi adds that you should clearly say what is important to you, since people can't read your mind.

Relationships move through seasons and stages

Drawing on a book on the four seasons of marriage and his own five life cycles, Jay says not every phase can be summer. He describes their New York years as a building phase when little quality time was possible.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

I think what we do in relationships is we dampen our partner's strengths instead of amplifying them.

— Jay Shetty

You actually end up moving further away by forcing yourself to be together, when actually you could move closer together by allowing yourselves to have that space.

— Jay Shetty

The first thought is never the thought that has it all figured out. It's the second thought.

— Jay Shetty

It's taking that time to have that second thought, rather than reacting to the first.

— Radhi Devlukia-Shetty

You expect the other person to live how you live and how you have your relationships or how you value things, and it's an unfair expectation because people have been through so many different things in life.

— Radhi Devlukia-Shetty

Read the available transcript
Hardest parts of loveHow 2020 changed their marriageRethinking compromiseQuality versus quantity timeSeasons and stages of a relationshipDoubt, vulnerability, and personal growthNot keeping score in relationships

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  • Jay Shetty

    host

    Podcast host and author of "Think Like a Monk."

  • Radhi Devlukia-Shetty

    guest

    Wellness and lifestyle creator, and Jay Shetty’s spouse and featured guest on the episode.

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